Met a rude fellow Pinay

[Ginalisa 0]

There are rude people from evey corner of the world.. were you surprised that a fellow Pinay could be rude? Did you never meet someone in PI that was rude? I have met several Pinay that were rude and I dont label every Pinay as rude because of the actions of a few..

The woman is best friends with his ex and you are surprised she wasnt polite and thrilled you were with him rather than her best friend.... Its just as much in his lap as it was hers for taking you to a situation like that.... If he was in a couples bowling league with his ex and then he shows up with you as his new bowling partner, the other people who were best friends / members of the group with the ex would not likely treat you the same as the ex at first... it takes time to adjust to change and get used to new people and situations...

You have the point there, thank you. I have been expecting that she would act like a civilized person.

[Ginalisa 0]

I am sorry about your experience with her. Sometimes, our own people is the one who hurt us. Sometimes, we have to be careful in choosing friend and people. Make friend with them who have the same spirit with us to make everything easier.

Thanks Uta, I feel sorry too. I learned a lesson that should choose who to befriend with. It's hard to find true freinds these days.

[Ginalisa 0]

hi OP...don't let those type of people, especially those type of fellow kababayans get to you. she's doing exactly what you said...which is disrespect you and embarass you because husband's ex is her friend. there's a lot of filipinos here in the states like that....na they try to over do one another. you're not missing much by deciding not to be friends with these people...those types of "i can outdo you" people you don't want to be friends with anyways. but don't let it deter you from going to other filipino gatherings. not all of our kababayans have that kind of attitude.

Hello TravellingNomad,

Thank you so much. Yeah, many people not only Filipinos have the "I can outdo you" attitude. AFter the inccident I am now careful and cautious in choosing my friends. Have met a few Pinays here but I am only worried that they would do the same to me.

Stay away from people who dont make you feel accepted. I'm sure you can eventually find friends who are sincere and humble. Another advice is, keep a few chosen friends!

Thank you Pinky & Danny.

I sure have one Piay friend here who doesn't treat me bad.

[Ginalisa 0]

It is expected that filipina would be rude to you. She is the bestfriend of your hubby's ex-wife. A kind of attitude that majority of women would do irregardless of nationality; stick with their friends and be nasty to the other woman. No brainer here.

Reality check... please analyze your scenario before posting bad comments. Your generalization is kind of unfair towards your fellow filipinas.

I WAS just expecting that she would act like a civilized person.. I didn't do anything to her. The no brainer here is treating your kababayan as your enemy. People who treat other people like that are just not civilized at all.

[jrmejia 31]

Sad to hear that. Just be you and be happy the way you are.

My 2 cents

[Maxx121 14]

its not just pinay's who do things like that, just find a like minded crowd and you will be fine.

[sheenaspapi 18]

Pinay or not, rude people come in all colors. Look at everyone as an indivigual and judge them so. She is not the norm for Filipinas or Americans in general.

[Tahoma 2,292]

If I thought for a second someone was being rude to my wife it would either be confronted and ended or the association would cease.

You are the wife. You are number one.

Hmmm...I'm wondering the same thing...why did your husband allow that rude behavior?

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

Hmmm...I'm wondering the same thing...why did your husband allow that rude behavior?

Personally I would never expect my ex-wife's best friend to be happy to meet my new wife so there'd never be such a situation.

[Mike's Lucy 14]

I WAS just expecting that she would act like a civilized person.. I didn't do anything to her. The no brainer here is treating your kababayan as your enemy. People who treat other people like that are just not civilized at all.

[Nelly228 0]

I am a Filipina living in Washington state. I have been here for more than a year but I only have one Filipina friend, My husband ntroduced me to her and she and her husband were very good people. I once attended a party for another Filipino here. My husband personaly knew her and they seem fine. At her house, she was always asking my husband about his ex-wife who happened to be her "bestfriend". I was so ridiculed and I felt I am not welcome to their house and party. From that point on, I never go to any Filipino get together. She was so rude and uneducated, they are also some kind of "socialite" and they are trying to outdo each other by having fancy clothes and gadgets.

I am just sad that there are Filipinos like that, treating their fellow kababayan like ######.

sorry to hear about your experienced with our kababayan. i am lucky to met some friendly pilipino in my area. but i am also careful on choosing a friend especially with my fellow pinay. hindi talaga mawawala ang inggit at kayabangan ng ating kapwa pinoy lalo na pag first time maka experience ng magandang buhay.

[Leng198 0]

Most filipno's tend to think that because we are filipino, we are the same race, from the same country that we should stick together. But it doesnt always work that way.

Everyone is different.

[annaprice 17]

I had an experience similar to this but in a restaurant. The fellow filipino was mean i asked are you filipino, and they said yes, and told me im mexican? they started laughing and left, So i told my husband about it. They were so rude, the only reason i asked was because we just got here that time and I was looking for people to talk to.

[martess 1]

Hi tess, thank you so much. Yeah I stayed away already from them, it just hurts that I don't have somebody to talk in my own language, but I'm getting the hang of it. My husband's children are rally nice to me. Where in Washington is your fiance?

Ah. okay, sounds good, but just be on your own natural style being a filipina, remain friendly and hospitable to your fellowmen, I'm sure you can win a lot of genuine friends there in the future. We'll fiance is in Puyallup, WA, What about yours?

[Loolie 56]

I WAS just expecting that she would act like a civilized person.. I didn't do anything to her. The no brainer here is treating your kababayan as your enemy. People who treat other people like that are just not civilized at all.

Actually you were in an awkward situation. I wouldnt put myself in that situation unless we are already close friend. When I got here I didnt look for filipino instead I looked for filipino food or restaurants hehehe. Sometimes you need to think first before putting yourself in that kind of a situation because you cant really expect someone to act normal all the time. next thing you know you will be in the ex wifes house coz you expect her to treat you nice like a civilized person.