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[irishgirl73 0]

very good points, but you must realize how easy it is for you to complain about others now that you are nearly through the process. It is like the saying "hindsight is 20/20". So really by now you should have adapted to some people's constant non stop whinning on this board. I know i have. I personally don't beleive their is such a thing as a dumb question, those don't bother me. So to anyone who really doesn't understand something and who has tried to find an answer, go ahead and ask away.

What used to bother me though, but what i have grown accostomed to, are peoples pointless rants. My current favorite is about someone who believes that they have been singled out by VSC to be the only person in history to have to endure what should be "normal" 90 waiting period to get an NAO2. "But i am going through speedy vermont, F*** everyone else, i am going through vermont and i want to be approved in 5 business days or else"

I know everyone here misses their loved one, but does love really make people so extremely self centered? Maybe love makes people blind to how the real world works. I mean i am going through the philippines embassy that may take 6 months to schedule an interview, but i am not calling my congressman. IT IS CALLED LIFE PEOPLE, DEAL WITH IT.

I am the one complaining-ryecatcher seriously you are getting on my last nerve. I have not said anything about your last 4 nasty replies but now I will. I have EVERY right to complain about my waiting at VSC. I have been waiting 75 freaking days & yes I realize it isn't as long as some others but again for the 500th time-IT IS A LONG WAIT FOR VERMONT!!! If I want to rant on here I should be able to. You were approved in a few days-well good for you! Have some freaking compassion for those of us who are waiting. If you look at the example timelines-I am WELL outside processing dates for the VSC. So I am pissed. I am NOT self centered no one on here is-we are all here for eachother, it is a "community" right? You only post negative comments-why don't you keep them to yourself-seriously, I can't speak for others but I know I am sick of reading them. You have made really nasty comments to my last few posts. I appreciate everyone's input-but as far as I am concerned, I wish you would just not respond at all.

Aussie-this is so NOT directed at you

[irishgirl73 0]

Another thing-how dare you say that I have a fu@k everyone else attitude-that is unfair & not true. I support everyone on this site whether it be good or bad news. I live in Philly-my man is in Dublin & I am going thru Vsc so processing times at other centers do NOT effect us. I sympathize with people that are waiting for ridiculous times, but for VSC 75 days is an eternity. I am NOT going through CSC, TSC-I am waiting at VSC!

Also I put a post on the other day asking if anyone else had waited 60 days or more-it wasn't because I was feeling "persecuted" I was just wondering if anyone else waited as long & if so-how long? Seemed like a normal post to me but I guess it got under someone's skin. Self centered attitude? I would think most people on here are concerned about their cases & it does not make anyone self centered as you put it.

[john_and_marlene 162]

Whenever I've looked for helpful information here I've taken note of several factors when weighing the responses (in no particular order):

1. Have they SUCCESSFULLY COMPLETED the same actions. For example, if they are giving advice about preparing an application for a K1 visa, have they been approved already for a K1? If they are giving advice about AOS, do they have thier GC?

2. Did they get an RFE ... and for what?

3. Same consulate or service center?

4. Similarity of circumstances.

[rebeccajo 14]

Whenever I've looked for helpful information here I've taken note of several factors when weighing the responses (in no particular order):

1. Have they SUCCESSFULLY COMPLETED the same actions. For example, if they are giving advice about preparing an application for a K1 visa, have they been approved already for a K1? If they are giving advice about AOS, do they have thier GC?

2. Did they get an RFE ... and for what?

3. Same consulate or service center?

4. Similarity of circumstances.

EXACTLY! Nobody can be an authority on everything. Would you ask a friend his opinion about buying a Ford when all his life he has driven a Chevy?

[snz1802 0]

geez everybody seems to be in an uproar these days

[irishgirl73 0]

geez everybody seems to be in an uproar these days

I can't speak for anyone else but I am just so tired of a certain person giving me sh@t everytime I post something. It is a little early in the day to be so angry.................sorry everyone

[motu 6]

Though I agree with almost everything you say - I think that many people come across this site 'after' they have started the process (I and many of you found this before or at the same time as when we started the process.)

For those, who didn't; its a hell of a task to read through all the guides, example forms and pinned info and do searches for specific topics etc. - and many of these features are unknown to the new users - it took me a while to figure all this out also. For them its much quicker to just ask the one or two specific questions they have at that point in time; they do not know if this site is even worth their time or not; its only later that they will realize as we did, how helpful it really is - if at that time you help them by giving them the links to the guides or example forms or suggesting it - that's very valid and gentle thing to do. Or, be the brave one and give them the answer directly or by describing how you handled that question. I like reading some of the new posts asking the same questions - to see how people respond based on their experiences - it tells me that there are many ways to 'skin the Immigration cat'. Best wishes and Good Luck

[Peter Miami 0]

Though I agree with almost everything you say - I think that many people come across this site 'after' they have started the process (I and many of you found this before or at the same time as when we started the process.)

For those, who didn't; its a hell of a task to read through all the guides, example forms and pinned info and do searches for specific topics etc. - and many of these features are unknown to the new users - it took me a while to figure all this out also. For them its much quicker to just ask the one or two specific questions they have at that point in time; they do not know if this site is even worth their time or not; its only later that they will realize as we did, how helpful it really is - if at that time you help them by giving them the links to the guides or example forms or suggesting it - that's very valid and gentle thing to do. Or, be the brave one and give them the answer directly or by describing how you handled that question. I like reading some of the new posts asking the same questions - to see how people respond based on their experiences - it tells me that there are many ways to 'skin the Immigration cat'. Best wishes and Good Luck

I agree with you "motu".

