Looks like I'm getting a divorce

[Aussielad 37]

as it is anyway, its going to be hard for him to receive his 10 year card due to everything his done, so i wouldnt worry at all.

[maya62 7]

MissMariemc,

I might take a little flack for suggesting this, but I really think you should also consider getting some counseling. The fact that your parents think you're giving up too soon sounds like you might be in need of some support in learning how not to be a doormat. Sorry for that expression... it's a little harsh... but it takes a while to develope the mindframe that you appear to be in (tolerating way too much BS), and I don't think it can be undone overnight. In fact, I'd say you may be at risk for getting into another relationship with another unsavory character.

Immigration-wise, it looks like you will just need to remove conditions on your own, and I'd suggest checking in to the Removing Conditions forum for further advice about that. From the little I've read, it sounds totally do-able. It may help to document as best you can the behaviour of your husband to show that you had ample reason to end the marriage.

And let me be very clear: I think you shoulda BEEN gone! It sounds to me like you have tolerated WAY too much misbehaviour already! Run... do not walk... to the nearest exit!

Best wishes, and I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope your future in the US gets a lot brighter once this ____ is out of the picture!

Maya

[TracyTN 237]

as it is anyway, its going to be hard for him to receive his 10 year card due to everything his done, so i wouldnt worry at all.

The hubby is the USC.

[Joey559 1]

...I'm guessing the OP comes from a good catholic background and that's why she's getting this kind of 'support' from her family...

That's what I was thinking but I didn't want to assume... I am also from that sort of background, but as much as my parents were stunned by my news to divorce my ex (I had never complained to them or let on that there was any trouble at all - stunned is putting it mildly), they still put my happiness above all else...

As a Catholic girl who's getting hitched in the Catholic church and was raised by a Catholic family I can safely say that the Catholic family would currently be digging a big enough hole in the backyard for this guy! GET OUT. As a Catholic, I understand how serious the Sacrament of marriage is and if you're a practicing Catholic how important it is to you.

But I wouldn't stay, this man sounds more than just a lost cause, his lifestyle sounds dangerous to you and your daughter. Your family should be supporting you - the church understands more than they do, I believe. Annulments are granted for very good reasons every day. If this is what's giving you pause I would speak to a local priest, deacon, etc.

Good Luck

[anya-D 8]

I wish you all the best in the future.. So sorry to hear about this. You really deserves better.

[Peter Miami 0]

I am very sorry for you. You need to get out of that relationship. He is lying to you his mother is lying to you. He sells drugs and has been caught we drugs and weapons he is going to jail for a while. I do not think you are giving up. Get the hell out of that total crazy situation you are in.

Good luck,

Peter Miami

[allynella 0]

Start the closing-down process of this chapter of your life now. My best friend was in a similar situation and she actually got arrested since she was at the house when a raid was carried out and "products" seized. She was able to prove that she had no knowledge of her husband's carrying-ons so she got off with just a warning. I'm sure your family and true friends will understand and offer their support. New life for you and your daughter... As advised before, clear all checks with your signature. It may be a bit difficult opening another account right now, but keep trying. All the best.

[PlatyPius 5]

Get the hell gone. Dude is a loser of the first order.

Damn. I mean, DAMN!

[rebeccajo 14]

...I'm guessing the OP comes from a good catholic background and that's why she's getting this kind of 'support' from her family...

That's what I was thinking but I didn't want to assume... I am also from that sort of background, but as much as my parents were stunned by my news to divorce my ex (I had never complained to them or let on that there was any trouble at all - stunned is putting it mildly), they still put my happiness above all else...

As a Catholic girl who's getting hitched in the Catholic church and was raised by a Catholic family I can safely say that the Catholic family would currently be digging a big enough hole in the backyard for this guy! GET OUT. As a Catholic, I understand how serious the Sacrament of marriage is and if you're a practicing Catholic how important it is to you.

But I wouldn't stay, this man sounds more than just a lost cause, his lifestyle sounds dangerous to you and your daughter. Your family should be supporting you - the church understands more than they do, I believe. Annulments are granted for very good reasons every day. If this is what's giving you pause I would speak to a local priest, deacon, etc.

Good Luck

Great post, Joey!

[Marie1123 0]

Thanks for the advice everyone. Fortunately there aren't any checks going around, he would take whatever cash was in the account out...I mean down to the last penny and then he would go on a swipig spree...he would go fill his tank up, go get food, and i saw a few walmart swipes (wonder what he was gettig at walmart). I went to the bank this morning and spoke to 2 managers, they eventually reduced my overdraft fees from 9 to just 2 so I had to pay $192 to bring the account to zero and it's now closed and there's nothing out there. Thank God he never had the check book. I also spoke to a couple divore attorney and should be meeting with one before the end of september.

[allynella 0]

[Peter Miami 0]

Good luck!

Peter Miami

[Buttons 0]

Good Luck !

[Marie1123 0]

Update: I've sinced spoken with my attorney, same one processed my GC papers and we're going to be serving him papers sometime around the middle of the month. According to my attorney, luckily he'll be in prison so we'll know exactly where to serve him. If it goes like my attorney plans, by the end of February or sooner I'll be detached from this yutz. As for me, I'm not eligible for the pension with my job until January 1 so he suggested I wait until after the divorce is final to sign up; this way he won't be entitled to JACK!

[*Robert* 2]

Sorry to hear the bad news. Everything happens for a reason. Good luck with your future.