Surprise ... ?????!!!!

[florinaRO 5]

Got NOA2 after a long hell and I finally got an interview date. Our previous lawyer (who we fired bcz he did nothing and delayed our petition 1 month) told us that would be safer if my fiance will come at the interview. Today , 2 weeks before the interview our current lawyer warned us that if my fiance will show up with me at the interview we might get denied because they will come up with the idea: "Why u don't get married here and process an immigrant visa ?".

I AM VERY CONFUSED NOW ....?!

If this is the case than why is the K1 for ? Everybody should go to the fiance(e)'s home country and get married , right ?

If this will happen than we have to wait another year apart ? Indeed, my fiance visited me 6 times in 10 months because he cannot live without me and he spent a lot to see me and YES he has money for ME otherwise he wouldn't be able to "support" me as they request it .

There are some contradictions here:

• if he CAN come (financially) to met me than why we don't get married here . ?????
• if he wouldn't visited me they will deny us because we have no proofs of ongoing relationship ?????

Still v confused ..... help !

[Blob18 111]

Got NOA2 after a long hell and I finally got an interview date. Our previous lawyer (who we fired bcz he did nothing and delayed our petition 1 month) told us that would be safer if my fiance will come at the interview. Today , 2 weeks before the interview our current lawyer warned us that if my fiance will show up with me at the interview we might get denied because they will come up with the idea: "Why u don't get married here and process an immigrant visa ?".

I AM VERY CONFUSED NOW ....?!

If this is the case than why is the K1 for ? Everybody should go to the fiance(e)'s home country and get married , right ?

If this will happen than we have to wait another year apart ? Indeed, my fiance visited me 6 times in 10 months because he cannot live without me and he spent a lot to see me and YES he has money for ME otherwise he wouldn't be able to "support" me as they request it .

There are some contradictions here:

• if he CAN come (financially) to met me than why we don't get married here . ?????
• if he wouldn't visited me they will deny us because we have no proofs of ongoing relationship ?????

Still v confused ..... help !

You're lawyer is an idiot. Your fiance can go to the interview and everything will be fine. If I was asked that question I would say "Because I don't want to live apart from my wife".

That is why they have the K-1 and CR/IR1, for people to make choices, they can't deny you because you went with Choice A over Choice B when both are acceptable and implemented for a reason.

[the governor 0]

our current lawyer warned us that if my fiance will show up with me at the interview we might get denied because they will come up with the idea: "Why u don't get married here and process an immigrant visa ?".

I have never heard of such a thing. That doesn't really make much sense to me. I was at my fiance's interview because I was in country at the time.

You do need proof of an ongoing relationship anyway though....pics/chats/phone records etc.

best of luck with everything

Edited April 13, 2011 by the governor

[florinaRO 5]

My lawyer was actually excellent so far . ..

He told us he actually had a case denial with that reason . Weird ....

[turveydrop 4]

If this stupid idea could appear in a lawyer's head, why not in the head of a consular employee as well?

[Ironman140 45]

My lawyer was actually excellent so far . ..

He told us he actually had a case denial with that reason . Weird ....

I think you need to fire this lawyer ., he's worse then the first one ... If he can afford to be there it can only help

[* Kristin * 49]

Awful lawyer!

He just want to make more money off you!

Got NOA2 after a long hell and I finally got an interview date. Our previous lawyer (who we fired bcz he did nothing and delayed our petition 1 month) told us that would be safer if my fiance will come at the interview. Today , 2 weeks before the interview our current lawyer warned us that if my fiance will show up with me at the interview we might get denied because they will come up with the idea: "Why u don't get married here and process an immigrant visa ?".

I AM VERY CONFUSED NOW ....?!

If this is the case than why is the K1 for ? Everybody should go to the fiance(e)'s home country and get married , right ?

If this will happen than we have to wait another year apart ? Indeed, my fiance visited me 6 times in 10 months because he cannot live without me and he spent a lot to see me and YES he has money for ME otherwise he wouldn't be able to "support" me as they request it .

There are some contradictions here:

• if he CAN come (financially) to met me than why we don't get married here . ?????
• if he wouldn't visited me they will deny us because we have no proofs of ongoing relationship ?????

Still v confused ..... help !

[gretchen_darren 67]

Simple simple answer.... we waited to wiat to get to know each other better. We want to see how we are together when living in his country versus us living in two separate places apart. we love each other, but we want to be sure before getting married we are make the right choice together. the simplest answer is, Both my finace and I want to make sure I can take leaving my country to go live with my fiance in the new country. Or will I miss my friends, family, and others too much wishing to return. The K1 is the get to know you phase. It allows both of you to see each other and date in the pther person's country while determining the relationship. Sometimes things are not always as they seem after going to live with a person. the question should be why get married? Makes no sense until you have seen both places and you have yet to see your finace's place or relatives....

[katie & sifa 25]

Simple simple answer.... we waited to wiat to get to know each other better. We want to see how we are together when living in his country versus us living in two separate places apart. we love each other, but we want to be sure before getting married we are make the right choice together. the simplest answer is, Both my finace and I want to make sure I can take leaving my country to go live with my fiance in the new country. Or will I miss my friends, family, and others too much wishing to return. The K1 is the get to know you phase. It allows both of you to see each other and date in the pther person's country while determining the relationship. Sometimes things are not always as they seem after going to live with a person. the question should be why get married? Makes no sense until you have seen both places and you have yet to see your finace's place or relatives....

