this is really bad...

[ak3 0]

Please be careful with the Egyptian men. I know you think its crazy (I did too) when I was warned. You just don't know the pain of the verbal and emotional abuse that goes on...and the cheating ...they are the biggest con men I know and can charm everyone into thinking they are so nice and respectful to elders, etc. then one day after 5 yrs of marriage they decide to tell you they have been cheating for 2 years with many people, and they have ben doing drugs and hiding it from you. Well, I have to say, of all thats happened, the most damaging thing was the emotional abuse and lowering of self-esteem that he did. Now, im isolated and feel like he was slowing making me devalue myself. I have been around vj for all these years and never had a clue. Thank God he didn't get me pregnant as he was trying to do to use against me and make me suffer like his slave by being forever attached thru a kid. Wow. I can honestly say that I nbever thought this would happen to me and it just did. I'm only 26 and I lived with him in Egypt for almost a year. I am too young for this mess. He knows he used me for a Green card and is willing to cancel it if there is any way?? Does anyone know if that is possible? I'm not sure how he could be such an idiot to have a beautiful home paid for, cat and dog, nice loving wife, new car, job, nice family, and yet thats not enough. I am so glad I found out early who he really was and I was so blinded and did not see the real him. When he got here, he changed and he wasn't able to be the man anymore since he didn't know how things worked here...so he cheated to make himself feel good. I don't know if he will read this and I could care less. No matter how pretty you are, or smart, or a person of great morals, they will still do it. Now that I have been through it myself, its my duty to warn others who might be blinded now as I was. If he does not get down on his knee to ask you to marry him do not do it. If he convinces you to quit work, school, etc to be with him becuase he "just doenst want to wait any longer to be with you or doesnt want to wait till you finish your school....dont do it. If he is not showing you WITH ACTIONS that he isnt a selfish person, please rethink it. They have a way with words, but definately not actions.... and they never are sorry for anything and they never are wrong. Yes I am sterotyping but there is a lot of truth behind that stereotype...and I would hate for someone to suffer that much...well if it happened to you send me a message and we can be friends.

Is the affadavit of support still in effect if he has the 10 yr gc?

He is willing to forgo his greencard....is there a way to officially do that?

Well, at least he confessed it to me now, and at least he is saying he wont come back. But then again, he said alot of things that weren't true.

Kristy

[SuperDuper! 230]

Sorry, not all Egyptian men are created alike. Some are defective. Most are great human beings.

Be careful of the size of the brush you paint with.

[Ban Hammer 13,460]

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[UmmSqueakster 54]

Although I bristle at your over-generalization of Egyptian men, I do think this part is important:

the most damaging thing was the emotional abuse and lowering of self-esteem that he did.

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If he convinces you to quit work, school, etc to be with him becuase he "just doenst want to wait any longer to be with you or doesnt want to wait till you finish your school....dont do it. If he is not showing you WITH ACTIONS that he isnt a selfish person, please rethink it. They have a way with words, but definately not actions.... and they never are sorry for anything and they never are wrong.

I disagree with this:

No matter how pretty you are, or smart, or a person of great morals, they will still do it. Now that I have been through it myself, its my duty to warn others who might be blinded now as I was. If he does not get down on his knee to ask you to marry him do not do it.

They MAY do it. It's not a 100% cheat rate where Egyptian men become scum once they come to the US. And I don't quite understand the correlation between bended knee proposals and cheating.

[~PalmTreeGurl~ 154]

Im sorry Kristy

[nurse1967 287]

I am so sorry this happened to you. However, your comments are more than likely falling on deaf ears. Just because one Egyptian male is a liar, cheater and con doesn't mean they all are. Whenever you marry ANYONE it is a crapshoot. Unfortunately this time the numbers didn't roll your way. Let go of your hatred towards an entire country of men and place the blame squarely where it belongs: on your ex.

[adillabbas 0]

