*Poof*

[iampatricias 17]

One of the things for my husband and me that really helped was to agree to assume good intentions of the other person. I think especially with cultural differences and increased possibility of misunderstanding this has helped cut down on unnecessary disagreements.

I was also finding this thread extremely helpful in terms of mentally preparing for the sort of reality check once we get to finally live together!

In any case, I wanted to second the sentiments in this here quote for the advancement of a drama-free relationship!

[msheesha 548]

Yup if the other person's intentions weren't good you will always find out & if they were positive and you assumed the negative you've just caused unnecessary drama. Helps us on a day to day basis (when we remember!)

[sandinista! 1,816]

Lol msheesha. Know yr share boundaries and dont exceed them is always a good strategy for the internetz

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

It still sucks. Sachinky and several other people made some great, informative and helpful posts, that would still have context even without the op. But now they are gone because someone doesn't know how to use the Internet like a grownup. But tells everyone here they're a magical conflict resolving superstar when it comes to being married to someone they've spent two weeks with. Cheers.

Whoa. Only grownup games are played around here?

[kristen_maroc 126]

I guess I should have saved the info from that post that I wanted.

This is really frustrating.

[Samoray 165]

[KittyPollitt 284]

makes me not want to put any time and effort into those kinds of threads again.

[MrsAmera 41]

agreed --- some people don't like the answers that they get. Easier to delete and pretend it never happened I guess.

[Crossed_fingers 128]

I know it's a pain for people to retype information that they already took the time to share with the group, so I won't ask for it to be repeated...but should you feel so inclined to spend the effort to do it again, I always appreciate it. If it's not advice that I think is relevant to my particular situation, I'm sure it will apply to someone else. As I said in the first post of the preparing for the beneficiary's (errrrr benficiary's ) arrival thread, I won't ask for it to be deleted. I doubt WOM has any plans to request the deletion of this one, either.

Edited March 17, 2011 by Crossed_fingers

[msheesha 548]

agreed --- some people don't like the answers that they get. Easier to delete and pretend it never happened I guess.

Selfish, and stinks for the people who were using the information usefully.

[RAKASA 0]

Hey WoM! Long time, no "see". Nice seeing your online presence. And as always, ever clever w/ the pics!

[Nasturtium 500]

Hey WoM! Long time, no "see". Nice seeing your online presence. And as always, ever clever w/ the pics!

Hi!!

[RAKASA 0]

Hi!!

Hey Jules!

[Lisamarie 79]

I really don't mind hearing the reality at all. What I can't handle is the rudeness and sarcasm. Why is that necessary? I belong to other forums and there isn't anything like that....just people talking respectfully to each other. I really don't get it. And it's not just with me me, I have read it over and over, and over again.

You all thought I was boasting when I said "We have talked about that and how we will deal with it", or "I think Hassan will deal with that well, because of his personality or character".....I was just being honest and you didn't like to hear the reality of that......such is life. I'm not the type that boasts and he's not even here yet so what am I going to boast about... Yes I do think my husband is strong and has a great character, and patient, and respectul and that's what made me first fall in love with him in the first place. And I'm not going to apologize for that. When people did give suggestions that we "hadn't" talked about, I thanked them and said it was a great idea. The problem with some of you is that if people don't see things your way then you feel the need to get rude....and I have heard more than one other person comment on it also on different threads. One person keeps asking "Why do people think that if they hear reality that it's rudeness or attacking them?" If you were to take an "objective" (your words) look at all the comments in different threads you would understand. But you won't, and that's fine.

Not saying that some of you aren't really knowledgeable because you are, but I can get the same answers to the same questions somewhere else without having to deal with the sarcasm.

That's all.

And I'm sure this will start a whole slew of comments, and that's fine. I don't care.

Have a good day.

agreed --- some people don't like the answers that they get. Easier to delete and pretend it never happened I guess.

[Sunny123 44]

I really don't mind hearing the reality at all. What I can't handle is the rudeness and sarcasm. Why is that necessary? I belong to other forums and there isn't anything like that....just people talking respectfully to each other. I really don't get it. And it's not just with me me, I have read it over and over, and over again.

You all thought I was boasting when I said "We have talked about that and how we will deal with it", or "I think Hassan will deal with that well, because of his personality or character".....I was just being honest and you didn't like to hear the reality of that......such is life. I'm not the type that boasts and he's not even here yet so what am I going to boast about... Yes I do think my husband is strong and has a great character, and patient, and respectul and that's what made me first fall in love with him in the first place. And I'm not going to apologize for that. When people did give suggestions that we "hadn't" talked about, I thanked them and said it was a great idea. The problem with some of you is that if people don't see things your way then you feel the need to get rude....and I have heard more than one other person comment on it also on different threads. One person keeps asking "Why do people think that if they hear reality that it's rudeness or attacking them?" If you were to take an "objective" (your words) look at all the comments in different threads you would understand. But you won't, and that's fine.

Not saying that some of you aren't really knowledgeable because you are, but I can get the same answers to the same questions somewhere else without having to deal with the sarcasm.

That's all.

And I'm sure this will start a whole slew of comments, and that's fine. I don't care.

Have a good day.