How do you cope?

[payxibka 10,045]

Moving to Case filing and progress reports forum.

To help organize the K-1 Forum this new sub-forum was created to give a people a place where they can share their story and Journey along the way to getting their K-1 Visa.

[kontumdiary 0]

Everything now seems so close, yet just that little bit too far away!

My Fiancee and I have now filed for our K-1, we put the package together in the first week of January off the back of a fantastic New Years in Las Vegas, and now we know what we plan to do over the coming years of my entry into the United States (Should and When they permit it).

So sat back in New Mexico, being over looked by a baby scorpion sat in the doorway we put our heads together and formed our plan. It's perfect, and straight forward; Get married in front of a Judge; File for my change in status; get driving; get bank accounts set up; start work; back to school (Since the US won't accept my UK degree); Then have the big family wedding/blessing!

However! I have hit a brick wall, I have a week now until I go back to work in the UK, sat here without the love of my life, with not alot to do. I had recently started a second degree with the Open University, but the path I chose involves Exams and another 3 modules once I finish the current one - but since I need to go back to school in the US do I continue with my OU course - It will take me another 18 Months to finish maybe longer!

Silly thing really, but that's my dilemma, I've usually been so strong with things, but being apart tears me apart as I live in a city with no Family and very few trust worthy friends.

We practically leave SKYPE on 24/7 when we are apart, but I'm just wishing this process would move faster - How do you guys do it? To say "keep busy" is easy when you don't know what people are going through - but you guys do know - well at least your foreign partners do.

So a question to the beneficiaries out there... How do you cope?

The time spent away from one another now will seem like nothing later, and, it's good training for the times you may have to be away from one another in the future.

kontumdiary

[rallybug 17]

Like most here, the internet communication options are a godsend.

We talk every day on Yahoo Messenger, had a vacation together every 3 months last year (even if for only a week at a time), Skype at the weekends, and Sunday night is out joint tv catch-up (Bones, Criminal Minds, The Big Bang Theory) the 7 hour time difference is a pain, but with Gin able to have Yahoo at work, we talk from the time she wakes up (sometimes 4.30am her time as she goes to the gym first) until the time she logs off to go home at work (12.30am UK time) normally.

This year will be the crunch - she's aiming to come over for a week in April, but then that'll probably be it for time together until my visa comes through - the aim is to be over there for the end of August, with a September 20th wedding, but all things can change.

It may be slightly different for us (I'm 39, Gin is coming up 38), and no doubt it is for may reasons, as everyone is different, but keep talking to your love, and use places like VJ to keep you sane