I was hoping this wouldn't happen...

[PurpleSky 19]

FH had his interview today in Dakar. As you can tell from the title, he's in AP. *SIGH*

I had him run down the questions he was asked and he was asked WAAAAYYYY too many questions (IMHO) about his brother (who is married to my cousin). I mean I kind of expected that they would ask a couple questions just because of the family angle. But I feel that they asked way too many. This is about our relationship, not theirs. I understand that it could look like my FBIL/CIL would want his brother here but to be fair he has been married to my cousin since 2002 and came here in 2003. My view of things says he would have been trying to get his baby brother here years before now.

One other thing that gave me pause as to why he could have been put in AP was the question of "what does your fiance do", to which FH answered "massaging". I AM a Licensed Massage Therapist, but I believe they wanted to know what I do for regular work. I feel that should have been worded differently, ie "where does your fiancee work?" For FH's thought process asking what someone does, is what they do in their spare time. In his mind that's totally different than what does your fiance do for work/where does your fiance work. KWIM

All in all I know God is in control, but they didn't even give FH a date to come back. Just that they would call him if they needed more information.

[eRica&Toney 5]

I am very upset and it wasn't our interview! Keep holding on and don't give up because God will make a way!

[PurpleSky 19]

Thank you Rica!

[patient2010 93]

No worries they will call him to bring his passport for the visa.... Hang in there

[rafetnatorop 0]

FH had his interview today in Dakar. As you can tell from the title, he's in AP. *SIGH*

I had him run down the questions he was asked and he was asked WAAAAYYYY too many questions (IMHO) about his brother (who is married to my cousin). I mean I kind of expected that they would ask a couple questions just because of the family angle. But I feel that they asked way too many. This is about our relationship, not theirs. I understand that it could look like my FBIL/CIL would want his brother here but to be fair he has been married to my cousin since 2002 and came here in 2003. My view of things says he would have been trying to get his baby brother here years before now.

One other thing that gave me pause as to why he could have been put in AP was the question of "what does your fiance do", to which FH answered "massaging". I AM a Licensed Massage Therapist, but I believe they wanted to know what I do for regular work. I feel that should have been worded differently, ie "where does your fiancee work?" For FH's thought process asking what someone does, is what they do in their spare time. In his mind that's totally different than what does your fiance do for work/where does your fiance work. KWIM

All in all I know God is in control, but they didn't even give FH a date to come back. Just that they would call him if they needed more information.

Sorry to hear that you guys are in AP. We were there for awhile. If it has been a month, I would call or email weekly until you get information.

We waited patiently for so long, and I finally emailed them yesterday, and they told us we were done with AP! If I hadn't asked, I wonder when they were planning to tell us that!

Have hope, it will all work out in the end.

[PurpleSky 19]

Sorry to hear that you guys are in AP. We were there for awhile. If it has been a month, I would call or email weekly until you get information.

We waited patiently for so long, and I finally emailed them yesterday, and they told us we were done with AP! If I hadn't asked, I wonder when they were planning to tell us that!

Have hope, it will all work out in the end.

Thank you! When is your honey coming home?

I'm trying to get a little more pep in my step because delayed doesn't mean denied. I just pray it goes quickly.

[rafetnatorop 0]

Thank you! When is your honey coming home?

I'm trying to get a little more pep in my step because delayed doesn't mean denied. I just pray it goes quickly.

He has an appointment to pick up his visa on the 8th-- then it's just a question of how much time he wants to wrap things up and come here. I hope before April.

Good luck!

[PurpleSky 19]

I heard from the embassy a couple days ago. They basically said don't worry this is a mandatory procedure now and since it involves getting information from other international agencies the time in AP depends on how fast the other agencies get the info back to them. One other thing is that the embassy is conducting the additional review so I believe it's a good thing (meaning our case didn't have to go back to Washington).

[patient2010 93]

I heard from the embassy a couple days ago. They basically said don't worry this is a mandatory procedure now and since it involves getting information from other international agencies the time in AP depends on how fast the other agencies get the info back to them. One other thing is that the embassy is conducting the additional review so I believe it's a good thing (meaning our case didn't have to go back to Washington).

Glad to hear the update and I am wishing a speedy AP for you guys!!!! No worries

[PurpleSky 19]

Glad to hear the update and I am wishing a speedy AP for you guys!!!! No worries

Thank you so much! I can always depend on you to keep my spirits up!

[ajigglin 0]

awww, sorry to hear that! hope the AP process is quick for you guys.

[LoveNigarmostyle 164]

Will keep you both in my prayers. Hope this is a step forward. Keep your chin up kiddo and let God do his work.

[PurpleSky 19]

awww, sorry to hear that! hope the AP process is quick for you guys.

Will keep you both in my prayers. Hope this is a step forward. Keep your chin up kiddo and let God do his work.

Thank you both!

God is good and He always has our best in mind because He knows just how he's planned our lives. This little setback has caused us to have to switch a few things around but overall, I know it will be ok.

[LoveNigarmostyle 164]

Purplesky, you could call DOS each week to check on your AP process. I did this morning and they said it is still in progress, it has been four months now but she did not seem alarmed about the length of time it is taking. She did mention this is normal for Nigeria. We will get through this and like others one day we will be writing about our "Happy Endings". Specially in pidgin if we ever get the class going..LOL

[Zee Bee 61]

Good luck to all you waiting. Hang in there