HE CHEATED ME

[PinayArmyWife 2]

A guy like that is not worth it gurl. Leave him now while you still can. If he cause you this much hearthache and pain now, he will just keep doing it. Never marry a guy who can't be trusted.

We all have our hearts broken...and trust me it will help and someday you will find someone who will give you the love and respect you deserve.

Be strong...GOd bless your heart.

[Messybrownhair 251]

Leave him now! You will just be miserable with a man like that, you will never trust him, and he will never treat you the way you deserve. Move on and find a better man.. You have to know that you're worth better than that!

[Aidenaileen 1]

if I was you, I give up 101% sure. So much lies from the beginning. I dont waste time for people dont love and trust me.

[PatRhea 1]

sis, get over him, he dont deserved your love, he is a bigtime player...its easy to say I LOVE YOU and I NEED YOU but for that kind of act of him..he dont meant what he says...and he cheated you not just once...wake up!!! you deserved a better man than him...if he loves you he will never lie...he will never hurt you...he is just your boyfriend but he treated you like that, what more if he became your husband, think what future awaits for you...yes, he is helping you financially but he dont have the right to insult you!!! RESPECT and LOVE yourself first...but you have your own choice, you know what is right and wrong....you were saying you can't leave him because you love him so much, but think what is he doing to you? do you think he cares for your feelings? move on....

[Utha 10]

Sorry for what happened to you. Let him go. You deserve better. He WON'T CHANGE. Dont let love blinds you. He thinks he smart by keep fooling you?. NO, NO, NO. It will hurt for the first time, but it is worth for the rest of your life.

[angeldee888 0]

Being hurt by someone you love is never easy. I'm really sorry that you're going thru all this pain. Its never easy to see the bad things in your relationship because you love the man and you hope with all your heart that he loves you back the same way or even more.

But the thing is, a man who wants you in his life will do everything he can to SHOW YOU that he wants you in it without you even having to tell him.

A man who wants you in his life will do everything to KEEP YOU IN HIS LIFE ~ like finding a way to get you both to be together not by just a few days visit here and there a few times a year. THAT IS NOT A RELATIONSHIP. To me ... that's a SIDELINE.

A man who loves you will be careful with your heart and will do his best to not hurt you INTENTIONALLY because he does not want you to be in pain and because he loves you and he wants you to be happy because BEING WITH YOU makes him happy.

there is no perfect relationship in this world. One couples formula for making their relationship work does not mean that their same formula will work for another or ten thousand other relationships but the key is that BOTH of you find a way to make it work.

BOTH means you and him. Not just you alone.

When you feel alone in a relationship ... then WHY BE OR CONTINUE TO BE IN ONE?

RELATIONSHIP = You + Him

We all want to be loved and needed and cherished but to be with someone who makes you unhappy and hurting all the time with all the lying and the deceit is not the man for you.

All the effort you put in being with him should be focused instead in finding the right man for you because you deserve that.

You deserve the right kind of love and you deserve to be happy.

I will pray for you.

God bless.

[Aztec&Taino 144]

It really is difficult, many times impossible, to rebuild the trust in the relationship once the trust is broken through lies and cheating. I was not clear from your post on what part of the process you are, currently, but I would suggest you give a serious thought to the idea of leaving him and trying to move on from this relationship. If you feel as though you cannot forgive him and trust him again, then you are better of without one another.

Best wishes!

[--czandra-- 1]

Being hurt by someone you love is never easy. I'm really sorry that you're going thru all this pain. Its never easy to see the bad things in your relationship because you love the man and you hope with all your heart that he loves you back the same way or even more.

But the thing is, a man who wants you in his life will do everything he can to SHOW YOU that he wants you in it without you even having to tell him.

A man who wants you in his life will do everything to KEEP YOU IN HIS LIFE ~ like finding a way to get you both to be together not by just a few days visit here and there a few times a year. THAT IS NOT A RELATIONSHIP. To me ... that's a SIDELINE.

A man who loves you will be careful with your heart and will do his best to not hurt you INTENTIONALLY because he does not want you to be in pain and because he loves you and he wants you to be happy because BEING WITH YOU makes him happy.

there is no perfect relationship in this world. One couples formula for making their relationship work does not mean that their same formula will work for another or ten thousand other relationships but the key is that BOTH of you find a way to make it work.

BOTH means you and him. Not just you alone.