I actually wouldn't say this if asked...the K1 is not supposed to be a "get to know you" visa, it's a visa for those who are going to get married. I know what you are saying here, and I know that in reality a lot of people get the visa for this very purpose, but I would NOT say this to a CO. I think this could easily lead to denial because it comes across as you aren't sure if you want to get married.

For us, this would have been simple (husband has very little family in Kenya, I am very close to my family here in the US and it would be impossible for some of them to travel to Kenya for a wedding) but for others they choose K1 for varying reasons. I think what Blob18 said is appropriate - that you don't want to start married life apart and would rather be separated from fiancee than wife. I think this question would be pretty rare though...I wouldn't worry about it too awful much.

For what it's worth, lots of people on here (including me) went to our fiance(e)s interview and were granted the visa. I think the CO actually saw me being there as a major plus in our interview. Maybe check with other Romanian couples to see if fiances are allowed in, how it is viewed if they go to the interview w/beneficiary, etc?

[florinaRO 5]

Simple simple answer.... we waited to wiat to get to know each other better. We want to see how we are together when living in his country versus us living in two separate places apart. we love each other, but we want to be sure before getting married we are make the right choice together. the simplest answer is, Both my finace and I want to make sure I can take leaving my country to go live with my fiance in the new country. Or will I miss my friends, family, and others too much wishing to return. The K1 is the get to know you phase. It allows both of you to see each other and date in the pther person's country while determining the relationship. Sometimes things are not always as they seem after going to live with a person. the question should be why get married? Makes no sense until you have seen both places and you have yet to see your finace's place or relatives....

Thank you for the response but this doesn't apply to us because :

I've been in US for 5 years prior to this and we lived together already 2 years . Anw it should be our choice for how long we should have date and the idea is he proposed NOW (well 9 months ago) so we are engaged NOW.

[florinaRO 5]

I actually wouldn't say this if asked...the K1 is not supposed to be a "get to know you" visa, it's a visa for those who are going to get married. I know what you are saying here, and I know that in reality a lot of people get the visa for this very purpose, but I would NOT say this to a CO. I think this could easily lead to denial because it comes across as you aren't sure if you want to get married.

For us, this would have been simple (husband has very little family in Kenya, I am very close to my family here in the US and it would be impossible for some of them to travel to Kenya for a wedding) but for others they choose K1 for varying reasons. I think what Blob18 said is appropriate - that you don't want to start married life apart and would rather be separated from fiancee than wife. I think this question would be pretty rare though...I wouldn't worry about it too awful much.

For what it's worth, lots of people on here (including me) went to our fiance(e)s interview and were granted the visa. I think the CO actually saw me being there as a major plus in our interview. Maybe check with other Romanian couples to see if fiances are allowed in, how it is viewed if they go to the interview w/beneficiary, etc?

This is exactly my point ! At the moment I am waiting for 2 couples who have interviews these days both WITH the fiance , will see ...

And the TRUTH is actually the best answer : I am planning to get married there because my fiance has whole family there and I have here just my mom ( to not count all our friends). Honestly I lost most of the contacts with my home country.

[katie & sifa 25]

This is exactly my point ! At the moment I am waiting for 2 couples who have interviews these days both WITH the fiance , will see ...

And the TRUTH is actually the best answer : I am planning to get married there because my fiance has whole family there and I have here just my mom ( to not count all our friends). Honestly I lost most of the contacts with my home country.

Perfect answer then. Since you lived in the US for a significant amount of time I think it would be perfectly fine to say that you want to marry here with all of your friends, his family, etc. I think a lot of times the key to the interview is confidence and being prepared. If you know what you'll say in response to this question, then you won't trip up if it's asked during the interview.

Good luck at the interview - I'm sure it will go smoothly! And like I said...I personally think it helps with the USC fiance(e) is there - shows proof of ongoing relationship for sure!

[Channah&Aaron 51]

1. Fire Laywer

2. Having your fiance with you during the interview will not make them think "why not getting married here?". It's the decision you and your fiance made, it's none of their business where you guys wanna get married . What they will think is, is how much he loves you to fly all the way over and support you during your interview

Don't be stressed out!! There is nothing to be stressed out, see this all as a positve journey and you guys will do well!! Good luck

Edited April 14, 2011 by Channah&Aaron

[Samoray 165]

Got NOA2 after a long hell and I finally got an interview date. Our previous lawyer (who we fired bcz he did nothing and delayed our petition 1 month) told us that would be safer if my fiance will come at the interview. Today , 2 weeks before the interview our current lawyer warned us that if my fiance will show up with me at the interview we might get denied because they will come up with the idea: "Why u don't get married here and process an immigrant visa ?".

I AM VERY CONFUSED NOW ....?!

If this is the case than why is the K1 for ? Everybody should go to the fiance(e)'s home country and get married , right ?

If this will happen than we have to wait another year apart ? Indeed, my fiance visited me 6 times in 10 months because he cannot live without me and he spent a lot to see me and YES he has money for ME otherwise he wouldn't be able to "support" me as they request it .

There are some contradictions here:

• if he CAN come (financially) to met me than why we don't get married here . ?????
• if he wouldn't visited me they will deny us because we have no proofs of ongoing relationship ?????

Still v confused ..... help !

I agree with the very first post ( your lawyer is an idiot ) but congratulations for your approval

[patient2010 93]

congrats!