Contacting Congressman to speed up visa process

[Shawn & Emi 16]

I wonder if you realize the post you responded to is not the OP. Because the person you just spoke to didn't start the "whiny thread".

I thought the OP was brief in her question and not particularly whiny. Her question gets asked here all the time and often in a more "violent" manner than the way she phrased it. She got a couple of brief responses early in the thread that succinctly told her she would be wasting her time.

I see no need to beat up the OP. Really.

I'm not beating up the OP! I replied to the comment from thesantamarias (with a quote from them - sorry I thought that was quite clear) who did start a whiny thread and are now complaining about people who are married having an opinion! Jeez...

OP - my comment was in no way directed at you. Good luck with your process!

Edited March 3, 2011 by Shawn & Emi

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

I'm not beating up the OP! I replied to the comment from thesantamarias (with a quote from them - sorry I thought that was quite clear) who did start a whiny thread and are now complaining about people who are married having an opinion!

OP - my comment was in no way directed at you. Good luck with your process!

Well, beating up the "already marrieds" isn't necessary either, IMO. That's also been happening on Vj since - well the dawn of Vj time! Have you never read any of the threads in the spousal forum where they loudly bang the gong that their cases should take precedence over fiance cases, since they are the ones already in "legitimate relationships". I made that tongue-sticky-outey smiley but, seriously, those threads exist.

I've been married to my ulsterman for over five years. At some point, all this nasty immigration ####### fades away from your relationship. It really does. It's so so so fruitless for Vj members to get all stiff-legged about who waited longer or less, who is married or not, etcetera ad nauseum. It doesn't help get the cases processed, you know?

[Shawn & Emi 16]

Well, beating up the "already marrieds" isn't necessary either, IMO. That's also been happening on Vj since - well the dawn of Vj time! Have you never read any of the threads in the spousal forum where they loudly bang the gong that their cases should take precedence over fiance cases, since they are the ones already in "legitimate relationships". I made that tongue-sticky-outey smiley but, seriously, those threads exist.

I've been married to my ulsterman for over five years. At some point, all this nasty immigration ####### fades away from your relationship. It really does. It's so so so fruitless for Vj members to get all stiff-legged about who waited longer or less, who is married or not, etcetera ad nauseum. It doesn't help get the cases processed, you know?

Precisely - you don't need to tell me that!

Some people on here just seem to think that they're somehow "special" and deserve to have a better journey than others, for whatever reason. We all know how frustrating the whole immigration thing is, and how horrible it is to be apart from the one you love. People being critical of advice given by others who have been through the whole thing, just because those people are now together, is ridiculous IMO. They will one day be in the same position. All of us have been apart, some longer than others. The animosity is silly because generally people here are trying to help. I didn't resent those who were already together while we were doing the visa thing, because I knew they'd been in our situation before. Some people need to look at the bigger picture and realize the world doesn't revolve around them!

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

Precisely - you don't need to tell me that!

Some people on here just seem to think that they're somehow "special" and deserve to have a better journey than others, for whatever reason. We all know how frustrating the whole immigration thing is, and how horrible it is to be apart from the one you love. People being critical of advice given by others who have been through the whole thing, just because those people are now together, is ridiculous IMO. They will one day be in the same position. All of us have been apart, some longer than others. The animosity is silly because generally people here are trying to help. I didn't resent those who were already together while we were doing the visa thing, because I knew they'd been in our situation before. Some people need to look at the bigger picture and realize the world doesn't revolve around them!

USCIS has a way, though, of bringing folks back to the reality that their case is NOT special.

[Shawn & Emi 16]

USCIS has a way, though, of bringing folks back to the reality that their case is NOT special.

Yep, and I'm sure it'll be a nasty shock for them!

[Rebecca Jo 1,962]

Yep, and I'm sure it'll be a nasty shock for them!

Meh. I don't worry about it. Well, I only worry about it when I see someone really really spiraling about their wait.

IMO, this process is just hard. Carrying grudges about who got what when, well it serves no purpose. If a person tries an expedite or a congressional call and it's really unwarranted, it will be denied. I guess it keeps them busy.........

About a year after my husband came to the US, there was one particular female petitioner (in the UK forum) who came up with the idea of calling DOS every morning. She wanted to know if there was an interview date yet for her husband. Her idea caught on, and soon everyone was doing it. It's now standard practice (at least in the UK forums) to start bothering DOS so you can get a one-up on the interview date. And I suppose the only reason I bring this up is because the female in question said she did it because it gave her something to do.

I would idly note that when she got her interview date, it wasn't to her liking. She pulled a few strings (literally she told later on that she knew someone who knew someone) and got his date moved up. Up ahead, I might add, of other forum "friends" who had weddings scheduled BEFORE hers.

[Shawn & Emi 16]

About a year after my husband came to the US, there was one particular female petitioner (in the UK forum) who came up with the idea of calling DOS every morning. She wanted to know if there was an interview date yet for her husband. Her idea caught on, and soon everyone was doing it. It's now standard practice (at least in the UK forums) to start bothering DOS so you can get a one-up on the interview date. And I suppose the only reason I bring this up is because the female in question said she did it because it gave her something to do.

I would idly note that when she got her interview date, it wasn't to her liking. She pulled a few strings (literally she told later on that she knew someone who knew someone) and got his date moved up. Up ahead, I might add, of other forum "friends" who had weddings scheduled BEFORE hers.

She sounds like a lovely person!