I have a question for you gals

[sarah and hicham 3]

I agree there is nothing wrong with seeking help if it gets to a certain point on a daily basis. I feel bad when everyone tries to comfort someone but it just doesn't seem to help the situation. I think you're right- a lot of people here are depressed and this process is totally capable of doing that to any of us.

I think though that there is a difference bewteen being depressed because of a situation and just always being depressed. I would say for sure that I was depressed during the separation, but I would not have wanted to turn to meds, knowing that my depression was a result of the situation at hand. Now if one's SO arrives and the depression continues, that's a different story.

You're right. It depends on the situation, whether the depression is on going or just due to this process and whether one is comfortable with taking medication or not. Either way there is always counseling if someone doesn't want to take antidepressants which I think is a good place to start.

[LaL 418]

You're right. It depends on the situation, whether the depression is on going or just due to this process and whether one is comfortable with taking medication or not. Either way there is always counseling if someone doesn't want to take antidepressants which I think is a good place to start.

You keep stating the SAME point. We got it, we heard you.

On that note - this seems to happen from time to time (Michelle&Craig anyone?) Remember you are kicking people when they are at their worst. With that said, certainly if you offer personal issues, you have to be prepared to hear all sides.

i just dont see the point in being downright rude to each other.

[Veiled Princess 1]

You keep stating the SAME point. We got it, we heard you.

i just dont see the point in being downright rude to each other.

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who's seeing that

You're right, rude is not cool.

[jordanianprincess 0]

Its funny how when a few members disagree with the majority it is considered rude. People are indirectly calling me rude and a bully, but at the same time you have problems with me voicing my opinion about people's constant breakdowns. Hmm...correct me if I'm wrong but apparently you are not doing anything better than I am in your opinion.

I am entitled to feel the way I want to. If you want to pick apart my posts and just focus on one or two words thats fine. This forum is by no means the propertly of one person. I have added several people to my yahoo list from this group and when I do need to talk or I am down I send them a PM. If I were to make a thread everytime I got upset or vent in every thread about how down I am, that would be unfair to the other members and it would take over the entire forum. Just because I don't vent here doesn't mean I am strong. Also its quite a downer to see someone so depressed all the time, I think some things should be done in private. because you have to take into consideration that this board is for everyone.

Ok back as your were...flame away...

You're right. It depends on the situation, whether the depression is on going or just due to this process and whether one is comfortable with taking medication or not. Either way there is always counseling if someone doesn't want to take antidepressants which I think is a good place to start.

You keep stating the SAME point. We got it, we heard you.

On that note - this seems to happen from time to time (Michelle&Craig anyone?) Remember you are kicking people when they are at their worst. With that said, certainly if you offer personal issues, you have to be prepared to hear all sides.

i just dont see the point in being downright rude to each other.

How ironic that you make a statement about being rude to each other. Re-read your post, seems pretty rude to me.

I am happy for the girls that are so strong that they can go thru this immigration nightmare and stay sane. Good for you! But to kick a girl when she is down is 'bullying' and not very attractive in my opinion. Just because you have a tolerance for separation, not everyone shares your strength.

And to say that seeing someone sad and hurting is 'getting old', that is just plain mean and callous. Is it really necessary?

Jackie

You are free to voice your opinions just as I am. I don't need to justify my feelings to you. I didn't pick this fight, someone picked it with me.

[Jenn! 918]

The excuses that people come up with to justify being mean really astound me, honestly. I am proud to be a member of the fluffy kitten, giggles and rainbows, blowing sunshine up your ###, or whatever exaggeration people who want to be rude can come up with to try to make themselves feel better.

Since when did just being nice become a negative thing?

[ya falaha! 0]

When I got to the point where I was busting out crying at work and would call in sick because I just couldn't drag myself out of my apartment I knew I needed help. I went to see my doctor and explained to her my situation. She understood what I was going through and told me she had another patient going through the same and having the same "symptoms". She told me that what I was describing to her was depression and separation anxiety. The fact that I wasn't functioning normally was enough for her to prescribe me antidepressants. Didn't matter if it was a preexisting condition. How would I know if my depression will continue once my husband is here? It may subside and it may continue..only God knows. I wasn't about to suffer and make myself and others miserable. Maybe I'm weak...I don't care..all I know is that I can now go through my day without crying at my desk or crying myself to sleep or taking sleeping pills so that I can sleep to forget.

I agree there is nothing wrong with seeking help if it gets to a certain point on a daily basis. I feel bad when everyone tries to comfort someone but it just doesn't seem to help the situation. I think you're right- a lot of people here are depressed and this process is totally capable of doing that to any of us.

I think though that there is a difference bewteen being depressed because of a situation and just always being depressed. I would say for sure that I was depressed during the separation, but I would not have wanted to turn to meds, knowing that my depression was a result of the situation at hand. Now if one's SO arrives and the depression continues, that's a different story.

