Deportation

[mystic 11]

Things havent gone so well after arrival. Things still arent going well actually. Anyway the main thing i want to know is how likely is my husband to be able to get conditions removed from his greencard with a Class A misdemeanor Domestic Battery conviction? From what i have found it is hopeless and will not happen. Am i correct in thinking that since I have discovered things that i am just not sure i can let go of and as well was the victim of this Battery which i am also having trouble letting go of that i should just get him to go home now instead of trying to make things work for the next year and half and letting him get closer and closer to the kids and my little one get older and be able to remember the day they made his "daddy" leave( he isnt his biological father). Since i learned this info i actually keep expecting immigration to show up at our door and take him away anyway since from what i have read this is grounds for deportation.....

Please anyone and everyone give me feed back on what you know.

I have told him a few times that the relation is over and there are no feelings left in me for him.. He threatens to leave but never does, and each time i tell him there is the door please do

Edited January 6, 2011 by mystic

[Darnell 8,478]

what do you want?

if you want immigration to show up at the door -

then

you need to file a report with ICE, give copies of the police reports.

want a divorce? file for divorce. Filing is easy.

[YuAndDan 153]

Moving this to "Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits" forum...

All you can do is make a formal report to both ICE and USCIS.

If he has a 2 year conditional green-card, this WILL cause problems when filing to remove conditions.

Note: Once a divorce is final, a 2 year green-card holder can file I-751 with waiver, and does not have to wait until within 90 days of the card expiration to do this.

http://www.ice.gov/

http://www.uscis.gov

If already has a 10 year card, there is not much you can do about it.

This is a very common topic asked all the time in Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits forum..

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/289508-i-want-my-ex-spouse-deported/page__p__4388063__fromsearch__1#entry4388063

Edited January 6, 2011 by YuAndDan

[Barbara J 115]

Things havent gone so well after arrival. Things still arent going well actually. Anyway the main thing i want to know is how likely is my husband to be able to get conditions removed from his greencard with a Class A misdemeanor Domestic Battery conviction? From what i have found it is hopeless and will not happen. Am i correct in thinking that since I have discovered things that i am just not sure i can let go of and as well was the victim of this Battery which i am also having trouble letting go of that i should just get him to go home now instead of trying to make things work for the next year and half and letting him get closer and closer to the kids and my little one get older and be able to remember the day they made his "daddy" leave( he isnt his biological father). Since i learned this info i actually keep expecting immigration to show up at our door and take him away anyway since from what i have read this is grounds for deportation.....

Please anyone and everyone give me feed back on what you know.

I have told him a few times that the relation is over and there are no feelings left in me for him.. He threatens to leave but never does, and each time i tell him there is the door please do

You have to do what you feel is right in your heart and if these things are eating away at you then yes I would send him home as you are never going to find any peace till you resolve this within yourself. I wish you well and hope you find a solution

[Fandango 1,439]

Am I correct in inferring that if you thought there was a shot as successful ROC, you wouldn't give up so easily?

[mystic 11]

was just trying to find out how likely they are to show up at the door since it does go into computer system and i know they do checks from time to time, and also if there was any chance of approval of removal of conditions. I had been working to forgive and try to move past but so far have not been able to do so,, but i do not see reason to keep trying to do that if he is only gonna have to leave anyway. Doesnt matter as long as he cant control his temper anyway and so far.. not

[Justine+David 218]

If it's close to the date for removal of conditions and you are still legally married, you could just wait it out. If he doesn't file within the timeframe (and he has to file with you if you are not getting a divorce just yet), he'll be forced to leave. It may take immigration awhile to track him down though...you've gotten some good advice here--call ICE, provide reports, etc etc.

Edited January 7, 2011 by Justine+David

[carla1 4]

I am so sorry that you are in this situation.

My heart goes out to you.

You have told him and us VJ'ers that the relationship is over.

You have asked him to leave but he does not.

If I understand correctly the conflict in your heart seems to revolve around feeling guilty for bringing this man close to your children and you are afraid your little one will blame you for sending his new "daddy" away.

