Sharing some red flags

[LoveNigarmostyle 164]

When all is said and done, YOU have proven to all of us that with God's grace and faith, one can overcome anything life can throw at us, from trauma, pain, differences, infidelity, red flags and etc.

You are an inspiration to all of us. God bless and may your decisions be a gateway to a new, happy and wonderful beginning for your entire family.

My prayers will always be with you and for your happiness. Good luck!

[4theloveofhenry 8]

MAO I have been praying for you in every single prayer and I am soo happy to see this turn around in things. I am most happy to see your husband show this outpouring of love and honesty to you. I know it took this horrible situation to bring out the open and honest communication but I am soo glad it has begun for you guys. The healing can finally start to begin.

I also loved how your husband said he loved you for the spiritual minded woman you are and the good mother you are. I thought that was so beautiful becuase that is the best foundation for love. Think of the three fold cord. I love it!

I believe that things will look up from here, especially becuase your husband has taken the proper steps. Seeing the elders first, then second going over to apologize to the woman and her family was very important. I know it may have appeared bad and have hurt you to see it, it was very beneficial becuase remember how the isrealites were told if they did somthing to another man, after they had confessed their wrongdoing more was needed before the sinner could be forgiven. Righting the wrong against the victim was also necessary to gain forgiveness from Jehovah. So your husband is actually doing somthing that will help him get forgiveness from Jehovah and with forgiveness come future blessings that will also extend to your family.

I am sooo happy! I feel like Mrs Klumps. Hercules, Hercules, Hercules!! I am just so thrilled you guys will work it out.Your story will certainly be one to show others the value of honesty, forgiveness, and love. I love it!

[LoveNigarmostyle 164]

I am sooo happy! I feel like Mrs Klumps. Hercules, Hercules, Hercules!! I am just so thrilled you guys will work it out. Your story will certainly be one to show others the value of honesty, forgiveness, and love. I love it!

AMEN! WELL SAID4theloveofhenry.

[P and G 5]

MAO thank you for allowing us to follow and learn from your story. Truly praying for God's best for you, your husband and the entire family.

[patient2010 93]

Although I'm not from Nairaland!

I had to chuckle at this one!!!! lol

[MAO36 30]

MAO thank you for allowing us to follow and learn from your story. Truly praying for God's best for you, your husband and the entire family.

Hello pammyw.

Under ordinary circumstances i would not be posting our private life on a forum but I know so many people are going into this blindly and I felt it was important to share my story. So far things are going very well after the huge storm I passed thru.

Thank you for posting!

[MAO36 30]

MAO I have been praying for you in every single prayer and I am soo happy to see this turn around in things. I am most happy to see your husband show this outpouring of love and honesty to you. I know it took this horrible situation to bring out the open and honest communication but I am soo glad it has begun for you guys. The healing can finally start to begin.

I also loved how your husband said he loved you for the spiritual minded woman you are and the good mother you are. I thought that was so beautiful becuase that is the best foundation for love. Think of the three fold cord. I love it!

I believe that things will look up from here, especially becuase your husband has taken the proper steps. Seeing the elders first, then second going over to apologize to the woman and her family was very important. I know it may have appeared bad and have hurt you to see it, it was very beneficial becuase remember how the isrealites were told if they did somthing to another man, after they had confessed their wrongdoing more was needed before the sinner could be forgiven. Righting the wrong against the victim was also necessary to gain forgiveness from Jehovah. So your husband is actually doing somthing that will help him get forgiveness from Jehovah and with forgiveness come future blessings that will also extend to your family.

I am sooo happy! I feel like Mrs Klumps. Hercules, Hercules, Hercules!! I am just so thrilled you guys will work it out.Your story will certainly be one to show others the value of honesty, forgiveness, and love. I love it!

Dee! You have been very instrumental in my decision making. You my girl are a very amazing woman. By now you have had your baby! Congrats on your newborn and please email me to let us know things went well with your C-section. Thanks so much for ALWAYS incorporating the scriptures. agape

[MAO36 30]

When all is said and done, YOU have proven to all of us that with God's grace and faith, one can overcome anything life can throw at us, from trauma, pain, differences, infidelity, red flags and etc.

You are an inspiration to all of us. God bless and may your decisions be a gateway to a new, happy and wonderful beginning for your entire family.

My prayers will always be with you and for your happiness. Good luck!

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LoveNigarmostyle!

You were the one that inspired me to start the thread. Out of love and concern for the VJ members, you thought someone could learn a thing a two from my story. No regrets here on my part for sharing as you requested. Please keep in touch. Things are going very well and I pray that it continues to go this way.

[MAO36 30]

My dear friend Mao36

I am so lost for words right now.....I cant even begin to imagine the pain that you are feeling.....but I felt the need to write you and tell you that you are one strong women to be able to forgive in such a large way......I am sure as Jehovah hates a divorcing that he will certinlay be with you and bless you not only for your your forgivness but the strength that it takes to forgive such an act......I only pray that He has learned from the deep overwhelming hurt he has caused to so many people......As for you....Jehovah will be with you and bless all your efforts......You take care of yourself....hope to talk to you soon.......

Hello Moon68!

