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[웃 910]

Intellect? IR5?

Can you jump right in to this conversation?

Edited June 6, 2011 by Lord Infamous

[Nagishkaw 510]

Good morning and happy Moanday, guize.

I have a doctor's appt this morning and hopefully will be discussing the horrible complications from surgery. From there I will go to the pasture, which is covered with zillions of baby frogs. The mosquitoes and flies have been just terrible. We may be getting a new boarder. I met an older woman there yesterday who is interested in natural pasture board for her mare. Currently, we only have one mare in the 'retired gelding's club'. The lady said she does a lot of riding, so it would be nice to have someone to ride with.

[cassi9879 20]

Hopefully the Dr will have something to take care of the surgery complications!

Mosquitos and flies - plenty of food for the baby frogs! Bring plenty of bug spray. Don't want you getting West Nile or somethinjg on top of the complications!

[Nagishkaw 510]

The horses have all been vaccinated for West Nile back in April. I have good spray for Koda, but it doesn't seem to repel the flies like it should.

[cassi9879 20]

The wetness has probably helped the flies so they'll be sticking around for a while.

The bush on the north side of the gate seems to be a house for flies. Earlier this year you'd try to leave and get swarmed by flies. Now the spider webs have formed from the bush on the south side to the north side bush so you have to brush through webs to get out of the yard!

[Nagishkaw 510]

Hopefully the Dr will have something to take care of the surgery complications!

The worst of it is over. The incision site is hard and puffy and looks like I had my throat slashed.

[Nagishkaw 510]

The wetness has probably helped the flies so they'll be sticking around for a while.

The bush on the north side of the gate seems to be a house for flies. Earlier this year you'd try to leave and get swarmed by flies. Now the spider webs have formed from the bush on the south side to the north side bush so you have to brush through webs to get out of the yard!

The thing is, these are just ordinary flies so far. The horse and deer flies will be coming around very soon. Those really hurt when they bite, and they are huge.

Can't someone prune that shrub ?

[cassi9879 20]

The thing is, these are just ordinary flies so far. The horse and deer flies will be coming around very soon. Those really hurt when they bite, and they are huge.

Can't someone prune that shrub ?

i dunno how much to cut off lol

[Nagishkaw 510]

As much as you can without killing it.

i dunno how much to cut off lol

Edited June 6, 2011 by Nagishkaw

[cassi9879 20]

You both need counseling. Physical violence is never the answer.

you offering to pay for it? Cuz with benny never having a job and refusing to even try i have no money to pay my medical bills let alone add the counseling fees. So nagi and cinco are my counselors

[Fandango 1,439]

you offering to pay for it? Cuz with benny never having a job and refusing to even try i have no money to pay my medical bills let alone add the counseling fees. So nagi and cinco are my counselors

link

If you came on here and said how Benny shoved and pushed you, your friends would be telling you to call the cops, or get out of the house. Yet, you do it and no one says anything. I don't think that's indicative of proper counseling. Your family needs proper help, and if you google, you can see another list of free services. If you want to tell me where you live, I'd be willing to help you find something.

I'm not trying to sound snarky here, really I'm not. Let alone the strain on you and your marriage, think about how this atmosphere is affecting your child. Violence in the home is NEVER ok...regardless of whether your son is in the room, or the next room or whatever. It's not healthy, Cassi. And if your husband is yelling all the time, think of what that's doing to your son as well. No one here is there to see what goes on, but even from your words...the fact you feel you need to 'protect' your son from your husband is chilling. It's not a question of who's right and who's wrong. The atmosphere that you have described on various occasions is unhealthy for all of you.

I live my life by a few sayings...one of which is 'Resolve, or remove'....meaning, resolve the problem, or remove yourself from it. It's not going to be easy or pretty, and one day you might even decide that divorce is the best option for your family. But none of you can thrive in an atmosphere like you've described. And lack of money is not a valid reason for ignoring the problem.

Like I said, if you want to pm me your location, I can try to help you find some free services.

Good luck.

eta another link: http://www.google.com/search?sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8&q=free+marriage+counseling#sclient=psy&hl=en&source=hp&q=free%20family%20counseling%20services&aq=1&aqi=g5&aql=&oq=&pbx=1&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.&fp=bb00a8cd1aea9d79&biw=1433&bih=779&pf=p&pdl=300

Edited June 6, 2011 by Anita Cocktail

[Nagishkaw 510]

So nagi and cinco are my counselors

I have been through the most unspeakable brutality,and carry the physical and mental scars associated with domestic violence. We are not talking about slaps and hitting, but rather punches, kicks, stomps, the use of objects as weapons,broken bones, missing teeth, starvation, rape, and the most severe, IMO...mind fvcking.All done by someone who you are supposed to trust who took a vow to honour and protect you. Counseling is a joke, believe me. No one can take away what was done to you as a human being, it is something that can never be fully understood.

[Fandango 1,439]

I have been through the most unspeakable brutality,and carry the physical and mental scars associated with domestic violence. We are not talking about slaps and hitting, but rather punches, kicks, stomps, the use of objects as weapons,broken bones, missing teeth, starvation, rape, and the most severe, IMO...mind fvcking.All done by someone who you are supposed to trust who took a vow to honour and protect you. Counseling is a joke, believe me. No one can take away what was done to you as a human being, it is something that can never be fully understood.

And THAT, right there, is why you're unfit to help. Counseling may not have worked for you, but it has worked for many.

BTW, I'm sorry to hear what you've gone through. No one should have to go through that.

Edited June 6, 2011 by Anita Cocktail