Monthly Thread April 2011

[Amanda & Raad 0]

How did it go Amy??

[AngelK96 0]

Please relax. The IO will sense your anxiety and wonder why you're so anxious. Honestly, there's nothing to be anxious about. AOS interviews aren't that bad especially if you have nothing to hide.

really good reply!!

[AngelK96 0]

ok so this has been bothering me since yesterday..i am a surgical nurse..and i worked with this doctor yesterday and he asked where my name was from and of course i say i my husband is Jordanian..and all of he said does he carry bombs..he totally caught me off guard and i am standing with my surgical patient unconcious with anthesia and my scrub tech.. i just look at him like what the f*uck.. and eariler i said to him. i was a patient of yours i had a miscarriage totally didn't remember. The whole time just being professional ..and after that incident i was in the break room eating and he comes in there asking if my husband plays soccer and if he would like to come play on sundays..i was like this conversation is stupid..and then he goes well your native american do you know of this book..and me i was like yeah i know ..blah blah..and my husband works sundays.. it was so surreal.. later i ccome home didn't say anything to my husband about the incident at work..and i get a phone call and it's the doctor apolozing for what he said cuz i was still new and he shouldn't have been teasing me.. I was like yeah when you said that i thought maybe it was a slip of the tongue..and it's not like i heard something similar..thanks for calliing me and apologiziing.. and today some of the staff asked me what happen...now i feel all weird and ######... ok just want to vent..Not tell whole story but just ###### weird..makes me mad sorry for the typos..

[amysaid 9]

ok so this has been bothering me since yesterday..i am a surgical nurse..and i worked with this doctor yesterday and he asked where my name was from and of course i say i my husband is Jordanian..and all of he said does he carry bombs..he totally caught me off guard and i am standing with my surgical patient unconcious with anthesia and my scrub tech.. i just look at him like what the f*uck.. and eariler i said to him. i was a patient of yours i had a miscarriage totally didn't remember. The whole time just being professional ..and after that incident i was in the break room eating and he comes in there asking if my husband plays soccer and if he would like to come play on sundays..i was like this conversation is stupid..and then he goes well your native american do you know of this book..and me i was like yeah i know ..blah blah..and my husband works sundays.. it was so surreal.. later i ccome home didn't say anything to my husband about the incident at work..and i get a phone call and it's the doctor apolozing for what he said cuz i was still new and he shouldn't have been teasing me.. I was like yeah when you said that i thought maybe it was a slip of the tongue..and it's not like i heard something similar..thanks for calliing me and apologiziing.. and today some of the staff asked me what happen...now i feel all weird and ######... ok just want to vent..Not tell whole story but just ###### weird..makes me mad sorry for the typos..

That is kind of funny... I am a nurse too and had a surgeon say something pretty out of line to me about being Muslim during a surgery once. It was awkward, because it's not like you can walk away or something.

I don't think i was overly anxious about the interview... i just hate being late, we had an hour long drive ahead of us, etc...

Anyway, the interview was not what I expected at all. We were in there about 40 minutes together, and the woman asked us a LOT of questions about how we met, our courtship, when and why we married, and spent about 15 minutes talking about why and how I converted to Islam, and why my husband was ok with marrying a new convert (I had converted about 3 months before we met.) Some questions about our families (to Ahmed: "Why was your family ok with you marrying an American? Wouldn't they rather you have married a born Muslim Egyptian woman?") Asking about how we deal with cultural differences, having been raised in different societies... She was really confused about the whole meeting online thing and asked us to explain Myspace, Yahoo chat and Skype. She asked questions about the dowry that was listed in our Egyptian marriage contract ("1001LE? Couldn't you just give her a cow or something?")She asked him what my older daughter's birthday was, her full name, and our daughter together's birth date. The last five minutes I gave her our joint proof, she flipped through some photos, and she said okay, congratulations, you will receive your green card in 7-10 days.

SOOOOOO glad to be done until citizenship! And we are in no hurry for that, so it may be more than 3 years before we file. I need a break from USCIS.

[~PalmTreeGurl~ 154]

Not that its bad or anything, bcz yall got approved... but I wonder why yall were asked some of those questions for AOS. Ours was nothing like that but given we dont have children, but we werent asked why or how we met online or any religious questions.

[amysaid 9]

I am really not sure. I thought it was strange that she was so focused on the beginning of our relationship, when we have already been married two years, have a kid together, etc. The person in the next cubicle interviewed two or three people in the time it took for her to to us. I have heard that since we were adjusting to a ten year PR status instead of two year that it might be more involved because it's like AOS and ROC at the same time. Not sure how much truth there is to that though.

[~PalmTreeGurl~ 154]

By the time Adam had his AOS interview we had just hit the 2 yr mark by a couple of weeks. So he got his 10yr greencard. There wasnt anything out of the ordinary asked in our interview though and it was pretty fast.

