Physical Attraction

[Mew 0]

Mew

.... I was actually thinking... Does attraction really matter to you (you being everyone) when FIRST entering into a relationship...

I think my answer still applies. If you enter a relationship, you don't hang around waiting to feel attracted to the person you're entering a relationship with. Like, you can be friends with someone for the longest time and then something changes, attraction sparkles and you enter into a relationship.

[Sheriff Uling 3]

Mew - There are no real right or wrong answers, views, or prospectives. I have personally never bought the whole, all of a sudden friends become attractive thing then become lovers. It’s suppressed lust that blossomed into a sexual explosion. LOL!

[Mew 0]

Mew - There are no real right or wrong answers, views, or prospectives. I have personally never bought the whole, all of a sudden friends become attractive thing then become lovers. It’s suppressed lust that blossomed into a sexual explosion. LOL!

You might be right about that. I have entered into a relationship with someone I didn't find attractive at first and it didn't work out. But then, different people, different situations... it might work for others.

[Sheriff Uling 3]

Mew - True very true... Call me superficial, but if there is no attraction, my attention span is gone fairly quickly. Maybe I have an Attraction Attention Disorder (AAD). That could be something the FDA will make up as a disorder so they can corner the market on a new drug.

ALL – If you must have an attraction to your mate, you may suffer from AAD. Talk to your doctor, s/he can help. LOL!!!

Cheers!!!

Edited August 31, 2006 by Uling

[Carlawarla 1]

I can only speak about my own experience, but having met my soulmate on the internet, it was all about personality first. Remember that song of Savage Garden's..."I knew I loved you before I met you"? We fell in love, after chatting for months and countless hours. We had exchanged a few pictures, but our attraction was felt WAY before we saw each other, and as well, before we saw any good pictures. I know myself, being a plus-size woman, I didn't think many men would be interested in me. But my soon to be husband thinks I'm the most beautiful woman in the world. My inner beauty transforms the outter beauty perhaps. I can honestly say that if I saw my love in a restaruant or bar, I would be physically intrigued by him...but would I think upon first sight he was the most gorgeous man I had ever seen? No. He certainly is to me now. But only for the inner beauty, warmth, and love that we share.

Just my opinion...

Carla

[Alex+R 0]

Mew

.... I was actually thinking... Does attraction really matter to you (you being everyone) when FIRST entering into a relationship...

I think my answer still applies. If you enter a relationship, you don't hang around waiting to feel attracted to the person you're entering a relationship with. Like, you can be friends with someone for the longest time and then something changes, attraction sparkles and you enter into a relationship.

I know this poll showed up a long time ago, but since it's in polls, I can still respond right? Anyway, I was friends with Rey for four months, and really, really best friends who talked constantly and hung out all the time every day we could. But I was dating other guys that were physically more "my type."

Rey is the first person I ever dated who was not tall, lanky, etc. but he is now the most attractive man I've ever seen! It just had to grow.

When I first saw him, I did not say "wow what a hottie," I said "wow he needs someone to help him get dressed in the morning."

The first night I met him I spent the rest of it getting chatted up by some other guy!

[Sheriff Uling 3]

Alex+R - This same quote applies to you as well... LOL! Cheers!!!

Mew - There are no real right or wrong answers, views, or prospectives. I have personally never bought the whole, all of a sudden friends become attractive thing then become lovers. It’s suppressed lust that blossomed into a sexual explosion. LOL!

Edited September 6, 2006 by Uling

[Alex+R 0]

Alex+R - This same quote applies to you as well... LOL! Cheers!!!

Mew - There are no real right or wrong answers, views, or prospectives. I have personally never bought the whole, all of a sudden friends become attractive thing then become lovers. It’s suppressed lust that blossomed into a sexual explosion. LOL!

HA. That's what Rey would say too, if you asked him. "You always wanted me, you just had to figure it out."

And I'm thinking "Um noooooo, have you SEEN the clothing you are wearing? There was a LOT to see past."

[Reynaldo 0]

Alex+R - This same quote applies to you as well... LOL! Cheers!!!

Mew - There are no real right or wrong answers, views, or prospectives. I have personally never bought the whole, all of a sudden friends become attractive thing then become lovers. It’s suppressed lust that blossomed into a sexual explosion. LOL!

HA. That's what Rey would say too, if you asked him. "You always wanted me, you just had to figure it out."

And I'm thinking "Um noooooo, have you SEEN the clothing you are wearing? There was a LOT to see past."

Ahem.

That is true.

back to the topic.

[jo&john 1]

I voted ..."must exist in my relationship." I would see that face everyday of my life when I wake up. I want to wake up smiling and let sunshine in. I am blessed I found the man that completes me. We have established a strong foundation of mutual love, respect, understanding, honesty and trust. Our meeting in person generated more sparks of mutual attraction and set the direction we are now heading to. We have 2 years of smooth long distance relationship. We love each other and I am sure we will be happy together.

[Slithytoves 0]

I can only speak about my own experience, but having met my soulmate on the internet, it was all about personality first. Carla

Hi, Carla. I met my husband online, too, so I find this question difficult to apply to our relationship (though I suppose nobody said it had to). We had been writing and calling every day for months before The Big Day, but we both admitted that a total lack of physical chemistry could realistically be a deal-breaker. The joke is that by the time we finally met, who's to say how much of our instant attraction was about raw physical appeal ... and how much was about our hopes and feelings persuading our senses?

Also, I have known people with not-so-hot looks who were extremely magnetic because of the way they carried themselves or how they moved. That's still physical, but it's influenced by what's inside, so I'm not entirely convinced there's always much of a line between physicality and personality anyway.

Alice

[Sheriff Uling 3]

Alice AKA Slithytoves - I really like what you wrote and it's the very reason why I adore VJ forums. To read peoples different perspectives on things. Thanks for the post. Cheers! - Sherif Uling

[~Jess~ 0]

i think it is very important, however i feel i am fat and ugly so im not sure how important it was for my hubby lol. but i think my baby is the best lookin man ever

[Sheriff Uling 3]

i think it is very important, however i feel i am fat and ugly so im not sure how important it was for my hubby lol. but i think my baby is the best lookin man ever

jessNgeorges - Don't write that! You have some very endearing qualities which is why your hubby adores you. Like most people have selected... Looks are only half the battle. It's the total package that counts when the dust settles. Cheers!!!

Edited September 9, 2006 by Uling

[Sheriff Uling 3]

Here's an old poll of mine....