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[LIFE'SJOURNEY 970]

I've had a talk with my lady and although we don't like it we are going to wait. I wanted to be able to bring her here but that seems like hitting ur head on a rock. So I guess instead of making two trips I'll have to make three. I say three coz I'm thinking I'll have to be at the interview for the CR-1. If I'm wrong plz somebody let me know.

First, lets take one step at a time, make the first trip and then move on from there. The consular no longer allows the USC to be in on the interview unless they have requested their present, it could turn into a 4 trip relationship.

[pushbrk 12,914]

ok so rule of thumb what is a goos acceptable amount of time so that the paper work will go thru with no red flags?

Thinking a fiancee or spouse visa process is about paperwork going through is a big mistake. Getting a petition approved is only the first and easy step. For that, red flags are not an issue. Getting the visa is another issue altogether and it's about convincing a consular officer you have a bona fide relationship. There's no magic list of things or number of visits that makes that happen. You accomplish it by actually building and having a bona fide relationship.

[fitz 0]

And that's what we have now. I know to some it may seem strange but we know in our hearts that this is what we want. I'm not trying to look for loop holes. I just want to be well informed so that the process goes smooth with no hang ups

[pushbrk 12,914]

And that's what we have now. I know to some it may seem strange but we know in our hearts that this is what we want. I'm not trying to look for loop holes. I just want to be well informed so that the process goes smooth with no hang ups

For immigration purposes, your heart is important but not credible absent time spent together. You must actually demonstrate what's in your hearts through your concrete actions and successful efforts to spend time together. Otherwise, it's viewed as just a fantasy.

Edited March 31, 2011 by pushbrk

[JAPrincess 27]

Good Morning Fitz,

I have a few concerns for your situation, but I hope that things work out for you...

My first concern is not the little time you have known her, but more that you have not met in person. I agree with Sus that you should go and spend some time with her first. Immigration is not easy, and is by no means a quick way to be together. It is stressful, and can put a strain on even the best of relationships. Get your brother to care for your Mom for a week and GO SEE HER.

My second concern is you not having a job yet. You not only have to prove a valid relationship, you also have to prove that you can support this woman above the poverty level. I have heard the embassy requiring a co-sponsor even when the petitioner makes enough money if they can't establish that they have held a steady job above the poverty line.

Also, you say that when she gets here she will be working and then you can bring her kids??? First, it is hard for MANY us citizens to find work in this economy, you can't count on her finding work right away... and I think that her income will not qualify to bring her kids over right away, I believe that YOU being the USC have to prove that you can support her and her 3 children at 125% above poverty in order to bring the kids over. At 5 people that is $32,712 annually! http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/i-864p.pdf

My advice would be to RESEARCH everything about your situation in regards to immigration, and get to know her and her children before you start down the road that is immigration.

Best of luck to you It feels great to find someone you want to spend your life with, enjoy!

[fitz 0]

That's what I'm doing. I plan on going to see her in Aug. I'm gonna spend 8 days there then come back home and work on all of this. Then maybe go back around Thanksgiving.