Please, if this is the case forgive yourself. I am certain you did the best that you could under the circumstances. People make mistakes all the time and this is a lesson that your children will learn. You have to do what is best for your children and I ask, do you want them to grow up in a household where "daddy" beats mommy and there is physical/emotional conflict?

You seem like a compassionate caring mother and I don't think you want that for your children.

I hope my 2 cents are of use!

Please take care.

[Beauty for Ashes 257]

Things havent gone so well after arrival. Things still arent going well actually. Anyway the main thing i want to know is how likely is my husband to be able to get conditions removed from his greencard with a Class A misdemeanor Domestic Battery conviction? From what i have found it is hopeless and will not happen. Am i correct in thinking that since I have discovered things that i am just not sure i can let go of and as well was the victim of this Battery which i am also having trouble letting go of that i should just get him to go home now instead of trying to make things work for the next year and half and letting him get closer and closer to the kids and my little one get older and be able to remember the day they made his "daddy" leave( he isnt his biological father). Since i learned this info i actually keep expecting immigration to show up at our door and take him away anyway since from what i have read this is grounds for deportation.....

Please anyone and everyone give me feed back on what you know.

I have told him a few times that the relation is over and there are no feelings left in me for him.. He threatens to leave but never does, and each time i tell him there is the door please do

Why dont you head over to mena boards and ask them? They are very familiar with the culture and they can offer their opinions

Unless he removes conditions with you, he wont be able to remove them alone. Immigration isnt going to let him remove them alone.

Please post in the mena forum. You need their help and advice.

[Mithra 1,185]

There was a former member whose husband was jailed for domestic violence plus had a no contact order issued and he still was given a green card. Not that this is a good thing. I sure hope you don't plan on filing for ROC for this man so he can continue this behavior. Class A misdemeanor battery only 4 months into his stay in the US doesn't look good. Show him the door and change the locks. Unless you enjoy this behavior and it's working for you.

Edited January 7, 2011 by Mithra

[leahandlucas 15]

other things discovered like other secret relationships he is/was having back in Egypt?

If you want him out...get a protection order against him...that will make him leave the house..

[Nimaan 27]

You worked so hard and until the journey was complete when he got his visa to join you. What he did was wrong but maybe it was a culture shock. Coming to a foreign country where he doesnt know anyone else other than you, does not work (assuming) no firends or family could have made him turn this way. I am not making excuses for what he did but what I am saying maybe he changed because of his new sorroundings. I would get try to get him counseling if you still care. Maybe live separetely until you can figure out a solution...

[milimelo 4,477]

You worked so hard and until the journey was complete when he got his visa to join you. What he did was wrong but maybe it was a culture shock. Coming to a foreign country where he doesnt know anyone else other than you, does not work (assuming) no firends or family could have made him turn this way. I am not making excuses for what he did but what I am saying maybe he changed because of his new sorroundings. I would get try to get him counseling if you still care. Maybe live separetely until you can figure out a solution...

Excuse me, but how could you possibly say that DOMESTIC BATTERY could be a consequence of a culture shock? I don't know in which country it's ok to beat someone up and it's culturally acceptable.

OP needs to protect herself and her children and get a restraining order against the spouse and definitely report him.

Edited January 7, 2011 by milimelo

[Mithra 1,185]

Agreed. Using culture shock as an excuse is asinine. There are other ways to vent frustration due to "culture shock" that doesn't include knocking around your spouse. I fear that the OP plans to overlook this and kowtow to his apparent bullying tactics to do ROC. Otherwise, she'd have removed him from her home by now. Sad.

Also, "hard work" importing a husband isn't good enough reason to accept being battered.

Excuse me, but how could you possibly say that DOMESTIC BATTERY could be a consequence of a culture shock? I don't know in which country it's ok to beat someone up and it's culturally acceptable.

OP needs to protect herself and her children and get a restraining order against the spouse and definitely report him.

Edited January 7, 2011 by Mithra

[LaL 418]

Unless he removes conditions with you, he wont be able to remove them alone. Immigration isnt going to let him remove them alone.

This is untrue. As long as he can provide evidence that his marriage was in good faith - he can remove conditions on his own.