Taking a break from Igor's list of XXXX

[mylovemyheart 0]

Hey guys,

I am so happy to have found a forum like this. cuz I know, people here will understand me.

for the last couple of weeks I got really crazy about Igor's list. I checked it several times a day. but now, seeing VSC at its best again, I think I have to take a break.

This is just so dissaponting. I mean, ever morning I chek this damn list. Hoping, praying. After so many disappointing days u start to think "well, it can't be helped. If this is how it goes...".

But then, VSC has some really good days and u think " wait a minute, this looks good! maybe it won't take that long after all"

You get all excited, hope is coming back, and then.. BANG! A punsh right into ur face! Only 5,4 or 3 approved! and the great final... NONE or just ONE!

I am frustrated and sad. I miss my fiance so much. I hate that I am at the mercy of incompetence!

This is not the first time I got a visa. Due to my job I have been here and there in the past. And I have NEVER been confronted with something like this before! Never! Not even in Japan (which is famous for it's strict rules on visa).

All these coasts, this inconvenience, separation, unfriendly service which gives u WRONG information!

I know it's not the VSC's officers fault. They just do their job. And I don't think it is an easy one. Having people calling all day long and complain. But they also have to understand that we are frustrated.

What do u guys do to cheer up?

[Al422 221]

I have not found a way. This visa is my entire world, the beginning, the end, and everything in between. Everything else in the universe is just one big amorphous blur.

I don't feel sorry for the phone boys. I know the culture of incompetence that has saturated the Vermont Disservice Center is not their fault, but when you knowingly take a job that puts you on the front lines of an organization as hideously incompetent as this one, you have to expect it.

Take a break from my entire world? Not a chance! I don't live from day to day in the amorphous blur. I need a real world, and the visa is it.

[Suzy!Q 2]

I check Igor's List everyday too. You are not alone....

[jrmejia 31]

I check it daily. For some reason, I am not upset with VSC like most of you are. They are doing the best they can to do their work. I am pretty sure they are not sitting down playing solitaire... They are human, just like us.

Positive attitude is the trick to happiness. If you don't have it, find it.

Edited February 11, 2011 by jrmejia

[wendie and sam 4]

I check it daily. For some reason, I am not upset with VSC like most of you are. They are doing the best they can to do their work. I am pretty sure they are not sitting down playing solitaire... They are human, just like us.

Positive attitude is the trick to happiness. If you don't have it, find it.

I agree with you, I'm upset that the process is so long but not at the individuals who are doing the work. Every hard working individual should know what it feels like to have so much work you don't think you can get through it, I know I certainly have felt like that before.

It does help me to know that my love will be here with me soon and we won't be apart for the next four years like we have been for the last four years. And since we've made it work for this long... I know we can do it for another six or eight or however many months because we love each other. We know what it's like to miss one and other, but the time we spend together is so intense and fulfilling that even the memories of that time keep me happy when I'm not with him.

I can completely understand people who are upset because their world is upside down without their loved one, but think of how much happier you'll be when they'll finally be here and won't have to leave you.

[B_J 2,752]

I lose track of how many times I check "The List". I know I'm not close to being approved yet; I'm just looking to see if progress is being made.

And I wish I knew what to do to cheer up. At around the 3 month mark is when people started noticing the difference in me. I've had people ask what's wrong; saying I look tired and unhappy. I don't know how to explain to anybody what this is like so I just tell them it's stress. I'm not lying. This is definitely stress.

I spent six of the happiest weeks of my life with her this summer. I won't see her again or be happy again until she's finally here. I just wish I knew there was real progress being made.

[gandacel 7]

Hey guys,

I am so happy to have found a forum like this. cuz I know, people here will understand me.

for the last couple of weeks I got really crazy about Igor's list. I checked it several times a day. but now, seeing VSC at its best again, I think I have to take a break.

This is just so dissaponting. I mean, ever morning I chek this damn list. Hoping, praying. After so many disappointing days u start to think "well, it can't be helped. If this is how it goes...".

But then, VSC has some really good days and u think " wait a minute, this looks good! maybe it won't take that long after all"

You get all excited, hope is coming back, and then.. BANG! A punsh right into ur face! Only 5,4 or 3 approved! and the great final... NONE or just ONE!

I am frustrated and sad. I miss my fiance so much. I hate that I am at the mercy of incompetence!

This is not the first time I got a visa. Due to my job I have been here and there in the past. And I have NEVER been confronted with something like this before! Never! Not even in Japan (which is famous for it's strict rules on visa).

All these coasts, this inconvenience, separation, unfriendly service which gives u WRONG information!

