March 2011 Filers..

[LookyWhatIFound 38]

Looky, Andie, everyone --

The Best is wished to all for this New Year!

Andie, I am so glad to hear that you and Kevin were able to see each other and spend some time together!! That is really, really neat! I am excited to hear that your motivation levels have increased substantially.

Looky, I am very sorry about the latest in you and your fiance's saga. Despite the obvious desire that her condition be better, I am glad to hear that things are not worse. That is good news that she is trusting enought to understand who you are. With the memory loss, how was it known she hit her head? Did someone find her and help her get to the doctor? It is good that she has you to guide her through this, even give her an anchor of sorts. Also, yes, it is good that you are continuing to consider alternative options and very good that options are available. Prayers still continuing...

Here, Inday and I are doing pretty good. My job took me overseas from September to December so that separation was difficult for us, especially for Inday. We had a very happy reunion just before Christmas, however! Now, Inday is still awaiting AOS results, has received work authorization (and is considering her options in this regard) and is still working on getting her driving learning permit and learning to drive [she never had to learn before because all kinds of public transportation was always so available in Philippines & Singapore]. Inday and I are both learning about being married which is quite an education in itself but a wonderful adventure :-)

Take care all, and once again, many good wishes extend to all for the coming new year...

--RK

Hi RK glad to hear you and Inday are doing well. I can imagine those 3 months you were away were quite tough for Inday, and especially cause she's used to a warmer climate. But its great thats over now!

Thanks for all your nice words. Yes what can I say, when you love someone you have to go through the ringer for them. Loreta's a tough woman, and been through a lot, She deserves better and its my real goal in life to give it to her. I've known her for more than 10 years now. I think what she's been going through this past year has probably got a lot to do with a middle age crisis, and some stress issues from her early days, like her constantly getting pneumonia in the past.

I suspected she got hit in the head somehow the day I was finally able to talk when she was finally able to answer her phone. She sounded, oh so terrible, groggy and tired and I think barely got to talk for a minute or 2 before I had to tell her to get some sleep. The night when she had this incident, she texted me that she is in the hospital. It turned out that she left her dog with her neighbor and telling her that she had to go to the hospital. Her neighbor brought Loreta back 5 days later. Well anyway this neighbor is now Loreta's roommate. Which is actually good cause I prefer Loreta not being alone in her current state.

The doctors at the hospital scanned her head and thats how they knew she hit her head. There's a little more, when she gets very stressed, or maybe its her minds last attempt to avoid getting sick. Her mind sometimes gets her into this sort of sleep walking state where all she wants to do is clean things. Unfortunately on that night in question she took a broom outside and got bitten by a dog. I know that sounds funny but its the truth. So far I've taken up learning a little hypnosis and I've tried 2 little things on her and actually they seem to work. So, since I'm the one who knows her better than anyone else I think I should take up the challenge to cure her of these issues, especially cause they're probably from long lingering issues that really need to be put to bed now.

Take Care, RK, and Andie's got her motivation back! Happy new year everybody!

[LookyWhatIFound 38]

Updates for you, RK and Andie. The doctors say Loreta still has some swelling in her head but its much better than before. I read on the net that blood flow to the head is another important factor for memory. So they did a test on her for blood flow and waiting for results, meanwhile they gave her medicine for that.

I'm hoping these next couple months will be break thru months for Andie and Kevin! RK, hopefully whatever you and Inday need to do for AOS are coming along. Good luck all!

Edited January 22, 2013 by LookyWhatIFound

[Andie 147]

Thanks Looky... I'm hoping the same for you and Loreta.. that Loreta has the help she needs and is better soon. She is so lucky to have someone as devoted as you obviously are. Such a battle, but I know that when you know it is right... well, you just know.

The difficult part for me now is having just been together, I don't want the next phase to be too long. It's really tough right now. Hopefully things start to move soon.

RK... your time apart must have been difficult for you both. My best wishes for the 'here and now'. Hoping the best for you always. It's really comforting to get your messages A real reflection of your special character and sensitivity - much appreciated.

Looky, also, I value your ongoing support. I'm hoping for the very best result for you and Loreta and that things move forward from now on.

[LookyWhatIFound 38]

Thanks Looky... I'm hoping the same for you and Loreta.. that Loreta has the help she needs and is better soon. She is so lucky to have someone as devoted as you obviously are. Such a battle, but I know that when you know it is right... well, you just know.

