Looks like I'm getting a divorce

[Reba 2]

As for me, I'm not eligible for the pension with my job until January 1 so he suggested I wait until after the divorce is final to sign up; this way he won't be entitled to JACK!

sounds like a good plan.

You might also want to consider moving to the other side of the city, so that if the yutz gets released he can't immediately find you. He'll probably be really pissed that his meal ticket has served him while he's been in jail. A restraining order probably would be a good idea too, if they'll give it you.

[akatagirl 0]

Am glad to read that you have gotten really good encouraging advice from other VJers and sounds like you have taken the necessary steps to get out of this situation...You mentioned in your previous post that you felt like a "fool" for being with him..I dont think you are fool at all because you have seen the extent of what this man has being doing behind your back now and the choice is yours whether to stay or leave, and you chose to leave so that doesnt make you fool. What would make you a fool is if you stayed and complained but never did anything about it..sounds like you gave him enough chances for him to come correct but he failed so his failure is your opt to get out which means that down the road for you is a big bright future with endless possibilities.....Take care and here's wishing you all the best!

[BelwinMills 0]

Update: I've sinced spoken with my attorney, same one processed my GC papers and we're going to be serving him papers sometime around the middle of the month. According to my attorney, luckily he'll be in prison so we'll know exactly where to serve him. If it goes like my attorney plans, by the end of February or sooner I'll be detached from this yutz. As for me, I'm not eligible for the pension with my job until January 1 so he suggested I wait until after the divorce is final to sign up; this way he won't be entitled to JACK!

I am so sorry what has happened to you. I know it must be ruff. Hang in there. You still have a long broght future ahead. The guy seems like a real loser an a** so good ridens. Best luck with the attorney and I hope everything works out for u in the end.

[Teachers 12]

Update: I've sinced spoken with my attorney, same one processed my GC papers and we're going to be serving him papers sometime around the middle of the month. According to my attorney, luckily he'll be in prison so we'll know exactly where to serve him. If it goes like my attorney plans, by the end of February or sooner I'll be detached from this yutz. As for me, I'm not eligible for the pension with my job until January 1 so he suggested I wait until after the divorce is final to sign up; this way he won't be entitled to JACK!

Sometimes bad things happen to good people. I'm glad you're being proactive, promptly contacting the attorney.

Just in case you haven't done it, sever ALL financial ties ASAP. Close all joint checking, credit cards, etc. Is your car in your name? Can you get it into your name? When I got divorced I gave my ex- a choice - she got the car and the payments, or I did. In your case, the bank would probably not let him take over the payments. You might have to get a new car loan. It's worth doing, even at a higher rate, if it gets him off the car title and the loan. Also, put a fraud alert or customer comment on your credit history with all 3 credit bureaus.

Tom, CPA

[Marie1123 0]

Just a quick update to all. I'm still working on the divorce papers, he's now out on bail. His step mom put her house up as bail (what a fool). Anyway, hopefully by next wednesday I'll be delivering my papers to the Newark Court House. He now says he's gonna ask for spousal support...WHAT A JOKE.

[kim&james 0]

sounds like your getting everything in order... good luck and a better future without this idiot in your life! best wishes!

[Jasman0717 9]

Claudeth and I are both saddened to hear of your situation and pray that you will be ok.

[Marie1123 0]

Thank You all

[KarenCee 3]

Um no I don't think you are giving up. What kind of a 'forever' would a marriage like that be?

Wait a minute - 2 daughters in less than a year....that means two different mothers, right?

What an a$$hole.

Nope first kid was born August 26th, second kid was born May 12th. From what the mother told me, somethings wrong with the kid and she was born a couple months premature. Not that I care!

No, I don't think it's copping out at all. As everyone else has said, you deserve better than this. But please, don't have any bitterness towards those innocent children. They didn't ask for any of this no more than you did. They are innocents here too.

[Griffon76 0]

Just a quick update to all. I'm still working on the divorce papers, he's now out on bail. His step mom put her house up as bail (what a fool). Anyway, hopefully by next wednesday I'll be delivering my papers to the Newark Court House. He now says he's gonna ask for spousal support...WHAT A JOKE.

Spousal support!!!!! OMG!!! I cannot believe the audacity of this man!! Missmariemc, I hope and pray that you can move on safely with your life and not have this wreck of a man bother you in your pursuit of happiness here in the US!!!

I am proud of you, sister, for standing up for yourself and not feeling as if you NEED him in your life. When you are ready, I hope you meet and fall in love again, with someone who will treat you the way you deserve

[scottishskye 0]

Stay Strong Girl! If it was me, I was drop his dump and Ship his a$$ back to his own country! Sounds like you got to much of a life to deal with that sh*t. Life is way to short to go through that. Plus he not the only man out there! but in the long run the decides is your. But if he doing this now, he'll do it agian.

Best wishes and Bright blessing!

[elgringo 0]

No, you are definitely not copping out. Really you should have divorced him a while ago.

Not trying to criticize you or anything, but this is why you 100% need to make sure you know the person BEFORE you get married....

[athena_ny 1]

No, you are definitely not copping out. Really you should have divorced him a while ago.

Not trying to criticize you or anything, but this is why you 100% need to make sure you know the person BEFORE you get married....

By saying that you are criticizing.

Also - the last reply was over 6 months ago. Why are we dragging this up?

[seldi 1]

I hope she's single and happy by now...

[MariaEric 0]

Ok so I was bored.... I checked and Elgringo had to look back 269 pages to find this thread!