pinoys , kanos and Divorce ?

[mychelle 1]

^my mom does that! i'm the one who actually throw things out for her. it's wrong to throw out food but it's much worse to leave it in the fridge for weeks.

true, no divorce in the Philippines but there are tons of separated couples (some for years even!) and there is always annullment option.

[JoelAndAnalyn 0]

ok , well ...lets see how to start .....lets go from the top . i met a pinay woman where i work , and we did things together and spent time together (i like her) . i met her shortly after she got to the states , its now been about 4 years . anyways , afetr time she said i would be good for her niece . i was unsure about it at frist , so , she e-mailed me , and we talked , mostly at frist by e-mail , now i call her 1 time a week and we ym and e-mail alot ( yes , i belive god has my wife ) . so , now to my question . some people know about me and her (shes in the phil. steal) , and the few pinoy men that are young (21-28,oh,im 37 years old) like to say that she may Divorce me when she gets here or they always ask me to make sure , and 1 tells me give her a baby to make sure she dont go . is it comman for the young men to ..well hate and discourage koan's from marrying ?

This is a possibility with anyone, it's not specific to Filipinas. As with any relationship, you must both get to know each other very well for it to be successful. If you just marry a girl from the Philippines because she seems nice on the internet, then you're asking for trouble.

If you really want to know, tell her you want to move to the Philippines forever rather than her come to the US

As for the men, it could be the "crab" mentality that some Filipinos have which basically means one doesn't want to see another get ahead, especially if they themselves are not successful or have no hope of ever being successful.

Go to the Philippines and marry her. Divorce is illegal there.

So what's to stop her from divorcing once she arrives here in the US? That has nothing to do with the divorce laws in the Philippines.

If she is a permanent resident of the US (or maybe she has to become a citizen, not sure) and she initiates a divorce in the US, that divorce will be recognized in the Philippines.

If a US citizen divorces a Filipino citizen while the latter is still in the Philippines, the divorce initiated in the US is recognized in the Philippines and that person is indeed divorced.

[I'm Gone 60]

As for the men, it could be the "crab" mentality that some Filipinos have which basically means one doesn't want to see another get ahead, especially if they themselves are not successful or have no hope of ever being successful.

I often thought that is the reason for the crappy service that is given at the embassy by the Filipino women that work there.

Edited September 14, 2006 by mdyoung

[JoelAndAnalyn 0]

As for the men, it could be the "crab" mentality that some Filipinos have which basically means one doesn't want to see another get ahead, especially if they themselves are not successful or have no hope of ever being successful.

I often thought that is the reason for the crappy service that is given at the embassy by the Filipino women that work there.

It must be frustrating for them to continually see men and women going off to the US, though they're probably doing fairly well if they are working at the US Embassy.

[john_and_marlene 162]

So what's to stop her from divorcing once she arrives here in the US? That has nothing to do with the divorce laws in the Philippines.

Look up the principle of comity. It may very well make a difference. A U.S. court may rightfully refuse to take jurisdiction over the status of a marriage in the Philippines. The jurisdiction can rightfully be challenged and the challenger may very well prevail.

[firewalker 0]

...I believe we are easy to please since coming from a poor country, anything over and above what we have here in the Philippines is considered an abundant blessing that we should be very thankful for.

yes , i think you are right . let see , back in mar. i sent a cd walkman to her , and the oldest ate was like " why\how could you ask for a ..." ect. it was llike dont ask for anything , and thats just becouse of modest life style , i think . will , she dont ask me , i just did it in love . i could just see what will happen when i give her a dvd player . oh , ny the way , back in mar. it was sent to her by way of family going there . next mo.(oct.7th) i will be going there .

If you just marry a girl from the Philippines because she seems nice on because she seems nice on the internet, then you're asking for trouble.

yes , this is\would be true , but in my case i know some of her family her . also , i have prayed and read my bible to recive a answer from god , and yes it is all + . (thank you jesus) oh , by the way her niece give me her e-mail 1st . but i was fearful of talking to someone i dont now in person . so , the older niece give my e-mail too her , and she e-mailed me . (im glad now too) . just to round everything out i belive jesus ..no , i know jesus has my wife .

If you really want to know, tell her you want to move to the Philippines forever rather than her come to the US

i have said this , just so i would not pull her away from family . she respect that , and also said its hard hear (pi) . but , really if your having a hard time staying alive then why stay somewhere when you can do better somewhere else ?

all in all , i can say i love her very much . we are very open with each other , even if it sounds strange or is hard too say i let it out any ways .

by the way the hating has died down greatly . i have shut my mouth . and will no talk about it . even if they ask me . yes , even if my actions are joyful . its not for you too know .

Edited September 15, 2006 by firewalker

[JenT 0]

Best wishes with your life then.

Jen

[JoelAndAnalyn 0]

by the way the hating has died down greatly . i have shut my mouth . and will no talk about it . even if they ask me . yes , even if my actions are joyful . its not for you too know .

Huh??

[Donna A 4]

maybe they are trying to tell u that the philipeans is a high risk fraud country. so u should be careful if u choose to marry her.

[n_va24 0]

What is a koan?

that's kano ... as in Ameri(kano)

Ah, ok. Thanks, John. Geez, no offense to the OP, but his grammar and spelling is atrocious. I was thinking English must be his second language?

ok , sorry about the misunderstanding , i though some filipinos would understand what i was talking about better , by using the words i did . so , what i am saying is that the filipino men at work , talk bad about the me and the filinpo women that i talk with and i will see her next mo.(oct.) . the woman i met was at work and we get along very well , me and her family , that is . im just questioning why the filipino men hate on me for what i belive is my wife to be .

I guess they are jelous of what you are about to do and what they cant have.. go for it

[gobdogman 0]

From what I can peruse, kaon, from a non-English Zen practitioner, is meaningless? A pinay indeed is a Philipino female, however a pinoy is a gay Philipino male. Still, this doesn't make sense given the above OP's scenerio. I think I would agree, that we need more information, however it looks like he's being used for immigration purposes!

Carla

Pinoy isnt a Gay philippine male its just a male.