The difficult part for me now is having just been together, I don't want the next phase to be too long. It's really tough right now. Hopefully things start to move soon.

RK... your time apart must have been difficult for you both. My best wishes for the 'here and now'. Hoping the best for you always. It's really comforting to get your messages A real reflection of your special character and sensitivity - much appreciated.

Looky, also, I value your ongoing support. I'm hoping for the very best result for you and Loreta and that things move forward from now on.

Thanks so much Andie, for your support also. Oh this is feeling like it may take some time. I remember that time when Loreta got that tick bite, and reading on the internet that sometimes people have relapses after they recover. Thats exactly how this feels. She got this tick bite in a forested park next to a zoo. A tick next to the zoo could be quite dangerous cause the tick could also have attached itself to animals.

Loreta's headaches are slowly getting better and now she can go without the headache pills. I have been thinking, and talking to Loreta about it, that I want to go see her in the next month or 2. Cause if her memory isn't back by then maybe it would be better to get married. The Cyprus embassy does allow Direct Consular filing in some cases and since we have gone through USCIS already, maybe they might allow that for us? I'll have to check with the embassy and see if thats possible.

In general I feel hopeful cause we are fixing a lot of the issues that got us in this tangled web, like her constant pneumonia from her childhood days and whatever bad things that did for menatally. Stay strong Andie, you and Kevin will get through these tough times.

[RK_and_Inday 10]

Lookie, Andie - How are things going/ progressing for you? Thank you for kind words.

Recently Inday overcame AOS hurdle; Inday received (conditional) permanent resident card in April. have a little bit of paperwork break until Removal of Conditons petition preparation about Autumn of 2014. Still working on other things (SS# for Inday--we've had hassles, delays; getting Inday's driver's learner's permit and teaching her to drive--very interesting for learner and teacher when learner has had absolutely zero pervious driving experience; Philippines paperwork items; more. It never ends.)

Thoughts and prayers continuing for you both.

--RK

[LookyWhatIFound 38]

Hey RK how are you doing? I just noticed your post on here! Wow how time flies! I imagine you've turned Inday into an expert driver by now?

Things are going surprisingly well considering .... Seven months since my last post and I've gone to see Loreta twice. The first time in England where she lives now, that was around March. She didn't quite remember me but had the feeling she knew me and we had a great two weeks!

I just got back from Latvia, about 2 weeks ago, where she and I took the same plane from Amsterdam and sat next to each other on the trip to and from her home town. We had been discussing either getting married in England. Now I've switched gears a little after emailing the Cyprus embassy to see if we can still possibly transfer our case to London. They sent me an OF-236 form to fill out and send to London to start the transfer of our case. I mailed it to London but I really don't know if its that simple, I guess I'll just have to wait and see if I hear anything from them and I doubt communicating with them will be as quick and easy as it was with the CY Embassy.

Loreta seems like a new woman these days, like she's changed for the better. Don't know maybe she was going through a middle age crisis or something. Everything's gone pretty smoothly since she got to England. She still doesn't remember a lot from Cyprus, sort of like she's blocked that memory. There's no doubt now that she hit her head quite hard and she's very lucky! So I'm still hopeful we'll get something done.

Good luck to you and Inday! Take Care!

[LookyWhatIFound 38]

Just closing this thread on a yippee yahoo note! The London Embassy did transfer my K1 visa case! Good riddance Cyprus embassy, and don't let the door hit you on your way out!

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Just closing this thread on a yippee yahoo note! The London Embassy did transfer my K1 visa case! Good riddance Cyprus embassy, and don't let the door hit you on your way out!

Seeing that your case went to Cyprus embassy in 2011 and now is transferring to London.....why has your petition / K1 not expired

after 3 years of floating without an interview ?

[LookyWhatIFound 38]

Well the K1 petition was completed and approved at USCIS. As long as you stay active with the embassy they have to keep it open until you either get approved or denied the visa or tell them to close it. In my case I kept it going. Also I believe what the first Visa chief I dealt with created an incident, whether it was directly her fault or not, which could have got the embassy in trouble, if I had pursued that course.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

An approved petition has a 4 months validity and then it is up to the embassy to re validate it or not. In my case it was returned and expired
without re validating even though I stayed pro active during AP etc by emailing and keeping in contact. I guess yours did because there was no interview, still it amazes me that after 3 years they have not closed your case yet.