[Mithra 1,185]

Wow that was kind of a lot of questions for AOS esp since many of them should've been covered during the visa interview. Our IO didn't ask us one question about us as a couple except were we still married, lol. It was almost like she was all done working for the day and wanted to wrap things up real quick. Lucky for us.

ETA - we were adjusting for a 10 yr, too. So there's no truth to whomever said they give you a hard time because it's a 10 yr.

Edited April 15, 2011 by Mithra

[Mithra 1,185]

While it was good of the dr. to call to apologize, what a jackass. You don't "tease" ppl you don't even know about stuff like that. Some ppl are so ballsy.

ok so this has been bothering me since yesterday..i am a surgical nurse..and i worked with this doctor yesterday and he asked where my name was from and of course i say i my husband is Jordanian..and all of he said does he carry bombs..he totally caught me off guard and i am standing with my surgical patient unconcious with anthesia and my scrub tech.. i just look at him like what the f*uck.. and eariler i said to him. i was a patient of yours i had a miscarriage totally didn't remember. The whole time just being professional ..and after that incident i was in the break room eating and he comes in there asking if my husband plays soccer and if he would like to come play on sundays..i was like this conversation is stupid..and then he goes well your native american do you know of this book..and me i was like yeah i know ..blah blah..and my husband works sundays.. it was so surreal.. later i ccome home didn't say anything to my husband about the incident at work..and i get a phone call and it's the doctor apolozing for what he said cuz i was still new and he shouldn't have been teasing me.. I was like yeah when you said that i thought maybe it was a slip of the tongue..and it's not like i heard something similar..thanks for calliing me and apologiziing.. and today some of the staff asked me what happen...now i feel all weird and ######... ok just want to vent..Not tell whole story but just ###### weird..makes me mad sorry for the typos..

[msheesha 548]

It must be a hospital thing. When I was working at a hospital, I had a co-worker repeatedly say negative things about Islam and Muslims to me. He didn't know that I was a Muslim initially. He didn't stop with the comments, so I reported him to his supervisor and the HR department.

The surgeon should not have said what he said. It's nice that he apologized, but I'd guess he did that out of fear rather than a change or heart/realization that the comment was really obnoxious and disgusting.

[FormerlyKnownAs 17]

I have people around me that are supposed to be "good, decent people" making disgusting comments regarding Muslims constantly. As soon as they find out I am seriously involved with an Egyptian, they will throw in the tasteless camel jokes on top of the terrorism jokes. ####### people, really? It's just horribly bad behavior, but I guess we can't expect better from the vast majority of people. Just bite our tongues and go on. Or make a scene... I've been known to do that on occasion as well.

[Samoray 165]

I have people around me that are supposed to be "good, decent people" making disgusting comments regarding Muslims constantly. As soon as they find out I am seriously involved with an Egyptian, they will throw in the tasteless camel jokes on top of the terrorism jokes. ####### people, really? It's just horribly bad behavior, but I guess we can't expect better from the vast majority of people. Just bite our tongues and go on. Or make a scene... I've been known to do that on occasion as well.

Try not to take it personal

Here is my little camel parked next to my PC

[msheesha 548]

I have people around me that are supposed to be "good, decent people" making disgusting comments regarding Muslims constantly. As soon as they find out I am seriously involved with an Egyptian, they will throw in the tasteless camel jokes on top of the terrorism jokes. ####### people, really? It's just horribly bad behavior, but I guess we can't expect better from the vast majority of people. Just bite our tongues and go on. Or make a scene... I've been known to do that on occasion as well.

I think there is a middle ground approach, and not the two extremes of doing nothing or making a scene. I seriously tried to educate the guy I worked with - gave him reading materials on Islam, etc. When he continued, I reported him in the appropriate channels.

He received closer supervision as a result and apologized to me for personally offending me as a Muslim. We developed a mutually respectful working relationship after that, and I think he will really think twice in the future about spouting off hateful ignorant remarks about any group in the future. At least I hope.

[R and F 34]

Good morning everyone.

[Meriem_DZ 37]

I think there is a middle ground approach, and not the two extremes of doing nothing or making a scene. I seriously tried to educate the guy I worked with - gave him reading materials on Islam, etc. When he continued, I reported him in the appropriate channels.

He received closer supervision as a result and apologized to me for personally offending me as a Muslim. We developed a mutually respectful working relationship after that, and I think he will really think twice in the future about spouting off hateful ignorant remarks about any group in the future. At least I hope.

I went to vote during this past presidential election. The people that work at the elections are a bunch of little old ladies. I walked to the the first table and the lady looked my name up in a book. The old lady sitting next to her asked me why I wore the scarf. I told her that I was Muslim. She said is your husband Muslim. I said yes. and she said very loudly, "Is he a terrorist?" I said, certainly not! and turned around to go vote. I was fuming. I thought about reporting her, but I just let it go.

Meriem