getting married again after doing 2 visas before

[TracyTN 237]

Total hypocrisy, and it came in classic covert aggression form:

The callousness here is your attack on the OP. In your attack he is not treated as a human with feelings. He was given zero courtesy. The important thing is to put one's-self in the judgement seat and try to get people on the defensive by manufacturing "crimes" out of ordinary language.

These attacks often begin with a form of denial by the attacker - the "I'm sorry, but..." denial. The attacker denies that they are attacking by starting off this way.

This particular page has a lot of this pretentious uber-policing. The pretense is acting as the hero for the poor abused non-members who are not here, not reading this, but treating the member who is here and who is reading it as if he were a monster.

The OP was not the one who referred to wives as 'ones', if you'll re-read the thread. Post number 7 in particular, as well as posts 24 and 25. To my mind, that was the matter resolved.

But if you want to continue to try and have an argument where there isn't one, that's your right.

[rlogan 2,036]

The OP was not the one who referred to wives as 'ones', if you'll re-read the thread. Post number 7 in particular, as well as posts 24 and 25. To my mind, that was the matter resolved.

I quoted you and this response is an irrelevant evasion. It was your response to uversman, true enough, which has nothing whatsoever to do with what you said to him.

You were not elected by anyone here to act as a policeman or judge demanding than nobody can refer to a previous relationship as the "first one", "second one", or "third one".

It isn't callous at all, and is a matter of completely ordinary speech. But we have these would-be self-appointed judges lurking about waiting to attack other people for such imaginary crimes, derailing threads and trying to put others down.

But if you want to continue to try and have an argument where there isn't one, that's your right.

Dispensing my "rights". Heh. You think very highly of yourself.

[TracyTN 237]

Honestly I can't even follow what you're talking about, so I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree about whatever it is.