I have a question for you gals

[ya falaha! 0]

Incredibly well said, Rebecca

I, for one, use this forum (ME/NA section mostly) and the ppl on the forum as my major support during this crazy waiting. I don't have my family to support me. The only family I have supporting me are my sons, my husband, and my inlaws....my husband and inlaws are in Egypt. My so called "friends" think I made a mistake in marrying my husband. Most of the time they keep the negative comments to themselves but they certainly don't want to hear my woes and they certainly can't relate. You ladies are really all I have in this. Hugs to y'all!

[noura 0]

Incredibly well said, Rebecca

I, for one, use this forum (ME/NA section mostly) and the ppl on the forum as my major support during this crazy waiting. I don't have my family to support me. The only family I have supporting me are my sons, my husband, and my inlaws....my husband and inlaws are in Egypt. My so called "friends" think I made a mistake in marrying my husband. Most of the time they keep the negative comments to themselves but they certainly don't want to hear my woes and they certainly can't relate. You ladies are really all I have in this. Hugs to y'all!

big hugs back atcha!!! maybe even a booty pinch - i tell ya, i'm feeling frisky today!

[iceyspots 0]

Incredibly well said, Rebecca

I, for one, use this forum (ME/NA section mostly) and the ppl on the forum as my major support during this crazy waiting. I don't have my family to support me. The only family I have supporting me are my sons, my husband, and my inlaws....my husband and inlaws are in Egypt. My so called "friends" think I made a mistake in marrying my husband. Most of the time they keep the negative comments to themselves but they certainly don't want to hear my woes and they certainly can't relate. You ladies are really all I have in this. Hugs to y'all!

mrs z... are you at home or no

[ya falaha! 0]

I'm still at work...but that doesn't stop me from wasting time on VJ

Incredibly well said, Rebecca

I, for one, use this forum (ME/NA section mostly) and the ppl on the forum as my major support during this crazy waiting. I don't have my family to support me. The only family I have supporting me are my sons, my husband, and my inlaws....my husband and inlaws are in Egypt. My so called "friends" think I made a mistake in marrying my husband. Most of the time they keep the negative comments to themselves but they certainly don't want to hear my woes and they certainly can't relate. You ladies are really all I have in this. Hugs to y'all!

mrs z... are you at home or no

Ooooh! pinch away...you naughty you

Incredibly well said, Rebecca

I, for one, use this forum (ME/NA section mostly) and the ppl on the forum as my major support during this crazy waiting. I don't have my family to support me. The only family I have supporting me are my sons, my husband, and my inlaws....my husband and inlaws are in Egypt. My so called "friends" think I made a mistake in marrying my husband. Most of the time they keep the negative comments to themselves but they certainly don't want to hear my woes and they certainly can't relate. You ladies are really all I have in this. Hugs to y'all!

big hugs back atcha!!! maybe even a booty pinch - i tell ya, i'm feeling frisky today!

Edited August 30, 2006 by moody

[iceyspots 0]

ok!

[amal 4]

for what its worth , these are some of the best ppl to "relate" with .... nobody near me can relate/understand/or even come remotely close to knowing how I feel.. so even with quarrels, (and I say this all the time, maybe too much) you all ROCK!

[iceyspots 0]

for what its worth , these are some of the best ppl to "relate" with .... nobody near me can relate/understand/or even come remotely close to knowing how I feel.. so even with quarrels, (and I say this all the time, maybe too much) you all ROCK!

yay!

[amal 4]

lol

[iceyspots 0]

oh man.. school hasn't even started yet and I already need a method to organize all my classes and appointments!! phew!

[AngelK96 0]

All I can say is that I respect every opinion and I do my best to understand where everybody is coming from. Now, having said that, sometimes I do take some things too seriously and may have said things in a hateful way but all in all...I love you all !

YOU??? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Say it isn't so Amal.

Amal as long as you been a member on Vj I never seen you post anything hateful.

You make think some of the things you do post are that way, but they dont' come off as

hateful. Girl you are just too nice

[iceyspots 0]

Amal? Hateful?

WHAT?

[amal 4]

Thanks very much appreciated

[a1angied 0]

So I guess this thread is dead and the question was answered, at least I hope it was.

So on the topic of the support system and the people here in MENA I really am so greatful that everone is here and I have never used online forums for support and guidence as I have now here. The compassion not only to others but in responses, beliefs and thoughts, it is wonderful to be a part of such a diverse group. I believe that God puts people in our lives for reasons and I am very thankful for each and everyone and everything they have to offer.

Hey I was getting ready to start taking my clothes off for the heat that is forsure

Hugs all around

[jordanianprincess 0]

A few observations/reminders (that I can use myself)...

While we are all going through the same process with fiances/spouses from the same region, we are still a very diverse group. We don't normally choose friends or seek support from people based on such a limited criteria - in this case a visa and a MENA spouse.

Some people are much more sensitive than others, others have thicker skins. Some of us are blessed to have strong support systems in our families/friends, others have none. Some have busy social lives, and some have little more at this time than waiting for their spouse. For some, this may be the only major headache you are dealing with in life, and others are struggling with many other issues in their personal lives. All this affects how we react to things and our strength in this process.

