My head is spinning

[haruko83 1]

Hi!

I know how you feel, Ive read so many posts about horror stories and its really sad. But I feel that there are so many people so desperate to find love, they would do anything to find somebody... for example you see so many older men looking for wifes on international sites and end up petiotining/marrying somebody they've seen only once and then OH NO! it didnt work out! She just wanted a greencard!... What im trying to say is if you have a real relationship that has developed normally you shouldn't have to worry about it! of course in any kind of relationship has it risks of not working out, but if you feel like you there might be a chance your relationship is not real then you shouldnt be going to the process. You should only do it if you're 100% sure of the relationship both ways.

Good luck and don't be paranoid!!!

[Casprd 167]

In some cases, things just don't work out, but both parties entered in to the marriage in good faith and learned over time that they were incompatible, but I also think it is a reasonable assumption that in 99% of the cases where the beneficiary was just trying to get to the US, there were red flags along the way that were ignored. Upon reflection after the fact those flags are more evident. Knowing that, it behooves everyone going through this process to reflect on everything that has happened in their relationship and if there are any warning signs, talk about them with your future spouse. Also have all those boring conversations about work, finanaces, children and everything else that makes up a marriage. If the beneficiary is not really sincere and just trying to get to the US then it will usually become evident if we approach things with our eyes open. These types of conversations are important so that both people know what to expect and what the other person expects and hopefully set the stage for a long happy relationship and also to weed out those who are just looking for a ticket to the US.

[Brusik 11]

Stay positive!!!!!!!! I remember 10 years ago I was almost taken advantage of in a Russian Scam.. My gut instinct told me something was wrong. I did a little research and the woman I was conversing with had a picture posted on a scam site. Lesson Learned !!!!!!!!!!!!!

I met my current wife on a international dating site. after months of emails and skype I knew this was legit. I would show her pictures of the engagement ring I bought her on skype and she would begin to weep. We found love over the internet and after I went to Georgia I knew that we were meant to be.

The heart, mind, and conscious if they all agree then I think the right choice was made..

Nothing in life is guaranteed but we do have the wisdom to know the difference..

keep the faith

[Nataliya-Ron 7]

You are right...SOMEWHAT

If you have taken the time toi build ther relationship like over 2 to 4 years

you should know hwere it going UNLESS YOUR BOTH FOOLING EACH OTHER.'

I moved here to the Ukraine in 2008 when i meet my wife before than.

And lived here 8 months returned back and than came again for another 8 months

and than was married. Now we have another 5 to 8 month while were waiting for

her interview. Only time will tell if your relatiohnship dont work.

It the same way on the K-1 90 days is the try out before you marry. BY than

USCIS figures you both shoiuld know before you marry of your going to make it

In the Ukraine the Law states you have a waiting peroid of at least 30 days

to think about it before you marry. Good LAW. ! ! ! ! !

Now i known niow my wife like 3 years and being married we tried the marriage

before filing the CR-1.

You can't never know until time goes by what will happen. Maybe she has a adjustment

problem in American Culture..many women dotn stay dont like it and many do stay and

learn and adjust to it.

If youy have money and both work and work on your relationship, you should both

have a good life as you make out of life what you give to make it.

Good Luck

Good Luck

[DebbyNSeyi 15]

TJ4ever sounds like you may need to limit your logins here on VJ....lol not trying to be rude but I am trying to lighten this topic for you There are tons of stories on here and if you get too wrapped up in them you can get depressed.... or sadden by what is going on with everyone. I remember I was getting very sad when everyone was getting there approval from USCIS and I had to stop logging on here because it consumed me and my day. I have a job where I am in front of the computer the whole 8 hours so to log on to VJ was just some key strokes away. You have to take and read those sad stories in stride. But if you know your husband like you say you do those negative thoughts wont be a factor. Be sure to visit the link nigeriaorbust posted that will turn your frown into a smile... you are too early in the journey to let these things get to you..... Good Luck and God Bless you

[TJ 4EVER 40]

Hi!

I know how you feel, Ive read so many posts about horror stories and its really sad. But I feel that there are so many people so desperate to find love, they would do anything to find somebody... for example you see so many older men looking for wifes on international sites and end up petiotining/marrying somebody they've seen only once and then OH NO! it didnt work out! She just wanted a greencard!... What im trying to say is if you have a real relationship that has developed normally you shouldn't have to worry about it! of course in any kind of relationship has it risks of not working out, but if you feel like you there might be a chance your relationship is not real then you shouldnt be going to the process. You should only do it if you're 100% sure of the relationship both ways.

Good luck and don't be paranoid!!!

Thanks for your response and you are right, I should only go through with this if I am 100% sure. I believe God is directing my footsteps therefore I am more then 100% sure that what I am doing is the right thing. I know nothing is guaranteed, not even my next breath but I thank God for allowing my heart to open to my husband. I guess sometimes I allow negativity to creep in my heart and run with it. My`heart just aches for the broken hearted, those who have been scammed. Scammers, I just don't hold any respect for any of them,

[TJ 4EVER 40]

In some cases, things just don't work out, but both parties entered in to the marriage in good faith and learned over time that they were incompatible, but I also think it is a reasonable assumption that in 99% of the cases where the beneficiary was just trying to get to the US, there were red flags along the way that were ignored. Upon reflection after the fact those flags are more evident. Knowing that, it behooves everyone going through this process to reflect on everything that has happened in their relationship and if there are any warning signs, talk about them with your future spouse. Also have all those boring conversations about work, finanaces, children and everything else that makes up a marriage. If the beneficiary is not really sincere and just trying to get to the US then it will usually become evident if we approach things with our eyes open. These types of conversations are important so that both people know what to expect and what the other person expects and hopefully set the stage for a long happy relationship and also to weed out those who are just looking for a ticket to the US.

Yes I agree, when both parties are attempting in good faith...it's the others that concerns me.

[TJ 4EVER 40]

Stay positive!!!!!!!! I remember 10 years ago I was almost taken advantage of in a Russian Scam.. My gut instinct told me something was wrong. I did a little research and the woman I was conversing with had a picture posted on a scam site. Lesson Learned !!!!!!!!!!!!!

I met my current wife on a international dating site. after months of emails and skype I knew this was legit. I would show her pictures of the engagement ring I bought her on skype and she would begin to weep. We found love over the internet and after I went to Georgia I knew that we were meant to be.

The heart, mind, and conscious if they all agree then I think the right choice was made..

Nothing in life is guaranteed but we do have the wisdom to know the difference..

keep the faith

wow, I am happy to hear that you listened to your gut. I was once scammed and the sad thing is I felt it in my gut BEFORE the mess hit the fa. I just thank God He took the scales off my eyes before any real damage was done. My broken heart mended and although at the time I thought that life could get no better God blessed me with my now husband. Lesson learned and my eyes has been opened ever since. Believe me you I looked and I looked good. Fortunately I found nothing and proceeded. Now my heart is so filled with joy (except for the missing him part). I know nevertheless, there will come a day when all of this will be a memory. This time apart is just making our bond stronger but dang is it hard.