I know it's not the VSC's officers fault. They just do their job. And I don't think it is an easy one. Having people calling all day long and complain. But they also have to understand that we are frustrated.

What do u guys do to cheer up?

I started going to the gym to get in shape for my love And also, I do some volunteering...I just try to keep busy as much as I can, go out, have fun with my friends and enjoy some time with my family It's a tough process, but at the end of the day, you're one day closer to being with the person you love

[B_J 2,752]

I started going to the gym to get in shape for my love And also, I do some volunteering...I just try to keep busy as much as I can, go out, have fun with my friends and enjoy some time with my family It's a tough process, but at the end of the day, you're one day closer to being with the person you love

You know, that's really the best advice... do something to keep busy. But here's my problem. I go to work and then when I get home from work we talk on Skype until it's time for me to go to bed. So basically my time is either work or time with her. There's really not much spare time.

I have tried doing more work on the weekends. Maybe that was a bad choice for things to do. Not a great stress reliever.

[JustJanis 2]

I try not to check the list yet since we just filed in January but when I do I just keep in mind that not every applicant that has applied is on this list or this site... I just have to believe that for every one we see approved there are so many more we don't see. Keeps me hoping!

Have to agree with a whole lot of positive thinking and happy thoughts... and while we wait it out I skype with my perfect-for-me guy every day, even for a few minutes and email A LOT (just checked and we have an average of 500 emails a month since Nov '10) and talk on he phone when we can. It helps to keep busy... and we are fortunate to be able to have visits while we wait... after a quick trip to Japan (he's there working) next week I'll be busy while I am packing up my apartment and storing my stuff at mom's and I have quit my job so we can be together where ever he is working until I get called back for the consulate appointment and that paper that says I can go be with him forever.

Patience isn't my strongest suit and it sure is being tested with this process... but I'd wait forever for my love, just glad we don't have to!

[Ab44 3]

Honestly, I don't check the list too much..I know I'd drive myself crazy if I did..I just comfort myself by thinking about even though its months away, it's still relatively close to that day when my love will be living with me and united forever! thats HUGE! way more than some paperwork. Also I'm in grad school, and as previous poster am working out as well,plus planning the wedding, so I have other things besides looking at the numbers ( although it's a lil harder for my fiance since he's just back at home now, waiting). However, when I get closer to the 5 month mark I could see myself getting a bit more anxious..but really you have to make time for yourself..having other things and branching out I think makes for a healthy relationship :-) Granted, my fiance and I have been doing the long distance thing for over 6 years so we are used to it in a way by now..and he went to school in Spain, not Venezuela where he was born, so he's used to going through red tape..so that might make it easier on us..but just know that all this stress and paper work and waiting is more than worth it!

[florinaRO 5]

1. You posted exactly what I had spinning in my head today seeing VSC processing 7 , 4, 3, 1 petitions / day.
2. You are handling situation better than me : I am checking Igor's list every 5 minutes !!!!
3. Because I am checking the list so often I got rusty and having joints problems so I am going for massage and swimming JUST to not check obsessively that problematic list .
4. I am loosing my faith and hope each time I see the number of VSC processed petitions and then what ? .... I have to get them back because I cannot do anything else.

and:

5. I realize every lousy day spent waiting that I could never make a better choice in my life : my fiance, he is the only one who keeps me going ahead !

[dogspot 90]

Nice post gandecel. Stay busy is the key. I know I'm guilty of checking the list too much, as well as browsing the forums due to working in front of a computer 8-12 hours a day.

[Al422 221]

Find a hobby? When is this supposed to happen? I already work 50 to 60 hours a week.

The problem is that I have a computer on my desk with a live internet connection, so checking Igor's List is too easy.

[Jun&Scheillo 6]

I check it daily. For some reason, I am not upset with VSC like most of you are. They are doing the best they can to do their work. I am pretty sure they are not sitting down playing solitaire... They are human, just like us.

Positive attitude is the trick to happiness. If you don't have it, find it.

Are you saying that they have good intentions, but somehow do the wrong things or maybe they just don't see us as human as you say they are.

How could they hold someone's application for so long, finally approve it, then decide to change their mind and now file is waiting for further review?

[Moomin 292]

It's a bit like boiling an egg. When you're watching that dang egg it seems to be taking forever to get done. That's Igor's list to me in a nut.. well, eggshell. But I'm still looking hehe!

I do have two dogs and it does seem better to be out walking them for en extra hour or two and get away from the Internet and computer. The hours seem even longer when being around the computer. The last couple of days, I haven't been able to concentrate on something completely different but have been reading lots about things that bear no similarity just to get my mind tired.