WWAAAHHH...

[indianalady06 0]

My fiance had his interview in Frankfurt on Wednesday (after waiting 3 months when most Germans wait a month or less - but he's Turkish so go figure). He said everything went pretty smoothly, but then the Consul told him they needed my dad (our cosponsors) birth certificate. i guess i should have thought of this, but i read through everything again and i'm pretty angry that no where does it say the BC of a cosponsor is required. But whatever, they're the boss. He was just going to send my fiance home to tell me the news so I could fax it to the consulate, but my fiance always gets nervous about these kinds of things so he asked the Consul to write exactly what is needed and the number to fax it, too. Only then did he pull out the green piece of paper. When I heard this I was thinking, woohoo! because i've heard in these cases you just send in what it is they need and then all is dandy and you get the visa in the mail in a few days. Well then my fiance asks if it will still take the standard 2 weeks maximum, and only then did the Consul inform him that in fact, it could take longer than this, probably just a week, because name checks were still being done on him.

That kind of ruined our day I was getting excited to have him here within weeks, but I figured if they add a couple more weeks to this wait it won't kill me. I just didn't get it because originally they told us the interview couldn't be scheduled until the background checks were over which is why we had to wait longer than most, but then this happens. So my fiance waited a few days and then called the consulate again just to make sure they got his medical results and my fax. Then he casually asked if it was still looking like it might take 3 weeks instead of 2, and the lady on the phone told him 2 months MINIMUM!!! i couldn't believe it. i thought we were approved?? and they're just sitting on his passport. it just doesn't seem quite right to me. should we ask for it back because knowing them, they could lose it or something! haha... or should we just let them keep the passport and hope the lady was wrong and the Consul was right and it won't take that long. That's what I was hoping, until another big surprise happened today....

Today when he checked his mail, there was a letter from the consulate with the ds-230 part II, the form you are supposed to sign in front of a consular officer. THEY FORGOT TO HAVE HIM DO IT!!!! my faith is completely lost in that consul and the whole darn consulate for that matter. I guess he should just go ahead and fill it out and sign it, even though it says in huge bold underlined letters to only sign in front of the consul. they didn't even attach special instructions, just that they forgot and he needs to fill it out and send it back. geez...

any advice would be greatly appreciated. ever hear of a case like this? think contacting a senator could do any good or would i just be wasting my energy that has all been drained from this ongoing stressful process... I just hate feeling like we are the toys of the big bad consulate and they can mess with our lives like this. and to top it all off, my grandma is in the hospital and all she ever says is how she is in a lot of pain and ready to die, except she wants to see me get married first. i don't know how to break the news to her

[kpathak 0]

I would just comply with their requests and go along with whatever process they are establishing -- no use fighting right now. After he is over here, then you can create a ruckus to get even if you want.

Sorry it happened to you It's almost over...

KP

[RKhalid 0]

Im sorry about your situation, i hope that lady was wrong about 2 months minimum, i feel your pain, i have been waiting for my husband to have a visa since we started the process in 2004!

but i hope you will be with him soon, sorry i have no advice to offer, i would just do as they ask though.

Leona

[indianalady06 0]

Leona, I'm sorry to hear of your situation! I guess the best thing we can do it just support everyone going through these situations that can be as annoying as heck and difficult to understand at times. By the way, the picture of your baby is adorable!!!

I know there are situations that are much worse than mine and my fiance's, and I can't imagine how some people handle it. If I found out my fiance would never get his visa or the wait could take years longer than the average case, I think I would lose all hope. You people out there who are handling these bad situations with optimism and dignity, I salute you I think Oprah should have a special on the trials and tribulations of marrying someone from another country/religion/background. Heck, there could be a whole TV series dealing with the surreal circumstances some people have to go through just to be with the one they love.

[RKhalid 0]

Leona, I'm sorry to hear of your situation! I guess the best thing we can do it just support everyone going through these situations that can be as annoying as heck and difficult to understand at times. By the way, the picture of your baby is adorable!!!

I know there are situations that are much worse than mine and my fiance's, and I can't imagine how some people handle it. If I found out my fiance would never get his visa or the wait could take years longer than the average case, I think I would lose all hope. You people out there who are handling these bad situations with optimism and dignity, I salute you I think Oprah should have a special on the trials and tribulations of marrying someone from another country/religion/background. Heck, there could be a whole TV series dealing with the surreal circumstances some people have to go through just to be with the one they love.

I can agree to that!

P.S. thanks for the compliment on my lil baby Ali

[Ladylethal 12]

Good luck with the rest of the process and I hope all goes well from now on.