When you feel alone in a relationship ... then WHY BE OR CONTINUE TO BE IN ONE?

RELATIONSHIP = You + Him

We all want to be loved and needed and cherished but to be with someone who makes you unhappy and hurting all the time with all the lying and the deceit is not the man for you.

All the effort you put in being with him should be focused instead in finding the right man for you because you deserve that.

You deserve the right kind of love and you deserve to be happy.

I will pray for you.

God bless.

hey angeldee thank you for such a very good advice i really appreciate this.

[patient2010 93]

sorry for this mess you are going through and hopefully you make a decision that is best for you......

[ThomKimQC 14]

sorry to hear that sis...

you need to make a decision don't let that guys waist your time w/the kind of relationship that he can offer...you better talk to him and try to tell him how you feel and give your self a space from all this drama.coz you already taking to much torture..test the guy

and make him realized what he did to you is plain wrong and make him do all the hard work to have you back.

but if he didnt do that then just accept the fact that you had a bad luck w/him

besides he is not the only guy living in this planet eventually you will going to get over him.

i understand that it will be a tuft decision but trust me its better to lose a lover than be w/a cheater!!!!

Being a man with a soft heart this real-life story touches truly. The one beauty of a filipina is her heart and if a filipina truly loves a man it's a gift from God. I've been to Phils more times than I can remember now but the one thing I always remember about the country is the majority of genuinely good-hearted people who entered my life there. My fiancee Kim will tell you our journey has not been without stones, but she knows that if she ever needed me at any hour on the day I would be by her side. A relationship is a two-way street dear, it take maturity from both sides in order to sustain. If this guy truly loved you then his actions would have been different. I am a man and to be honest with you when a man no longer loves a woman his actions will show. Your guy is confused right now because he has too many women involved in his life currently, which is causing him to play games with your heart making you suffer. my thoughts to you, find yourself again, your net worth and move on. Yes it is going to be difficult at first because your heart is always vested in him but it is time for you to face reality my dear filipina and regain your happiness. Life is too short to be spending it on someone who is not worth your tears. There are so many good men out there who would appreciate a woman like yourself to be devoted to. Love yourself first and the rest will follow : )

Thom-

[R&W 5]

I hear your pain, OP. I'm sorry.

I agree to all the advices mentioned. I also would like to remind you that you are precious and beautiful. And I know that you have the strength in you to stand tall.

I understand the disappointment because it looks like you're his dependent, financially. But I hope that after you cry, you will be able to find your life and find a job. A woman like you sure will be able to meet Mr. Right, at the right time, right place and right circumstances.

Love from the VJ Family.

[--czandra-- 1]

I hear your pain, OP. I'm sorry.

I agree to all the advices mentioned. I also would like to remind you that you are precious and beautiful. And I know that you have the strength in you to stand tall.

I understand the disappointment because it looks like you're his dependent, financially. But I hope that after you cry, you will be able to find your life and find a job. A woman like you sure will be able to meet Mr. Right, at the right time, right place and right circumstances.

Love from the VJ Family.

thanks for the great advice R&W actually yes , he is the one who was supporting me since he dont want me to find a job he said no need to work. But then maybe he thought since he's the one supporting me so i dont have rights to object, or ask anything on his business or life. He is not giving extra just really fit here in house expenses maybe he scared me to go anywhere with friends but he knew tht im not that kind of girl that goin anywhere, and if i goin to other places he always call and text me every hour. but he never heard me to ask more im contented on what he can give to me.

[rizallen 0]

I was happy and was looking forward for our plans to get married when he get back home here in Philippines this coming April again and to visit his son in Visayas. he had an ex pinay gf before we met and the girl got pregnant on thier son. but im glad i found his one of his toughest secrets. He has an affair with american woman his long time friend for 10yrs in US . I became a good honest gf, devoted and all i wanted is to be with him forever. i never tried to cheat him and no secrets tht need to hide. he knows where i am when im out he keep calling me . text etc. I knew they are friends for so long but later i smell somthing fishy with them. i found out too tht he knows the password of that woman in one social site cause one time i sent her a friend request in a nice way cause i thought they are just good friends, i told her in message that i really love her friend and he is my life so on and on. then when my bf found it he got mad at me and said alot of things that sound im looking for a fight to tht girl i just only told on the message that i love her friend so much he is wonderful person i met but he became hysterical and told me dont include her in our drama. (so whats the problem on tht? i just wanna be friendly to some of his good friends) then he started to blocked me in his sites for not to post anything like ilove you i miss you something like that, then i wondered why why why he dont want us to get connected and he is so overprotected to tht girl from me. then following day he sent me a printedscreen to show some stuff online then i found out tht his background wallpaper is that picture of that girl and the social site account of tht girl was open too and he is the one manipulating it. I dont know if it his intentions to show me what he got now or i dont know. so meaning im blocked now in her social page but im sure he is the one blocked me using her site. then after that i still tried to observed them while he blocked me in his site not to ppost comment then the woman now start posting, interact in all his post, so sweet and fishy conversation. i tried to ask him over and over to tell me the truth but he always keep his mouth close. and just keep telling me shes just a friend but i dont believe they are so sweet with each other.

