permanent resident wanting to divorce US citizen

[nurse231 0]

Was here before on VJ while trying to get my fiance over here who is now my husband. He has his 2 year green card and now has moved out and left my home. He is stating he wants a divorce which is fine, but my question is:

Is there anything that I, as the US citizen, should do because whe have only been married 15 months and I know he has to file the forms after he gets his divorce to be able to stay in the US, but do I need to do anything pertaining to the affidavit of support or so I dont get into trouble should I report that he has left my home? Thanks so much for your help...............

[john & jean 37]

the divorce does not release you from being on the hook. you may still be held accountable for the support....

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Was here before on VJ while trying to get my fiance over here who is now my husband. He has his 2 year green card and now has moved out and left my home. He is stating he wants a divorce which is fine, but my question is:

Is there anything that I, as the US citizen, should do because whe have only been married 15 months and I know he has to file the forms after he gets his divorce to be able to stay in the US, but do I need to do anything pertaining to the affidavit of support or so I dont get into trouble should I report that he has left my home? Thanks so much for your help...............

The only thing you have to do in regards to the affidavit of support is notify USCIS if you move. Since it sounds like you haven't moved then you don't need to do anything. The affidavit will remain enforceable even after you're divorced.

As a permanent resident, your husband also has an obligation to notify USCIS when he moves. He should have done so when he moved out of your home.

[Lisamarie 79]

I just want to say I'm sorry. It seems like there is an epidemic lately of this happening from men who care about and have consideration for no one but themselves. Best of luck to you.

Was here before on VJ while trying to get my fiance over here who is now my husband. He has his 2 year green card and now has moved out and left my home. He is stating he wants a divorce which is fine, but my question is:

Is there anything that I, as the US citizen, should do because whe have only been married 15 months and I know he has to file the forms after he gets his divorce to be able to stay in the US, but do I need to do anything pertaining to the affidavit of support or so I dont get into trouble should I report that he has left my home? Thanks so much for your help...............

[nurse231 0]

Thankyou so much for your well needed responses, and good luck in your journies.

[Hokie97 5]

I am so sorry this is happening to you. My husband (UK Citizen) just walked out on my and my two step children, after being in the US less than 1 year. I am just now looking into the consequences of this just like you are.

[nurse231 0]

I am so sorry this is happening to you. My husband (UK Citizen) just walked out on my and my two step children, after being in the US less than 1 year. I am just now looking into the consequences of this just like you are.

I have recently also found out that he has been talking to other women even before he left my home. I am so conflicted on what to do. I know my head tells me to turn hm in and divorce him but my heart wont let me. I am so stupid I have now let him back in my home again. I wish I was stronger. I hope that you make the right choices and that all will be well with you soon. I'm a friend if you need one..............

[Hokie97 5]

I have recently also found out that he has been talking to other women even before he left my home. I am so conflicted on what to do. I know my head tells me to turn hm in and divorce him but my heart wont let me. I am so stupid I have now let him back in my home again. I wish I was stronger. I hope that you make the right choices and that all will be well with you soon. I'm a friend if you need one..............

I found out last night that my husband has been texting a girl he knew before me (also a USC) since December. She was making inappropriate comments to him (how she loved him with all her heart and he was her best friend in the world) after we got married and it nearly broke us up then. My friends tell me I am strong, but I feel so weak and I love him so much that I would take him back. Of course, then he might just leave again and where would I be? But I miss my children. He said last night his only option is to move across the country because she has offered him a place to stay because where he is now he cannot stay past May 1st. Worse than losing him is losing access to my children because they are my step children and I have no legal right to them in the US. In England I had a parental responsibility order, but we did not have time for me to adopt them. I am kicking myself for not making it work so that I would be able to share their lives.

[Myopia 93]

I found out last night that my husband has been texting a girl he knew before me (also a USC) since December. She was making inappropriate comments to him (how she loved him with all her heart and he was her best friend in the world) after we got married and it nearly broke us up then. My friends tell me I am strong, but I feel so weak and I love him so much that I would take him back. Of course, then he might just leave again and where would I be? But I miss my children. He said last night his only option is to move across the country because she has offered him a place to stay because where he is now he cannot stay past May 1st. Worse than losing him is losing access to my children because they are my step children and I have no legal right to them in the US. In England I had a parental responsibility order, but we did not have time for me to adopt them. I am kicking myself for not making it work so that I would be able to share their lives.

Then do what you have to do. Love is not an easy emotion to have particularly love that is painful but you know that saying, "all that glitters isnt gold". Sometimes they have to experience the other side to know where the truth lays.

He is your man. Fight for him.

[deenney 0]

I would file a written response to the USCIS regarding the circumstances of the divorce. If you felt that he falsey married you just to get he Greencard, you can submit a letter claiming that. It will not revolk his current Greencard status, but it will put him on the level playing field for whe he comes for renewal or if the USCIS is considering whether he can sustain himself, after divorcing you, and not be a burden to the government.

You're not asking for the government to take away his Greencard, so I don't feel that you are trying to be vindictive- just tell your side of what happened. If you felt that the marriage was done under a false pretext, then I would state that. At the end, you are providing the USCIS with truthful information that they need to be fair and balanced.

Hope all goes well.