Peter Miami

[Jaylen Brit 0]

We all help each other out - thats what this place is FOR and Im lucky I doscovered it before we started filing cos it gave me SOOOO much info.

I didn't read the guides at first - but I did eventually; I know they are HUGE tabs but I never noticed them I was THAT keen to get some help on the amount of time TSC was taking (I rememebr my first post here, I was panicking, lol). My Q was answered, and later I saw someone mention the 'guides' so I went and read them. I lurked here for ages after that first post but I still had Q's even after the Guide-reading.

I like it here cos everyone is going thru the same sh@t - hwoever fast or slow that happens to be - and everyone supports everyone else - providing ppl don't get snotty or have a nutso 5 mins where they can't seem to type anything nice in response to a reasonable question.

We all have bad days - and we all get frustrated - but this place, and the ppl, are really a godsend.

We pass on the good vibe we get from being helped by helping others -

no-one's saying don't post a question even if its been asked 1000 times..we might have READ it 1000 times but you only asked it once peace out ppl - you all are worthwhile each in their own way (except the trolls of course )

Thanks for all the help

[rebeccajo 14]

*sigh*

Everybody is being REALLY touchy and I wish now I hadn't started this.

The important point I was trying to make was to pay attention to where you get your advice from.

That is all. There was no criticism intended here, or lectures, or anything.

I have talked to literally dozens of posters here who say to me 'where are the guides?'? For some reason they don't see the tabs.

And I have seen so many people pass out incorrect advice when they think they are being helpful, but if they were to look at where the poster or their loved on is, the info is WRONG!

I guess I didn't word things right. Back to my dark cold corner now.

[aussiewench 9]

Whenever I've looked for helpful information here I've taken note of several factors when weighing the responses (in no particular order):

1. Have they SUCCESSFULLY COMPLETED the same actions. For example, if they are giving advice about preparing an application for a K1 visa, have they been approved already for a K1? If they are giving advice about AOS, do they have thier GC?

2. Did they get an RFE ... and for what?

3. Same consulate or service center?

4. Similarity of circumstances.

EXACTLY! Nobody can be an authority on everything. Would you ask a friend his opinion about buying a Ford when all his life he has driven a Chevy?

Does this mean I'm barred from the K-1 forum I like it in there

In general I agree with that..especially when it comes to the different consulates...but there are members who research and can talk chevy's and fords when it comes to service center and NVC processes. I for one rarely answer a K-1 question unless I feel I can and have something concrete to offer via research. So its not always that cut and dried. Im by no means an authority on everything but I do love the K-1 forum. So please let me stay hahahahahahahaha

[irishgirl73 0]

*sigh*

Everybody is being REALLY touchy and I wish now I hadn't started this.

The important point I was trying to make was to pay attention to where you get your advice from.

That is all. There was no criticism intended here, or lectures, or anything.

I have talked to literally dozens of posters here who say to me 'where are the guides?'? For some reason they don't see the tabs.

And I have seen so many people pass out incorrect advice when they think they are being helpful, but if they were to look at where the poster or their loved on is, the info is WRONG!

I guess I didn't word things right. Back to my dark cold corner now.

I agree with you 100% I think people here(I am guilty as well) take some people's OPINIONS as gospel & that isn't right. I think we are all sharing experiences-The way I assembled my k-1 packet may not be the way someone else did & that's is why if someone asks "should I include pics?" or whatever, we are all clear that the way we did, or do things may not be what's best for the other person. I freaked in an earlier post b/c someone singled me out & it wasn't fair. Don't want you or Aussie to think it was at all directed at you because it wasn't

[Mand 1]

Before I joined this site, I had never even seen a forum type site before, so had no feckin' clue what I was doing!! I didn't know how to post...I thought you clicked on the threads that are shown when you first sign in...so that's what I did for awhile!!! People must have been wondering why I was constantly hijacking threads So belated apologies to any of the posters I imposed upon!!

[almaty 19]

*sigh*

Everybody is being REALLY touchy and I wish now I hadn't started this.

The important point I was trying to make was to pay attention to where you get your advice from.

That is all. There was no criticism intended here, or lectures, or anything.

I have talked to literally dozens of posters here who say to me 'where are the guides?'? For some reason they don't see the tabs.

And I have seen so many people pass out incorrect advice when they think they are being helpful, but if they were to look at where the poster or their loved on is, the info is WRONG!

I guess I didn't word things right. Back to my dark cold corner now.

you did a good job posting this...

[meddykomp 0]

Whenever I've looked for helpful information here I've taken note of several factors when weighing the responses (in no particular order):

1. Have they SUCCESSFULLY COMPLETED the same actions. For example, if they are giving advice about preparing an application for a K1 visa, have they been approved already for a K1? If they are giving advice about AOS, do they have thier GC?

2. Did they get an RFE ... and for what?

3. Same consulate or service center?

4. Similarity of circumstances.

For the most part I agree with this, though I would not use an RFE as a reason to not take advice from someone. The RFE means they know what mistake they made and sometimes it isnt even about a mistake, but something else entirely. One thing that I did when I first started reading the forum was ask a couple people about the negative experiences they had. I learned from their experiences.