Having to leave tomorrow

[Jasman0717 9]

I understand how you feel. I just about died having to get on that plane to come home last March. Hopefully your petiton will go quickly and you can be together.

[irishgirl73 0]

I agree with all of you here that it's a horrible feeling, and my goes out to all of you! I am currently apart from my fiance as well...and we all know how ####### this feelng is.

This is my only advice: I am not a pollyanna sort, but at the same time, I do try to pull some benefit out of the time apart....if only to make the time go by faster! I have taken to working all sorts of hours....busying myself with projects...goals that I want accomplished before D gets back here. That way, I can minimize the time I spend wallowing.

Now, it doesn't take ALL the pain away...but it certainly keeps my mind busy. We all know what it's like when we're waiting for time to go by...well, how about in the meantime using that time to your own advantage? As I said, I work crazy hours...but I also know that now is the time to do so...because when D gets here, I'm going to be busy with OUR life together as well as having to juggle job/other responsibilities/etc. So as much as I am heartsick & heartbroken that he's not here, I still think in the back of my head 'enjoy the freetime now, because things are going to change real soon'

I do hope this helps at least one person!

Good luck to all of us! And a big (((((HUG)))))) to natashabrenda & marriedmylove!!!

I too have been trying my best to enjoy my "alone time", doing things that I don't plan on doing when he gets here-like work two jobs for instance

I agree with you 100% you have to try and find the positives in the situation, even though most of the time it is impossible. I tell myself that when we are together-there will be NOTHING that we can't conquer. This process definetly gives you a thicker skin so to speak. I say let's get the bad times out of the way now

[ChristinaM 0]

I have spent less than two months away from my husband since we met (and not a day since we have been married), and those six weeks were hard enough. I feel for you so much.

*Hugs for EVERYONE who isn't with their loved one*

[babybunny 2]

((((((((((( hugggggg))))))))))

hey cheer up.. look forward to the REUNION...

thats what keeps me focused!!!!!!

[Peter Miami 0]

Good luck on your trip.

[mikeize 0]

That certainly sucks, but I agree with shonjaved

You have to stick it out through those six months, but then you'll have a lifetime together. And let me tell you- that time apart will pay off come reunification time! Seriously, it really makes you both realize how much you love and need each other. Stay strong, it will be over soon. My wife and I were apart for three months (felt like eternity), but since then we haven't spent more than 12 hours apart in 3 years!

-mike

[VetsWife328 7]

Being apart from each other would be hard enough,but we also have to deal with so many financial problems right now.

His "buddy" he's working with and whom he's been staying with told us on Valentines Day that Jim needs to move out within 3 weeks.But since the house my fiances "friend" lives in is not his but he's only renting it ,he wont give us a written Statement about Jim always paying his rent on time and about the 500$ Pet Deposit Jim had to make for our dog,

We actually found a wonderful apartment and are approved BUT since Jim was in the MIlitary until August of last year he doesn't have a rental history on his credit report and that guy he was staying with would have been the only reference.Well now the Security Deposit we have to make for the apartment jumped up to 650$ due to no rental history...............

And the bad thing is that Jim has to pay for it all the day he picks up the key...........so that would have been on Wednesday,tomorrow.

We are waiting for his Tax refund from MN and his VA check but all that wont come in until the end of next week.

So now we may not even get the apartment and Jim may not have a place to stay..............

And of course we wont get the old Pet Deposit from Jerk back..................

Leaving is hard enough,but having to leave him in a situation like that is just horrible.

Nat

[chocolaterie 0]

huggggles!

[Married_my_love 0]

The distance is really difficult, but also offers an opportunity for personal and relationship growth. Those of us that have to go through this understand the phrase "you don't know what you've got until it's gone". That separation reminds us of our feelings and draws us closer together. We also appreciate the time we have together and when we are reunited, we always remember what it was like to be apart. It is really difficult but the foundation of the relationship is solidified in those moments of heartache.

Cherish the time you have together and never forget how it felt to have to say goodbye.....that will help you get through things when times are difficult. It's a great thing to feel that terrible, because you know you love that much. All my best and a big hug.

awww where were you yesterday while I was driving alone down the 401 (away from my hubby) all sad and sumpy?!

You put this struggle into words very eloquently.

[rebeccajo 14]

Oh jeez. I was NEVER good at the 'apart' thing. And we were very, very blessed really. We spent very little time apart compared to soooooooo many others on this board, as you can see by my signature below.

I would always be so mad at myself for being sad during those last few days together. I tried to be strong and laugh as much as possible, but I was lousy at it. Then after he left, each time I had a 3 hour drive home. I would not even have the radio on - just drive down the road alone and allowed myself to wallow in it, away from everybody. I also allowed myself to feel the stabbing pain in the immediate days following. I had to - it was cleansing.

I NEVER want to forget what that was like. We are married and together now. But I'm a middle-aged woman with plenty of 'relationship histories'. I know there will probably be days in the future when he will make me very very angry. I hope like hell that if and when that day comes, I can reach back down inside myself and remember the separation and the aloneness, and that it will still my tongue and settle my temper.

[VetsWife328 7]

THANK YOU for your support.At least all of you know how I feel since we all are sitting in the same boat.

Let me share the good news with you,

my Hun just called about the money we have to come up with and guess what-

his Company (GOD BLESS YOU GUYS!!!!!) is giving us a loan for the entire 650$ we have to come up with in Deposits to get our apartment!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So in other words-

WE GOT IT!!!!!!!!!! And Jim can move in on Thursday!

God has once again answered my prayers.THANK YOU LORD!

Now we just have to get through the K1 process and my son and I can come home.

Again,thank you all for your kind and understanding replies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Natasha

[Patches 0]

My heart goes out to you...i know how that feeling is...Ive been there many times...im one of the more lucky ones...he is able right now to come in see me often...but it still doesnt make it easy when your heart an soul has to leave ya...or you have to leave them...i wish there was a quick cure for it...like my other half always tells me before he leaves...remenber as he touches my head...i am in there...as he touches my heart....remenber i am in there...as you are in mine...there words from his heart and soul...so i hold on to them...just like u have to hold on to yours...as so doesnt he...you may not be together but apart of u is still always together

[meddykomp 0]

awww where were you yesterday while I was driving alone down the 401 (away from my hubby) all sad and sumpy?!

You put this struggle into words very eloquently.

Ack, had I known you would have been making that drive I would have asked to meet for dinner or something. My husband and I met in Canada for 5 days and last night I wasnt far at all from the 401. This morning I dropped my husband off at the train station so that he could return to Toronto for his flight back to Sweden. Sometimes I dont know if seeing eachother makes it easier or not because the leaving him at train stations and airports is sooooo hard!

[arwensun1965 0]

A big hugs we all know what you are going through that is what makes this site soooo good.

Janice

[ladybird216 2]

((((((HUGS))))))) to you.....my heart goes out to you. I can remember the airport goodbyes (hated Denver Airport ) but there is light at the end of the tunnel....think of your future together and the wonderful reunion when you get here with your Visa and can stay just as long as you want!!!!

Best wishes to you

Jen