The hoping not to be denied at Casablanca thread

[Nothing1234 2]

Sister, there is cuddly and then there is 400lbs. Oh and if the chick looks like his grandmother - #######?!?!?!?

I enjoy being 400 lbs of cuddly fun! Leave me be Stashhhh!

[JeanneVictoria 55]

I guess my kid will be the only one out of the three of us not going straight to hell Thank goodness my fiancé isn't an ultra pious Muslim, because, despite my sincerest efforts to TRY TRY TRY to believe, I'm still a Buddhist heathen, and he accepts that for what it is.. For those who'd say OOOMG, he MUST be using you!! Nah.. While this may be a Muslim country, that CERTAINLY doesn't mean that people follow the book here.. Stay for a while, you'll see what I mean.. And I'd hope the "immersed" COs realize that too..

P.S. Ramadan is coming soon, I've actually seen some effort around here to dust off the prayer rugs, for the first time in nearly 5 months.. Kinda like they way my Grandma used to start putting out the nativity scene before X-Mas..

Are you Buddist?

[Mithra 1,185]

My husband loves him a little chub. Now 400lbs is a whole different story.

I enjoy being 400 lbs of cuddly fun! Leave me be Stashhhh!

[Staashi 371]

This is a thought I've not fleshed out too much but I wanted to throw it out there. What I've noticed is the Consulate doesn't like it when the Westerner is 'trying too hard.' For example, say you're a regular American/Western woman, who likes to drink and smoke. Wears skirts and loves her Big Mac. Now, after your three-month long relationship, suddenly you're fasting for Ramadan, wearing the hijab, saying 'Alhamudilah' after every sentence. Swearing off pork and alcohol. (Yes, I'm using extreme, exaggerated examples but hopefully, you get what I mean).

Of course, showing some interest is normal and you do want to be familiar with certain aspects of your spouse's culture (my husband will watch a Bollywood movie with me now and then and shows some interest in cricket news) but even I would think it was weird if he was suddenly a fast-believer in Astrology, got an 'om' tattooed on his arm or wore Fab India kurtas all the time.

Where do you draw the line between 'mere curiousity/I want to more know about where he/she comes from' and 'going overboard?'

I probably am not explaining this well but would like to hear about your thoughts.

I lol'd at this. And, I'm with you on that - I find it very hard to believe when someone goes from "where's my lucky strikes?" to "where's my hijab?".

[Nothing1234 2]

I lol'd at this. And, I'm with you on that - I find it very hard to believe when someone goes from "where's my lucky strikes?" to "where's my hijab?".

[Staashi 371]

I enjoy being 400 lbs of cuddly fun! Leave me be Stashhhh!

PB Posse in da house!

[Nothing1234 2]

*Dancing!!*

PB Posse in da house!

[Mithra 1,185]

Agreed.

You've explained yourself very well.

This is a thought I've not fleshed out too much but I wanted to throw it out there. What I've noticed is the Consulate doesn't like it when the Westerner is 'trying too hard.' For example, say you're a regular American/Western woman, who likes to drink and smoke. Wears skirts and loves her Big Mac. Now, after your three-month long relationship, suddenly you're fasting for Ramadan, wearing the hijab, saying 'Alhamudilah' after every sentence. Swearing off pork and alcohol. (Yes, I'm using extreme, exaggerated examples but hopefully, you get what I mean).

Of course, showing some interest is normal and you do want to be familiar with certain aspects of your spouse's culture (my husband will watch a Bollywood movie with me now and then and shows some interest in cricket news) but even I would think it was weird if he was suddenly a fast-believer in Astrology, got an 'om' tattooed on his arm or wore Fab India kurtas all the time.

Where do you draw the line between 'mere curiousity/I want to more know about where he/she comes from' and 'going overboard?'

I probably am not explaining this well but would like to hear about your thoughts.

[Crossed_fingers 128]

6. Is his wife morbidly obese and he's as thin as a rail...if so, did they meet on a BWW website because he likes women of size? If not, how did these two come together? MSN Chat, Yahoo, Facebook, etc, etc.

I could be wrong but I SWEAR I read a consulate review once where the guy said he met the USC through a BBW site and that was taken as a red flag - the consulate thought he was targeting women who might be desperate or have self-esteem issues, not that he actually liked curvy women. (Note: I'm not saying BBW women are desperate or have self-esteem issues...I'm just saying the consulate seemed to take that view.) I can't remember whose it was or how long ago, but I'm positive that came up on VJ once.

[Nothing1234 2]

In all seriousness though, even though I wasn't thru the CASA embassy we went the Cairo which has been known for high fraud/denials, etc.

I believe part of the reason we were approved so quickly was because we had known each other a while, I was not an overnight revert "lucky strike to lucky hijab", my husbands is fluent in English and we didn't over do the proof just enough to provide our daily communication and life. I do feel that at times people can go overboard and these types of knee jerk reactions (converting or moving overseas right after meeting someone) can cause doubt in a CO's mind.

Then again, as someone pointed out...how many Americans do you know that have met a bf or gf and moved in with them quickly or changed their lifestyle for a new beau? It happens. Hmmm...now I've confused myself more!

[Staashi 371]

I could be wrong but I SWEAR I read a consulate review once where the guy said he met the USC through a BBW site and that was taken as a red flag - the consulate thought he was targeting women who might be desperate or have self-esteem issues, not that he actually liked curvy women. (Note: I'm not saying BBW women are desperate or have self-esteem issues...I'm just saying the consulate seemed to take that view.) I can't remember whose it was or how long ago, but I'm positive that came up on VJ once.

That could be - but most times I've seen that these relationships seem to start up in Yahoo, MSN or Facebook. Although one time, Joe Scarborough of MSNBC, said the biggest importers of MENA men are fat american women. Makes ya think.

[Nothing1234 2]

That could be - but most times I've seen that these relationships seem to start up in Yahoo, MSN or Facebook. Although one time, Joe Scarborough of MSNBC, said the biggest importers of MENA men are fat american women. Makes ya think.

Stashhh...damn you. Stop picking on me!

[Staashi 371]

Stashhh...damn you. Stop picking on me!

You're crazy today! hehe

[Always+Forever 7]

not our fault our Moroccan men love us that way

[Nothing1234 2]

I think I had too much coffee or the fact that its Friday and I can leave this hell hole for a couple of days!

You're crazy today! hehe