Some people have felt genuine bonds on this board, for others it is a transition. For those who really use this board as a support system, perceived slights can be VERY painful - especially if that is a person who you like/respect through this forum.

I remember a time when Henia posted something and got a reaction she didn't expect. In the heat of it, she named names of people whose posts she enjoyed. This also was not well received. If I recall JP, you were one of the people who responded. Likewise, when you posted yesterday and named names of the people whose posts you take seriously, I think some feelings may have been hurt. My point is not at all to call you out on that post, but to shed some light on why Jean may have felt as she did. If we say things like "I like/respect/take seriously only these people's posts", there will be people that feeled snubbed or hurt. We may not realize that other people actually care what we think of them or their opinions (and we may think they shouldn't care), but there are people who do care. Let's face it, there is some bonding that goes on here (which is one reason I think I have not left even though we have GC in hand).

Not sure of my point.... I hate to see someone in our forum hurting whether or not the reaction seems justified from our perspective.

I did once respond to one of Heina's posts, it was the Happy Friday post she did quite some time ago. I have voiced my opinion several times over threads that I thought were inappropriate, however I don't take the stance of "if its not my way , I'm not going to play anymore."

I didn't say that I didn't take others posts seriously, I said take those posts by SZSZ and Lostinlove the most serious. I have been snubbed by many people many times, but thats a part of being on a public forum. I don't like to see people hurting either and I know some people do use this forum as a form of support which is fine, but that doesn't mean the entire forum is thiers to get sympathy from. I am not going to walk on eggshells around people. If you can dish it out, then you have to be willing to take it.I have also been waiting for a very long time through this process along with everyone else. I still have 6 months to go before even having an intervew, but I don't complain at all. There is a theme here of constant drama and sympathy. The second someone threatens to stop posting bcz they don't like someone else's post, eveyone pours pity in the threads about it. Well we are all adults and that doesn't need to happen. I obviously don't like 60% of our threads being about Islam, but thats my opinion. I have long accepted the fact that people can post what they like, and at the same time, we can choose to ignore the threads we don't care for.

[Together4ever 1]

A few observations/reminders (that I can use myself)...

While we are all going through the same process with fiances/spouses from the same region, we are still a very diverse group. We don't normally choose friends or seek support from people based on such a limited criteria - in this case a visa and a MENA spouse.

Some people are much more sensitive than others, others have thicker skins. Some of us are blessed to have strong support systems in our families/friends, others have none. Some have busy social lives, and some have little more at this time than waiting for their spouse. For some, this may be the only major headache you are dealing with in life, and others are struggling with many other issues in their personal lives. All this affects how we react to things and our strength in this process.

Some people have felt genuine bonds on this board, for others it is a transition. For those who really use this board as a support system, perceived slights can be VERY painful - especially if that is a person who you like/respect through this forum.

I remember a time when Henia posted something and got a reaction she didn't expect. In the heat of it, she named names of people whose posts she enjoyed. This also was not well received. If I recall JP, you were one of the people who responded. Likewise, when you posted yesterday and named names of the people whose posts you take seriously, I think some feelings may have been hurt. My point is not at all to call you out on that post, but to shed some light on why Jean may have felt as she did. If we say things like "I like/respect/take seriously only these people's posts", there will be people that feeled snubbed or hurt. We may not realize that other people actually care what we think of them or their opinions (and we may think they shouldn't care), but there are people who do care. Let's face it, there is some bonding that goes on here (which is one reason I think I have not left even though we have GC in hand).

Not sure of my point.... I hate to see someone in our forum hurting whether or not the reaction seems justified from our perspective.

I am not going to walk on eggshells around people. If you can dish it out, then you have to be willing to take it.

Likewise...

I have also been waiting for a very long time through this process along with everyone else. I still have 6 months to go before even having an intervew, but I don't complain at all. There is a theme here of constant drama and sympathy. The second someone threatens to stop posting bcz they don't like someone else's post, eveyone pours pity in the threads about it. Well we are all adults and that doesn't need to happen. .

I was not going to respond to you further, but since you insist on keeping this going I have just one thing say. You do not know me. You do not know my life, what I am facing and what I have been through. You also do not know the anxiety of being this close to the end of line without knowing a damn thing about what your future will be or what this has cost us as a couple. I will not apologize to you for not handling myself in a manner YOU consider adult or appropriate. However, I am who I am and I have as much right to post on this forum as anyone else. I will reiterate in my own defense (which galls me to do) that I have no other support system. I have a scant few people I can discuss this with. All of them are from this forum. Only 2 really know anything at all close to my truth. I did not say I'm leaving the forum. I said I prefer to not state my RELIGIOUS opinions again.

Now, I would like to make a very ADULT and level-headed request. Stop this, please. What you don't realize is how much I care for the people here and how some of the SH*T that is said here can hurt. Yep, I'm sensitive. That's who I am. I'm finished apologizing for it. I would again also like to request that this end. Thank you.