[finchrat 0]

I would file a written response to the USCIS regarding the circumstances of the divorce. If you felt that he falsey married you just to get he Greencard, you can submit a letter claiming that. It will not revolk his current Greencard status, but it will put him on the level playing field for whe he comes for renewal or if the USCIS is considering whether he can sustain himself, after divorcing you, and not be a burden to the government.

You're not asking for the government to take away his Greencard, so I don't feel that you are trying to be vindictive- just tell your side of what happened. If you felt that the marriage was done under a false pretext, then I would state that. At the end, you are providing the USCIS with truthful information that they need to be fair and balanced.

Hope all goes well.

I am wondering about this situation and the green card.

Usually a conditional permanent resident status needs to be reviewed in 2 years or so. That is how it is in our situation. That being the case, if conditions are not met or if the resident does not attend the required meeting, seems to me that the card would not be renewed and perhaps the visa process cancelled? Just thinking out loud here perhaps someone else knows more?

Damon

[Hokie97 5]

I am wondering about this situation and the green card.

Usually a conditional permanent resident status needs to be reviewed in 2 years or so. That is how it is in our situation. That being the case, if conditions are not met or if the resident does not attend the required meeting, seems to me that the card would not be renewed and perhaps the visa process cancelled? Just thinking out loud here perhaps someone else knows more?

Damon

From all that I have read online on message boards and the official sites, they rarely refuse anyone a 10 year greencard. In England, you have to prove at 24 months that you're still married or you're out, because you're there on a visa. But in the US, the visa only gets you in the door, and your greencard keeps you here. It's more complicated than that, but after too many hours researching, I have come to terms with the fact that my husband might never have cared about me.

Our divorce should be final in the next month or so, and I am pretty sure he's going to be married by the time his greencard expires to the girl who took him in and has been supporting him since he left me. I have had to deal with a lot of sorrow these last 8 months, but the small things to be grateful for are, at least he left before I paid for his 10 year green card next summer and his citizenship the following summer. For him and my step kids. I'd have done anything for the children. We still talk a couple times a week and they'll be spending next summer with me. They call me mom and I consider them my children. Let her pay all their expenses. She deserves to lose everything just like I have.

[ceadsearc 516]

I am wondering about this situation and the green card.

Usually a conditional permanent resident status needs to be reviewed in 2 years or so. That is how it is in our situation. That being the case, if conditions are not met or if the resident does not attend the required meeting, seems to me that the card would not be renewed and perhaps the visa process cancelled? Just thinking out loud here perhaps someone else knows more?

Damon

If the couple divorces before the two years the PR can file for removal of conditions on their own with a divorce waiver. They must prove they entered into the marriage in good faith initially. So long as they can do that they will be eligible for a 10-year green card.

[dolphin1 5]

From all that I have read online on message boards and the official sites, they rarely refuse anyone a 10 year greencard. In England, you have to prove at 24 months that you're still married or you're out, because you're there on a visa. But in the US, the visa only gets you in the door, and your greencard keeps you here. It's more complicated than that, but after too many hours researching, I have come to terms with the fact that my husband might never have cared about me.

Our divorce should be final in the next month or so, and I am pretty sure he's going to be married by the time his greencard expires to the girl who took him in and has been supporting him since he left me. I have had to deal with a lot of sorrow these last 8 months, but the small things to be grateful for are, at least he left before I paid for his 10 year green card next summer and his citizenship the following summer. For him and my step kids. I'd have done anything for the children. We still talk a couple times a week and they'll be spending next summer with me. They call me mom and I consider them my children. Let her pay all their expenses. She deserves to lose everything just like I have.

Why were you going to pay his immigration expenses? i think you spoilled him and he got used to you paying his stuffs. My wife (USC) paid fees for the '' K1 '' and when i came here i have been paying fees for AOS, ROC and now N400, and i am sooo ok with that because it's my responsability to pay for those things as i am the beneficiary. Anyway, i hope you will get stronger and move on, you will find someone else and there are plenty of kids that need someone to love them.

[Hokie97 5]

Why were you going to pay his immigration expenses? i think you spoilled him and he got used to you paying his stuffs. My wife (USC) paid fees for the '' K1 '' and when i came here i have been paying fees for AOS, ROC and now N400, and i am sooo ok with that because it's my responsability to pay for those things as i am the beneficiary. Anyway, i hope you will get stronger and move on, you will find someone else and there are plenty of kids that need someone to love them.

He didn't have any money. I immigrated to England first and had to pay my own expenses for that. Then when we decided to move to the US, either I had to pay to get the family here or we had to stay there, and we thought that the kids being educated in the US would be better for them. He only found part time work here, as he had no particular job skills (had been on single parent benefits in England for 6 years after his first wife died). In order to keep them in the US next summer, I'd have had to pay for their 10 year greencards. It was a fact of life that I was willing to do because I loved them so much.

I did spoil him. I sacrificed a lot myself and I was happy to because I enjoyed making them happy. Now I am learning to spoil myself again, and it's actually a hard habit to break, the "I don't need that" mindset, and buying something or doing something just because I want to. I do believe that I will find love again. But if I don't, I guess I am okay with that too. I was happy before I met him, and I'll be happy again. I will always consider the children "mine." They still call me mom and talk non stop about coming to visit me in the spring. My daughter and I talk for hours once or more times a week. I won't ditch them just because he's ditched me. His new girl is paying his way for everything now, from moving them across country to I can only assume his green card next summer, as he seems to be off work more than he's at work some weeks. But that's not my problem to worry about now.