How much money do I need...

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

My Australian ex used to say "gorgeous" a lot, and I taught my Russian boyfriend to use the word too... but I flip out if he says a girl's "attractive". Just man up and say she's hot. I don't mind, I'm the one he spends his time with.

Are you sure you are not a man disguised as a woman? I tried to explain the same thing to my wife, but she kept hitting me the whole time.

[AmyWrites 593]

Are you sure you are not a man disguised as a woman? I tried to explain the same thing to my wife, but she kept hitting me the whole time.

I'm pretty sure I was a man in a past life. Could also be that for a long time, the only females in my family were my grandmother, mom, and me. So I was raised almost exclusively by men.

Plus attractiveness can be appreciated in both genders. I'll happily admit that a woman or a man is hot... doesn't mean I'd go to bed with them, they're just physically appealing. I think that if your partner will cheat on you with another person only because that other person is attractive, there's bigger problems in your partner or your relationship that you should worry about.

[eekee 182]

Who else would raise you besides your mom and maybe grandma apart from your dad? I'm kind of confused by that statement. I was raised by a single mom and was a tomboy.

It pisses me off when girls try to ban their boyfriends/husbands from looking at other women. If he's going to cheat, he's going to cheat, and if you're a controlling pain in the @$$ all the time, it's all the more likely that he will stray/leave you. Just because someone else is Pretty too doesn't mean you're not.

Edited April 13, 2011 by eekee

[ONA 133]

Plus attractiveness can be appreciated in both genders. I'll happily admit that a woman or a man is hot... doesn't mean I'd go to bed with them, they're just physically appealing. I think that if your partner will cheat on you with another person only because that other person is attractive, there's bigger problems in your partner or your relationship that you should worry about.

+1 I'm totally with you on that.

I know that most Russian women have different opinion though.

[ONA 133]

It pisses me off when girls try to ban their boyfriends/husbands from looking at other women. If he's going to cheat, he's going to cheat, and if you're a controlling pain in the @$$ all the time, it's all the more likely that he will stray/leave you. Just because someone else is Pretty too doesn't mean you're not.

I also think that women should be worried if their men pretends not to be interested at looking at other women. It can only mean 2 things:

1) he is lying

2) he is gay.

[eekee 182]

Oh, I have guy friends who have told me that their girlfriends are like, YOU CAN ONLY LOOK STRAIGHT AHEAD! Which I think is insane, frankly, and a really, really good way to ensure that your relationship does not work out.

[AmyWrites 593]

Who else would raise you besides your mom and maybe grandma apart from your dad? I'm kind of confused by that statement. I was raised by a single mom and was a tomboy.

It pisses me off when girls try to ban their boyfriends/husbands from looking at other women. If he's going to cheat, he's going to cheat, and if you're a controlling pain in the @$$ all the time, it's all the more likely that he will stray/leave you. Just because someone else is Pretty too doesn't mean you're not.

The way that I was raised, my mom worked full time and most times had two jobs (my dad split and never looked back) and came home at 9 pm and left at 5 am to work, my grandmother was in Puerto Rico (so I saw her maybe twice a year), so I was raised and spent most of my time with my divorced, single uncle, his five sons, and my other four male cousins from my other uncle.

Yeah, most women don't want their man staring at other women... I get it, I used to be jealous. But seriously, if the worst thing your man does is notice attractive women every now and then, you've got a great man. Obviously I'm not ok with a guy who goes out on a date with you and spends 95% of the time looking at everyone else, but it's unrealistic to expect men (or women for that matter) to become blind to everyone else.

Edited April 13, 2011 by AmyWrites

[eekee 182]

Ahh, ok. It's fairly unusual for a person to have been raised primarily by someone other than their mom, so I was confused by the wording in your original post.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

My Australian ex used to say "gorgeous" a lot, and I taught my Russian boyfriend to use the word too... but I flip out if he says a girl's "attractive". Just man up and say she's hot. I don't mind, I'm the one he spends his time with.

You aren't a Ukrainian woman.

[visaveteran1 33]

What's this? Women hijacking the the RUB? Suddenly they're everywhere...like a zombie movie.

[AmyWrites 593]

You aren't a Ukrainian woman.

Most Ukranian women are attractive enough (to say the least) to not ever be jealous. Oh well.

Edited April 14, 2011 by AmyWrites

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What's this? Women hijacking the the RUB? Suddenly they're everywhere...like a zombie movie.

Good news! It's not a zombie movie, so you won't turn into a woman if you talk to us

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Most Ukranian women are attractive enough (to say the least) to not ever be jealous. Oh well.

That is the problem. There are too many attractive women everywhere and they are very predatory, in my experience anyway. Plus it is culturally common for the men to sample the available goods. It is not an environment that creates that degree of security. I found it VERY common among Ukrainian women that they were very posessive of their men.

It is also a reason, I have been told bu several women, that they prefer to be "more attractive than their men" If a guy is a good man, a good husband and father, then they want to be the most b eautiful woman he could ever hope to have for a wife...he will be more likely to be faithful. I am not arguing the logic (if any) only stating what I have been told many times.

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It is also a reason, I have been told bu several women, that they prefer to be "more attractive than their men" If a guy is a good man, a good husband and father, then they want to be the most b eautiful woman he could ever hope to have for a wife...he will be more likely to be faithful. I am not arguing the logic (if any) only stating what I have been told many times.

There is a saying "A man should be just a little bit more handsome than a monkey"

Although I don't think that women are going to look for somebody not very good-looking on purpose (well... insecure women might), it's more about "not judging a book by its cover".

[eekee 182]

From what I've seen, it doesn't matter how attractive a man is. If he is the kind who will stray, he will. If he won't, he won't. And other girls will hone in on your "territory" anyway. So why limit yourself to less attractive men?

Edited April 14, 2011 by eekee