[jordanianprincess 0]

The excuses that people come up with to justify being mean really astound me, honestly. I am proud to be a member of the fluffy kitten, giggles and rainbows, blowing sunshine up your ###, or whatever exaggeration people who want to be rude can come up with to try to make themselves feel better.

Since when did just being nice become a negative thing?

If you think I'm mean, that's fine with me. I am actually one of the nicest people you will ever meet and I'm sure there are many members here who can attest to that. Just because I disagree with what you say doesn't make me mean.

Again, this fight was picked with me by one of the beloved members of the click, so I'm not surprised at all that I'm being attacked for responding. I'm not staying quiet to this B.S. anymore.

[ya falaha! 0]

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Disregard this...it's redundant.

*EDIT*

I didn't mean JP's post..I meant mine.

[UmmSqueakster 54]

The excuses that people come up with to justify being mean really astound me, honestly. I am proud to be a member of the fluffy kitten, giggles and rainbows, blowing sunshine up your ###, or whatever exaggeration people who want to be rude can come up with to try to make themselves feel better.

Since when did just being nice become a negative thing?

[LaL 418]

How ironic that you make a statement about being rude to each other. Re-read your post, seems pretty rude to me.

yeah I guess I was being callous. I would certainly admit to that!

[Jenn! 918]

The excuses that people come up with to justify being mean really astound me, honestly. I am proud to be a member of the fluffy kitten, giggles and rainbows, blowing sunshine up your ###, or whatever exaggeration people who want to be rude can come up with to try to make themselves feel better.

Since when did just being nice become a negative thing?

If you think I'm mean, that's fine with me. I am actually one of the nicest people you will ever meet and I'm sure there are many members here who can attest to that. Just because I disagree with what you say doesn't make me mean.

Again, this fight was picked with me by one of the beloved members of the click, so I'm not surprised at all that I'm being attacked for responding. I'm not staying quiet to this B.S. anymore.

I never directed my post to you, JP. I was speaking generally. Where in this thread have you disagreed with what I've said? I haven't really said much of anything.

And as for the "who started it" angle, does it really matter?

[jordanianprincess 0]

When I got to the point where I was busting out crying at work and would call in sick because I just couldn't drag myself out of my apartment I knew I needed help. I went to see my doctor and explained to her my situation. She understood what I was going through and told me she had another patient going through the same and having the same "symptoms". She told me that what I was describing to her was depression and separation anxiety. The fact that I wasn't functioning normally was enough for her to prescribe me antidepressants. Didn't matter if it was a preexisting condition. How would I know if my depression will continue once my husband is here? It may subside and it may continue..only God knows. I wasn't about to suffer and make myself and others miserable. Maybe I'm weak...I don't care..all I know is that I can now go through my day without crying at my desk or crying myself to sleep or taking sleeping pills so that I can sleep to forget.

I agree there is nothing wrong with seeking help if it gets to a certain point on a daily basis. I feel bad when everyone tries to comfort someone but it just doesn't seem to help the situation. I think you're right- a lot of people here are depressed and this process is totally capable of doing that to any of us.

I think though that there is a difference bewteen being depressed because of a situation and just always being depressed. I would say for sure that I was depressed during the separation, but I would not have wanted to turn to meds, knowing that my depression was a result of the situation at hand. Now if one's SO arrives and the depression continues, that's a different story.

There is absoulutly nothing wrong with seeking medical help for a situation that severe. To tell a person otherwise (not you moody) with be a very selfish act. Do people enjoy hearing drama this much? You are actually doing the person a disservice if you can't see the signs of true depression and just continue to pretend like things are ok. Taking meds is not a bad thing at all. If it ever got to that point for me, I would not hesistate. I don't want to lose my job or my life. One of the biggest side effects of depression is lack of sleep and sleepless nights are the worst. Not only do you put your life in danger by attempting to drive and do other things while you are so tired, but you also put your professional life in danger as well.

Most people do rely on their friends and family to see the signs of depression.

[Veiled Princess 1]

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One of your pics just comes across as a BIG blinking sign that reads "Image Thief Detected"

[UmmSqueakster 54]

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One of your pics just comes across as a BIG blinking sign that reads "Image Thief Detected"

Hehe, they caught me stealing their bandwith. ah well.

[Jenn! 918]

There is absoulutly nothing wrong with seeking medical help for a situation that severe. To tell a person otherwise (not you moody) with be a very selfish act. Do people enjoy hearing drama this much?

Ok, I guess by "not you moody", you mean "you jenn3539". I never said that there is anything wrong with seeking medical help. I said that I had no desire to turn to meds, knowing that it would pass. And how is it selfish to give an opinion of what you personally would do when asked?