Inappropriate or not?

[Merlion@ 0]

no winking. But if I had trust issues I could easily see the hi's and the smiles and assume they were much more. That's what happens when you have trust issues, you don't see what is, you see what you fear.

What she did shouldn't be at issue here. Focus on what your husband did. You're married to him, not to her.

Okay, that's actually helpful. He would hav kissed her and says I took it out of context. I actually think he's honest but I still have a hard time getting over it. Maybe once I start work again, I'll get busy with work and stop focusing on this.

[chri'stina 190]

no winking. But if I had trust issues I could easily see the hi's and the smiles and assume they were much more. That's what happens when you have trust issues, you don't see what is, you see what you fear.

Yes, I guess the trust issues thing could do that. Not to hijack this thread but that's something I have a hard time remembering not to do when in places like...India. Giving a courteous smile to people, including males, at times. My husband doesn't think I am flirting when I do that, he knows I'm just trying to be nice, but sometimes the ppl I'm smiling at might think so? If they dare give a courteous smile back and their wife sees, she is going to post on a message board about it!

[^_^ 5,021]

I actually think he's honest but I still have a hard time getting over it.

Yo - that makes no sense!!!!

Yes, I guess the trust issues thing could do that. Not to hijack this thread but that's something I have a hard time remembering not to do when in places like...India. Giving a courteous smile to people, including males, at times. My husband doesn't think I am flirting when I do that, he knows I'm just trying to be nice, but sometimes the ppl I'm smiling at might think so? If they dare give a courteous smile back and their wife sees, she is going to post on a message board about it!

IndusLadies.com

[Minya's wife 25]

No, actually it wasn't hora. It was a turkish kind of sexy song. Hard to explain but she showed off her legs in the process. We danced hora too, but she was not in the picture. I was totally okay with him dancing hora.

She kissed him good-bye but did not kiss me. Her man kissed me but it was only after she made the move. As if he copied her..when we introduced each other he did not hand his hand to me. She did to both me and my husband, but she did not kiss me good-bye.

But it was you that she offered the contact information to, not him, right? You seem to focus too much on what she did...do you feel like your husband did any reciprocating, other than what you stated? Holding her hand and not yours during a turkish sexy song, with you right there on the dance floor does not qualify, no matter how much leg she showed.

[chri'stina 190]

IndusLadies.com

[^_^ 5,021]

It's a real site. And sometimes pretty funny.

[Merlion@ 0]

Yes, I guess the trust issues thing could do that. Not to hijack this thread but that's something I have a hard time remembering not to do when in places like...India. Giving a courteous smile to people, including males, at times. My husband doesn't think I am flirting when I do that, he knows I'm just trying to be nice, but sometimes the ppl I'm smiling at might think so? If they dare give a courteous smile back and their wife sees, she is going to post on a message board about it!

cri'stina, maybe so. because in that context you smiling may be uncalled for, especially to the opposite sex. that does not make the woman untrustful, it's a mattr of cultural upbringing and what is considered okay in that culture.

i judged the encountered based on my upbringing and usually in my culture we kiss good-bye but it is the male that initiates the kiss. i'm trying to justify it coming from her given the French influence although she is not French.

[^_^ 5,021]

This thread is just another reason to hate the French. The ultimate American past time.

Edited January 4, 2011 by \

[chri'stina 190]

It's a real site. And sometimes pretty funny.

I googled, saw it was real. I should give it a read. I'm most interested in stories involving Indian wife guilt tactics that work.

[Amby 490]

woooo you need to chill!!! you flipped for no reason.

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Just to be sure, maybe you should check his cell phone and email for a while to make sure nothing is going on.

[Calypso 464]

Just think of it this way:

Your husband was courteous and amiable. It would've been rude if he avoided her "kiss" or refused to dance with her. Everybody's friendly and merry during Christmas and New Year's Eve.

Even if the woman was flirting a bit with your man, you are supposed to be glad because that means aside from you, other people also find your husband attractive; an attractive man has chosen to be with you.

I guess it will be good that you forget the whole thing and prepare a good breakfast for him tomorrow like nothing happened and then talk to him about how you've been feeling.

[chri'stina 190]

cri'stina, maybe so. because in that context you smiling may be uncalled for, especially to the opposite sex. that does not make the woman untrustful, it's a mattr of cultural upbringing and what is considered okay in that culture.

i judged the encountered based on my upbringing and usually in my culture we kiss good-bye but it is the male that initiates the kiss. i'm trying to justify it coming from her given the French influence although she is not French.

I understand what you mean. I try to catch myself from being too smilie, but I have a hard time being blank faced when people are doing something helpful. I think if you let go of this situation for now you will feel better. A track record counts more. You know him, we don't.

[Ban Hammer 13,475]

I understand, actually. In my marriage I'm the conservative reserved type and my wife is saying hi and smiling to everyone. Luckily for me I don't have trust issues or I'd go insane. Luckily for me she's not like me either, or we'd have no new friends

aj the conservative?

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Just think of it this way:

Your husband was courteous and amiable. It would've been rude if he avoided her "kiss" or refused to dance with her. Everybody's friendly and merry during Christmas and New Year's Eve.

Even if the woman was flirting a bit with your man, you are supposed to be glad because that means aside from you, other people also find your husband attractive; an attractive man has chosen to be with you.

I guess it will be good that you forget the whole thing and prepare a good breakfast for him tomorrow like nothing happened and then talk to him about how you've been feeling.

What if she grabbed his junk? Should he be polite and let her?