You've been a stranger to me... lol but i understand. Efiado told me she was keeping you up to date. Thank you, thank you, thank you for the encouraging words. I'm really not that strong, I have been relying.... heavily on Jehovah God for wisdom and understanding. I know when I married this man I really didnt know him from Adam, How could I? considering the way we met. All i know is...... it was my choice to go this route and i would have been a fool to think this would be wedded bliss. I certainly wasnt expecting this though. All in all, he is getting a second chance to be the man I thought he was while in africa. This will be work in progress. Love ya!

MAO!

It's good you followed your heart and I hope you experience a new beginning once more! We wish you God's blessings as you turn over a new leaf

Thank you Shefellfrom heaven!

I am looking forward to this new leaf. By the way you're picture is gorgeous.! Thanks for posting!

WOW MAO! I have been following this thread. I admire your courage and wish you the very very best as you give your marriage another go. May God bless your home and heal your heart. His grace is sufficient for you!

Mrs O!

Thank you for posting and thank you for your well wishes!

[MAO36 30]

MAO!!! Wow!

I have to say that you are a strong woman to be able to accept this man back into your life after all he has put you and your kids through.

It takes a woman of strength, compassion, forgiveness and overall a solid, unwavering foundation in faith and God to do this.

Good luck to you.

ZeeeBee!

Girl, I don't know if it's strength on my part at all. I think it's more of the last part, the unwavering foundation of faith in God. I never knew i would be in this situation but I did know i did not go into this marriage under normal circumstances. In the sense that the man is here and you both are able to court/date the right way and get to know one another so as to make a good informed decision. We met on the net so the stakes were very high for something to go wrong and unfortunately it did. I hope he's learned his lesson and continues to rebuild his faith in the scriptures. He had a strong spiritual foundation at one time and his family members are so solid in their faith. I think this played a HUGE part in my forgiveness, knowing where he came from and where he could get back to with God's help. There is no more room for infidelity! This is his first and last chance of forgiveness in this area. Thank you for posting! You seem like a very strong and solid woman yourself!

[reeses16 8]

MAO, thank you very much for starting this thread. I am so happy to hear that you and your hubby are trying to make things work. I think you, Dee, Sam, and many of the others that have posted gave good solid advice. Thank you all for sharing these very personal stories....and for writing those looooong posts! : ) I'm sure you all could have been doing something else, spending time with your family, etc. - your words were priceless.

I've been raised to believe that if someone cheats on you, you leave them. I guess thats fine if you dating...but I could never reconcile that with marriage and "'till death do us part". I used to think that people stay with a person who was unfaithful because of weakness- they're afraid they won't find anyone else. But I think this thread has really shown me that staying can be a mark of strength, commitment, and unconditional love.

[shefellfromheaven 18]

Asante Sana !(Thank You)

Thank you and all others for sharing real personal stories in a friendly and caring way.

Thank you Shefellfrom heaven!

I am looking forward to this new leaf. By the way you're picture is gorgeous.! Thanks for posting!

Edited May 25, 2011 by shefellfromheaven

[MAO36 30]

MAO, thank you very much for starting this thread. I am so happy to hear that you and your hubby are trying to make things work. I think you, Dee, Sam, and many of the others that have posted gave good solid advice. Thank you all for sharing these very personal stories....and for writing those looooong posts! : ) I'm sure you all could have been doing something else, spending time with your family, etc. - your words were priceless.

I've been raised to believe that if someone cheats on you, you leave them. I guess thats fine if you dating...but I could never reconcile that with marriage and "'till death do us part". I used to think that people stay with a person who was unfaithful because of weakness- they're afraid they won't find anyone else. But I think this thread has really shown me that staying can be a mark of strength, commitment, and unconditional love.

Reeses16!

How are you! I am very happy that you could see a different side of things. There are some cases where it might be a sign of weakness. I think those cases are when changes aren't implemented, new expectations aren't put on the forefront and when the man has no desire to change and you continue on with the pattern knowing this. I have discussed everything that needs to change between my husband and me. We've discussed his flaws and mine. This is a very, very emotional time in our marriage but both parties have to agree whole-heartedly to want to make things better. The husband who committed adultery has to work very diligently to right this wrong. For me, I will remain calm and try not to let my emotions overtake me. Girl....I'm praying about it all the time. In the end if he does not change and I still stay with him, knowing he will not change, then it will be a sign of weakness on my part. BUT I promise all of you, if he is unwilling to become a better person for God and his family, then it would be time for me to leave, forever. So far he has done well. His infidelity is on my mind all the time, believe me! but I still manage to look ahead.. arrrghhh

Thank you for posting!

[Tamikuti7 0]

All I can say is wow. This wow is not judgmental, nor is it hasty. It is a wow of disbelief,wonder,and admiration all rolled into one. God bless you and your family. I mean that from the bottom(and the top,and sides) of my heart.

[MAO36 30]

All I can say is wow. This wow is not judgmental, nor is it hasty. It is a wow of disbelief,wonder,and admiration all rolled into one. God bless you and your family. I mean that from the bottom(and the top,and sides) of my heart.

WHAT_DA!

Thanks for posting! I hear you.... I really do! Preciate the blessings!

Take cae!