i dont know what to do i felt im cheated, i just want an advise for this if do i need to give up or still fight for him. Thats not the first time i caught him in his lies. Year 2009 september he flew here in Phil and one day in september he told me he wanted to visit his son and he missing it too bad in visayas even the mom of his son is also there living but he told me his mom is not there its on another town. so then i told him just go visit your son so then thats what he did, im surprised he went back in manila after 2days cause i thought its not enought why is it so fast, then he never told me the reason. Ok then after 1 week its time for him to get back in US and he told me he want so bad to get an extension but the airlines wont let him, then folowing morning its the time for "him to go back to US" i told him i will go join him in airport but he refused, i thought its fine if u dont want. Then im shocked he never went online after 48hours supposed he is in US already, then after 2days he came online and he said he is stranded because of the flood in DAllas teaxas and he had to stay in his friends house so no internet no connection its why he cant get online he just borrowed a connection in his friend so he wont take long to chat with me, then i just found out he still in Philipines and went back in the town of his son without informing me since im his gf . I dont get him why he needs to lie, its ok with me if he wants to be with his son longer since he told me his ex is not longer living on their house in visayas.He stayed there for another week. then he is the one told me tht he still there on time he needs to get back here in manila for his flight goin to US next day.

i dont know what to do if i let go him and give him freedom than to keep him and keep me cheating and fool at my back. im so confuse. just need an advice guys.

thank you for reading this.

Im just upset, i gave him all my trust, devotion. i never took advantange on him for money and he knows tht.

find someone better than him...he is not worth your love...

[--czandra-- 1]

sorry to hear that sis...

you need to make a decision don't let that guys waist your time w/the kind of relationship that he can offer...you better talk to him and try to tell him how you feel and give your self a space from all this drama.coz you already taking to much torture..test the guy

and make him realized what he did to you is plain wrong and make him do all the hard work to have you back.

but if he didnt do that then just accept the fact that you had a bad luck w/him

besides he is not the only guy living in this planet eventually you will going to get over him.

i understand that it will be a tuft decision but trust me its better to lose a lover than be w/a cheater!!!!

Being a man with a soft heart this real-life story touches truly. The one beauty of a filipina is her heart and if a filipina truly loves a man it's a gift from God. I've been to Phils more times than I can remember now but the one thing I always remember about the country is the majority of genuinely good-hearted people who entered my life there. My fiancee Kim will tell you our journey has not been without stones, but she knows that if she ever needed me at any hour on the day I would be by her side. A relationship is a two-way street dear, it take maturity from both sides in order to sustain. If this guy truly loved you then his actions would have been different. I am a man and to be honest with you when a man no longer loves a woman his actions will show. Your guy is confused right now because he has too many women involved in his life currently, which is causing him to play games with your heart making you suffer. my thoughts to you, find yourself again, your net worth and move on. Yes it is going to be difficult at first because your heart is always vested in him but it is time for you to face reality my dear filipina and regain your happiness. Life is too short to be spending it on someone who is not worth your tears. There are so many good men out there who would appreciate a woman like yourself to be devoted to. Love yourself first and the rest will follow : )

Thom-

Thank you Thom for your good advice it made me calm. Atleast while its early i found his real color. We was planning to get married when he come back here in PH and file me spouse visa but glad it will never happen now, he revealed me his real personality.

[ThomKimQC 14]

Thank you Thom for your good advice it made me calm. Atleast while its early i found his real color. We was planning to get married when he come back here in PH and file me spouse visa but glad it will never happen now, he revealed me his real personality.

See it didn't take long for you to start realizing your worth. The healing process has begun and believe me there are plenty good men out there and the right one will find you.