Please be careful with the Egyptian men. I know you think its crazy (I did too) when I was warned. You just don't know the pain of the verbal and emotional abuse that goes on...and the cheating ...they are the biggest con men I know and can charm everyone into thinking they are so nice and respectful to elders, etc. then one day after 5 yrs of marriage they decide to tell you they have been cheating for 2 years with many people, and they have ben doing drugs and hiding it from you. Well, I have to say, of all thats happened, the most damaging thing was the emotional abuse and lowering of self-esteem that he did. Now, im isolated and feel like he was slowing making me devalue myself. I have been around vj for all these years and never had a clue. Thank God he didn't get me pregnant as he was trying to do to use against me and make me suffer like his slave by being forever attached thru a kid. Wow. I can honestly say that I nbever thought this would happen to me and it just did. I'm only 26 and I lived with him in Egypt for almost a year. I am too young for this mess. He knows he used me for a Green card and is willing to cancel it if there is any way?? Does anyone know if that is possible? I'm not sure how he could be such an idiot to have a beautiful home paid for, cat and dog, nice loving wife, new car, job, nice family, and yet thats not enough. I am so glad I found out early who he really was and I was so blinded and did not see the real him. When he got here, he changed and he wasn't able to be the man anymore since he didn't know how things worked here...so he cheated to make himself feel good. I don't know if he will read this and I could care less. No matter how pretty you are, or smart, or a person of great morals, they will still do it. Now that I have been through it myself, its my duty to warn others who might be blinded now as I was. If he does not get down on his knee to ask you to marry him do not do it. If he convinces you to quit work, school, etc to be with him becuase he "just doenst want to wait any longer to be with you or doesnt want to wait till you finish your school....dont do it. If he is not showing you WITH ACTIONS that he isnt a selfish person, please rethink it. They have a way with words, but definately not actions.... and they never are sorry for anything and they never are wrong. Yes I am sterotyping but there is a lot of truth behind that stereotype...and I would hate for someone to suffer that much...well if it happened to you send me a message and we can be friends.

Is the affadavit of support still in effect if he has the 10 yr gc?

He is willing to forgo his greencard....is there a way to officially do that?

Well, at least he confessed it to me now, and at least he is saying he wont come back. But then again, he said alot of things that weren't true.

Kristy

i feel sorry for you...but to be honest with you because of one person you cant blame everyone... like 5 fingers are not equal...i bel sum ppl do that for green card but not all....and thanks ur saved..from that mean guy May Allah Bless You

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

If your husband used you for a Green Card as you stated, then he got what he wanted from you. There's nothing you can do at this point as the 10-year card is unconditional. He can say whatever he wants, he can return to Egypt and come back or not leave at all, and the Affidavit of Support you signed will be enforceable even if you get a divorce. That's the bad part.

The good part is that you can learn from your mistakes and try to make your future a good one. At 26 you are still so young, and since you haven't been knocked up, you have a lot to be happy about. Right now you are hurt to the core, and who wouldn't be? But give it some time and you'll be back in the saddle, ride with more caution, and have many decades ahead of you to find the right cowboy to do it with.

[Haarp425 26]

Please be careful with the Egyptian men. I know you think its crazy (I did too) when I was warned. You just don't know the pain of the verbal and emotional abuse that goes on...and the cheating ...they are the biggest con men I know and can charm everyone into thinking they are so nice and respectful to elders, etc. then one day after 5 yrs of marriage they decide to tell you they have been cheating for 2 years with many people, and they have ben doing drugs and hiding it from you.

Con men are not country specific. They are everywhere and in every country. If he showed you proof that he was cheating on you and doing drugs, then you could believe him. However, not seeing those evidence, I think he is saying those things so you would end your relationship and file for divorce. If he is actually doing drugs and all those illegal things, that could haunt him when he applies for Naturalization.

If he has another "proper" girlfriend lined up and if the new girlfriend finds out that he was actually cheating on his ex-wife and doing drugs, I think that would cause some problem with his new girlfriend. If those cheating and doing drugs are made up, it is probably for you to get upset and end your relationship and then file for divorce so he could be with his new girlfriend.

In any case, I think he wants a divorce. No sense of continuing a relationship when one has already decided to quit.

I'm not sure how he could be such an idiot to have a beautiful home paid for, cat and dog, nice loving wife, new car, job, nice family, and yet thats not enough. I am so glad I found out early who he really was and I was so blinded and did not see the real him. When he got here, he changed and he wasn't able to be the man anymore since he didn't know how things worked here...so he cheated to make himself feel good. I don't know if he will read this and I could care less. No matter how pretty you are, or smart, or a person of great morals, they will still do it. Now that I have been through it myself, its my duty to warn others who might be blinded now as I was.

It is time to let him go (don't look back). Is the divorce pending or is it final?

If he does not get down on his knee to ask you to marry him do not do it.

I think it is an American way and not all men in other countries do this. Don't expect men from other countries to kneel to you when they propose because it is not their custom.

He is willing to forgo his greencard....is there a way to officially do that?

He is willing? I don't think so. You still believe him and he still have some control over you. He is saying those things to make you think he is not after for the GC

[Harsh_77 718]

there is nothing you can do about his GC - he has a GC and he can live here legally or go back to Egypt (which I doubt he is ever going to do) but if he wants to forgo his GC then all he has to do is go back and not return for year and hig GC automatically gets shot.