Physical Attraction

[BelwinMills 0]

it has to exsit for sure in my book!

[Tim and Bethanie 1]

Perhaps his wallet was prettier?

Tim and Bethanie - I have spoken with women before who knew (openly admitted) their partner was not attractive to them and didn't care. Some folks do really do search for inner beauty with no regards to the external. It's hard for me to believe too, but I just let it go. There is no denying I do believe that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" cuz when I see my Lady's booty... I be holdin' it. LOL!

vartan - We are brothers separated at birth! LOL! I feel the same... Attraction is important and must exist but so does everything else (the complete package).

Natashabrenda - That is so true. Being in love does enhance that attraction and there has to be more than physical attraction. My last girlfriend was a beautiful person inside and out but I wasn't in love with her and thus my attraction and relationship faded away. And I walked right out of her life because I wasn't attracted to the complete package and I knew that I would hurt her in the end. Of course, she holds a grudge against me. In other words, she thinks I'm an a$#hole, but she'll secretly thank me in the end.

jenn3539 - People do read into this question/poll in many ways. I was actually thinking... Does attraction really matter to you (you being everyone) when FIRST entering into a relationship. I have lusted for women, but when I have not been genuinely attracted to the person beyond the beauty, it has never lasted. However, I must be attracted to my partner physically as well as emotionally (the entire package) if the relationship has any hopes of surviving. I am so thankful to have my Baby because we click on every level.

Everyone - Please vote! Thanks to all for the comments.

[Baileyj96 0]

I voted for it only goes so far....because physical attributes are the often the first impressions we have when meeting a person but has very little to do with the person they are.

The more you get to know someone. The more attractive they become to you.

Baileyj

[Arazia 0]

This is my view on things, and why I listed that it isn't a 'must'...

First thing, we're all going to grow old. Physical attraction is important early on, but sometimes you'll find you're attracted to a lot more than looks. It might be voice, mannerisms, actions. A guy can be an absolute knockout, but if he ignores you constantly and doesn't even want to put in some effort in the bedroom, then he's not going to be that attractive. In the long run, though... we all get old and wrinkly and most of us can't afford the perservatives movie stars use. By the time you're fifty, sixty years old... physical attraction is not going to matter anymore (unless you feel like constantly husband/wife hopping for some younger person, can we say sugar daddy/momma?). What matters at that point in life is someone who loves you, who can be your lifelong companion, and that has nothing to do with looks.

[jezebelseven 0]

The more you get to know someone. The more attractive they become to you.

Yup. I'm one of the weirdos that wasn't attracted to their now future husbands when we first met. When I first saw a picture of him it wasn't a thought of "Ooh, he's hot/cute/etc!", it was more a general "Oh, so that's what he looks like.". No instant attraction. It wasn't that he was ugly, it's just that he didn't look at all like someone I would normally be attracted to, and at first I really wasn't. It was a nonissue, although in all my relationships before, it was one of the first things to come up.

I did fall in love with who he was and his looks 'grew on me' so to speak. Now I have lots of qualities in his looks that I love and am amazingly attracted to.

If I had never gotten to know him the way I did, I doubt I would be looking back at a picture of him and going 'Damn, he's a hottie.' Now, when I do, I look at them and think 'How did I not see how gorgeous he was?'.

Edited August 28, 2006 by jezebelseven

[Sheriff Uling 3]

Tim and Bethanie – LOL! A guess a fat wallet can make us all a perfect 10.

Arazia – You are so true cuz when we all get older and that booty starts sagging… Personality counts!!! LOL!!!

jezebelseven – Shame on you not thinking your future husband was not a stud muffin from the onset. Especially because we all (men) think we are anyway. LOL!

Edited August 28, 2006 by Uling

[ya falaha! 0]

I personally think my husband is scrumdidliumcious!!! I'm extremely attracted to him. He's got the sexiest eyes I've ever seen...rrrrrrarrrr!

[Cristy 4]

It must exist. You do not need to be attracted to my husband but I need to be. I can't imagine being with someone who repulsed me. Saying it must exist does not mean he needs to be a model with a 6 pack and killer butt....but that I need to find him attractive. When I first saw his pic I did not fall over fanning myself over his hottness lol.

[Sheriff Uling 3]

cristy - I'm presuming that a six pack and a killer but wouldn't hurt. LOL!!!!

[Addie_Goodvibes 0]

My wife is the most beautiful lady in my world. looks matter, When I first saw her in Japan 12 years ago I knew she was the one!

[irishgirl73 0]

I voted for it only goes so far....because physical attributes are the often the first impressions we have when meeting a person but has very little to do with the person they are.

The more you get to know someone. The more attractive they become to you.

Baileyj

very true

My man is drop-dead gorgeous.................I was attracted to him immediately. That accent.............God it makes me weak in the knees Physical attraction does only go so far-but I have to admit, that I MUST be attracted to someone physically or I won't bother.

[garya505 2]

My fiance is always asking me "do you like big boobs?". I always tell her "no, you are perfect dear".

[Addie_Goodvibes 0]

My fiance is always asking me "do you like big boobs?". I always tell her "no, you are perfect dear".

My Japanese wife said that a few times as well, she asked me if I wanted her to get breast enlargement, I said "NO WAY! you are perfect! I like her perky little figure!

[wherezdabearz 0]

I happen to think my hubster is gorgeous and I am very attracted to him physically, but I also think you can be physically attracted to someone who's not conventionally good looking. Physical attraction can be about the smell of someone's skin, the shape of a forearm, a cute butt, a voice...

I think it's important that each person is physically attracted to his or her partner, but, thankfully, this doesn't mean that only 'good looking' people get to find a partner.

[chri'stina 190]

I voted for it only goes so far....because physical attributes are the often the first impressions we have when meeting a person but has very little to do with the person they are.

The more you get to know someone. The more attractive they become to you.

Baileyj

Totally agree...

Looks are not everything and it's not a good idea to base a relationship on that alone. I think my husband is attractive. But I don't care if he is considered "hot" by society or not. People have all different tastes. And honestly no matter how cliche it sounds, the inside of the person is way more important to me. When you like what is inside them, it only adds to their attractiveness on the outside.

Edited August 28, 2006 by stina&suj