Good luck in London after your AP has completed ~

[LookyWhatIFound 38]

I'm sorry about your case. I am the petitioner and my fiancée was living in 'South Cyprus'. I don't really know but for sure they were getting the full brunt force of my emails. My fiancé also was quite sick at times, lost her memory also and that visa chief sending a thug 'investigator' to knock on her door and interrogate her abusively did not help. It was not at all her fault that she couldn't attend the interview, and I for sure let them know it.

Thanks we should do well, the ceac.state.gov site already has our status as 'Ready'.

P.S. Just for the record, It was more like 2 years and 3 months.

Edited January 8, 2014 by LookyWhatIFound

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Perhaps you had medical records from her doctor to proof that memory loss ? That would definitely help. Otherwise they may see it as a

possibility that she does not want to interview and just milk you for continuous support instead without intending to immigrate.

They are well aware that many women string several USC along like that, coming up with excuses to interview, so evidence would help.

What was their response when you told them about the method of the the "investigator" ?

Hope all goes well for you both in London.

[LookyWhatIFound 38]

Thanks for the concern Ebunoluwa but don't really want to talk about this stuff anymore. The Visa lady's, and I use the term loosely, communication through emails was more like how dare you accuse us of this we don't do those kind of things. But of course every time I mentioned that the guy knocked on her new door a week after we faxed them my fiancées new address, the emails coming back seemed like she was shouting at me that she doesn't like me accusing them. The guy that knocked on my fiancees door was telling her he was from the embassy and he said he knew who I was and told her my name. He was looking through all her papers. She realized later that he stole her police report from Cyprus and the one from her home country. Whats really whacky is that the police report he stole was dated 5/2011 was the one that the police station gave us just recently when she kept requesting a police report.

So I think it was actually some crooked cop high up in authority. I wouldn't doubt it if this guy has some sort of connection to the embassy. That's the only thing which would explain the leak of the information we faxed to the embassy leaking right to this cop. How the heck did he know my name?

He asked her if he could check her bedroom. She told him to leave. He left but insisting that she would be sorry for this. Her interview was the next week but he and his thugs grabbed her when she went outside and let her go on the Monday after her Friday interview.

By the way this wasn't the first time this guy attempted to knock on her door. The Visa lady admitted that they sent somebody the first time. My fiancée wasn't at home but this guy threatened her neighbors and for sure put some fear into my fiancées friend. I would say this was the same guy.

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But like I said I don't care about this stuff anymore. Also I've known my fiancée for 12 years and personally know quite well about her health issues and memory loss issues and chose to pursue the relationship anyway. She's my best friend and nothings going to separate us even if I have to live in England. These aren't excuses she's just got very stressed in Cyprus and that doesn't help her health wise.

In general the Cyprus embassy responded to all my questions, requests and comments. They also gave me the form for the transfer and did tell me that all my files were transferred. I wonder if they send that giant stack of emails of our conversations, well don't know. At this point don't care, what will be will be and I put up my fight.

Thanks, take care.

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Home investigations do happen. Even during AOS after arriving here I know of several members posting about investigators

coming to the home and asking to see the bedroom, the closets and yes...even the dirty laundry. They look for another person living

there if they suspect a sham marriage.
I don't understand why or who took the police report and why they took her.... that is bizarre. That does not sound like the embassy.

Was she there with a residential permit or was it the Cypriot immigration doing that ?

We had quite a bit of trouble with everything also but not to this extend.
Denied after 16 months of AP.
I respect your wish not to discuss this further.
12 years...that is a very long time and I hope you will be reunited soon.

Yes, they send everything on to the transfer embassy. Everything plus personal CO notes will be data shared.

[LookyWhatIFound 38]

She has a EU passport. There was some policeman that wanted to marry her long time ago, even though he was married. She told me she didn't want to marry him. I believe it was some sort of mess like this. Seems like somebody had it in for her and didn't want her to leave the country.

Right now don't know it could be all for NOT. Her dog is getting old and the vet says that the dog may die on a trip to the U.S. The dog means a lot to her so pursuing the K1 may not happen. So it remains to be seen what we do from here, a thought to abandon the relationship does cross my mind, but I don't like that thought an all.

Denied after 16 months is very rough. I'm sorry to hear that. Cyprus is a rough embassy because of the North Cyprus / South Cyprus conflict. I wish I had some words to say but its beyond my understanding. Good luck to you.