Looks like I'm getting a divorce

[Fandango 1,439]

I really think this is found by the 'related topics' at the bottom and the bumping poster just doesn't realize?

Cos if not, #######.

[Marie1123 0]

LOL.

Almost divorced, by the end of May I should be free and single. Thanks for the support all!

[mRx 16]

LOL.

Almost divorced, by the end of May I should be free and single. Thanks for the support all!

congrats on flushin the #######!!!

[Fandango 1,439]

LOL.

Almost divorced, by the end of May I should be free and single. Thanks for the support all!

good to hear! So how's everything been? Your ex go to jail? How'd your family take the divorce news?

[Marie1123 0]

Everything's been a lot easier. My family seemed a little shocked at the news...they definately weren't disappointed like I thought they would be. In the end everyone was pretty supportive. As far as him, the scum bag he was arrested for gun possession and host of other things as I mentioned in my earlier posts. He was out on bail for almost 3 months and would you believe it? He was arrested for stealing a car, having 150 Ecstasy pills and what else? A Gun. He was just sentenced this past thursday 4 years with good behavior. Personally I think the justice system is a little too lenient. He didn't sign the divorce papers and showed up in court requesting alimony and host of other B.S. Luckily my court date is May 4th and he wont be there. The nerve....

[Jasman0717 9]

Everything's been a lot easier. My family seemed a little shocked at the news...they definately weren't disappointed like I thought they would be. In the end everyone was pretty supportive. As far as him, the scum bag he was arrested for gun possession and host of other things as I mentioned in my earlier posts. He was out on bail for almost 3 months and would you believe it? He was arrested for stealing a car, having 150 Ecstasy pills and what else? A Gun. He was just sentenced this past thursday 4 years with good behavior. Personally I think the justice system is a little too lenient. He didn't sign the divorce papers and showed up in court requesting alimony and host of other B.S. Luckily my court date is May 4th and he wont be there. The nerve....

Wow, what a nightmare, hopefully you are done with this idiot! Claudeth and I wish you the best in the future

[trueimage 0]

So Monday night I'm laying in bed sound asleep, after all it was 1 am! I get a collect call from the Essex County Jail and it's my husband. Apparently he's been arrested for multiple weapon charges and drug possesion. I'm thinking why is he in our local jail when he's supposed to be visiting his supposedly sick mom for the past week and not returning until September 5th. Well, it turns out, he never even left the county, he was staying with his 2 daughters...yes 2 daughters who were both conceived during the time of our marriage; FYI we've only been married a little over a year . No one can imagine how furious I was, then to top it off he wants me to believe the cops set him up and he's innocent and all this will go away. I contacted several attorneys today and they all said that a gun charge in NJ carries a minimum fine of 4 years, not to mention the drug charges, plus he had other charges pending. I feel like such a fool, all this stuff is coming out and I'm beginning to feel like his entire family knew and were all covering up for him. For example, his mom called me a few days ago telling me how nice it was to see him and how good he looks...blah blah blah. Words can't explain how frustrated and disgusted I am, for the last 4 months I've gotten 27 insufficient funds notices from our bank, today they closed the account, he sold our other car, I'm now thinking several times he had my daughter with him while he was doing his street business. I'm ready to call a divorce lawyer and get some paper work going, my parents seem to think I'm giving up too easy. The way I look at it...he has absolutely no respect, love or decency towards me. I mean, it's bad enough to go have a kid outside your marriage, but to have 2 and then parading around with them, obviously he was using my money to take care of them. The damn bank account was never in the positive...never. This isn't his first time arrested, before we got married, that was one of the things we discussed. I let him know from day one that I wasn't tolerating him going back and forth to prison, we were supposed to have a family and put the past behind us. Obviously all that meant nothing to him, we're both 26 years old, still young with our lives ahead of us. I just don't get it. Do you guys think I'm copping out, I was raised to believe that marriages were to last forever; I'm really beginning to feel like a failure at the mere thought of ending my marriage. I mean how the hell am I supposed to deal with 2 kids outside my marriage, yet he bitches the moment I speak to my daughter's father. Please Advise

I would have left after the first baby. You've already put up with waaaay to much. You are obviously strong, but don't fool being strong with being a doormat. You're worth far more than he will ever give you. Get out while the getting is good. Good luck and may God bless you.

[j-manu 0]

Everything's been a lot easier. My family seemed a little shocked at the news...they definately weren't disappointed like I thought they would be. In the end everyone was pretty supportive. As far as him, the scum bag he was arrested for gun possession and host of other things as I mentioned in my earlier posts. He was out on bail for almost 3 months and would you believe it? He was arrested for stealing a car, having 150 Ecstasy pills and what else? A Gun. He was just sentenced this past thursday 4 years with good behavior. Personally I think the justice system is a little too lenient. He didn't sign the divorce papers and showed up in court requesting alimony and host of other B.S. Luckily my court date is May 4th and he wont be there. The nerve....

Sorry to learn of all the trouble. It sounds as if you are on the right path now. As for the alimony - most states require that you have been married for several years. In your case this marriage was too short.

[ya falaha! 0]

*Joey Lawrence voice* WHOA!

I'm sorry this has happened to you. This is a nightmare that you must walk away from. His indiscretions are enormous.

[MissStacey 1]

You are going to be just fine!!

[flutter95 4]

Wow, after reading the old thread and seeing that the OP had infact posting in here with an update...so glad you got away and didn't get suckered back in! Good for you!

[Marilyn. 340]

I really think this is found by the 'related topics' at the bottom and the bumping poster just doesn't realize?

Cos if not, #######.

that is probably what happened

[athena_ny 1]

I really think this is found by the 'related topics' at the bottom and the bumping poster just doesn't realize?

Cos if not, #######.

I went 400 pages back at work one time in the beginning when I wanted to learn everything.

Of course, this was not all in one day.

[LaL 418]

I went 400 pages back at work one time in the beginning when I wanted to learn everything.

Of course, this was not all in one day.

too bad the site only goes back to 2006

[SoL. 0]

Everything's been a lot easier. My family seemed a little shocked at the news...they definately weren't disappointed like I thought they would be. In the end everyone was pretty supportive. As far as him, the scum bag he was arrested for gun possession and host of other things as I mentioned in my earlier posts. He was out on bail for almost 3 months and would you believe it? He was arrested for stealing a car, having 150 Ecstasy pills and what else? A Gun. He was just sentenced this past thursday 4 years with good behavior. Personally I think the justice system is a little too lenient. He didn't sign the divorce papers and showed up in court requesting alimony and host of other B.S. Luckily my court date is May 4th and he wont be there. The nerve....

I wish you good luck and that everything goes fine for you.