Got married and left Usa, Help!!!

[Rose32 1]

I am so sorry for your situation.

You broke the law because you did not do any research before you stayed in the US for 3 years. Now you are very emotional, understandably so, but you need to begin planning for your future. Your husband needs to file the I-130 NOW, failing to do so means more time apart. Read the guides for the Cr-1 visa and get the petition in the mail - don't wait for him to get to Sweden

http://www.visajourney.com/content/i130guide1

The US embassy cannot help you and are under no obligation to help you - there is no right for a US citizen to bring his wife to the US.

At the very least, contact Laural Scott who offers free immigration chats on Wednesdays at scottimmigration.net and begin your waiver. This can take a large amount of time to complete so best to be prepared.

Oh, and research, research, research

Hi! thanks for replying. yes im very emotional right now and cant stop crying. ok , i will tell him to go and file that I-130 on monday already, he got an appointment there. and i will look more into what to do, i wont give up, i just feel weak right now cuz when i heard about the 10 year ban, u know, i died inside. and i will contact the american embassy here and ask for a meeting and to file that Cr-1 visa something, even if they cant help me , i will try anyways, i have nothing to loose anyways,right. and my husband will be here just to see me, but if they want him to file and all that stuff , then i will tell him to stay there and do that. and i will go and chat with that woman Laura Scott, thank you for your answer

god bless you

Good luck

[Boiler 45,486]

The situation is not that complicated, even if not pleasant.

You need to start with your Husband filing the I 130.

When you get to the interview you will be denied due to the 10 year bar. If he gets his act together the interview will be sometime in the summer.

Then you will be given the opportunity of filing a waiver for the bar, I 601.

There are examples of successful waivers on here, also go to www.immigrate2us.net.

There is no reason a waiver can not be successful in Sweden. There are recommended lawyers on the above site if you need help.

I am not sure how long the waivers take, but you are probably looking at a year total

[amykathleen2005 441]

Have you every heard of a country which just allows you to stay because you got married without filing any kind of paperwork whatsoever? I doubt it. You seem a sane person, why would you or your husband not at some point in 3 years think to look into this before you left?

[John+Lourdelie 28]

Have you every heard of a country which just allows you to stay because you got married without filing any kind of paperwork whatsoever? I doubt it. You seem a sane person, why would you or your husband not at some point in 3 years think to look into this before you left?

I think that over the years, Hollywood has given the impression that if you marry an American, you're automatically entitled to come to/stay in this country. I have talk to many people that think this is true and asked me why I didn't just marry my fiancée in the Philippines and bring her here on a plane when I returned from visiting her.

John

[james&olya 1,121]

Have you every heard of a country which just allows you to stay because you got married without filing any kind of paperwork whatsoever? I doubt it. You seem a sane person, why would you or your husband not at some point in 3 years think to look into this before you left?

Come on Amy, give this poor girl a break! How many people know anything about the paperwork and processes involved in any of this in any country, unless they or a family member goes through it. Her story is heartbreaking. I, for one, hope very much that she will qualify for one of those scarce waivers. Her husband needs to be getting his congress-man and senators working on this for him also. Hang in there Rose, rules must sometimes have exceptions and I think you deserve such consideration!

[Krikit 1,164]

Please keep the judgemental comments to yourself. This is devastating enough for the OP. Thank you.

Rose, you have a couple of good links give to you by Canadian_Wife and Boiler. Here is the link to VJ's waiver forum: Link

I am going to move your thread from the K-3 Process forum to the General Immigration Discussion as it appears you need advice on quite a number of issues. Good luck, and I wish you all the best.

[amykathleen2005 441]

Come on Amy, give this poor girl a break! How many people know anything about the paperwork and processes involved in any of this in any country, unless they or a family member goes through it. Her story is heartbreaking. I, for one, hope very much that she will qualify for one of those scarce waivers. Her husband needs to be getting his congress-man and senators working on this for him also. Hang in there Rose, rules must sometimes have exceptions and I think you deserve such consideration!

Well, I know about the paperwork, and most people on this site know about it and thousands of people who apply for immigration to the US every year know about it so it is hardly a secret. No where does it say on your visa when you come in that you can just stay indefinitely if you get married so why would someone assume that?

I too hope that the OP can get a waiver, I have no problem with someone being with the one they love.

My thought is from the perspective of someone who has been away from their loved one for a year while our paperwork was processed and after all of our heartache and stress I just find it irresponsible when couples don't do everything in their power to be with the one they love when they have the opportunity (as in before they leave the USA) and then complain that they didn't know when it should have been their #1 priority to find out about the process. That's just my opinion and is not directed specifically at the OP, just the situation, take it or leave it.

OP I wish you luck in your waiver process.

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

I'm not the most gentle, but also not the most brutal messenger, and since I have family roots in Sweden, lived there for 2 years, I'm partial to the Swedish people. Hence I'm shocked that you find yourself in such an awkward situation, especially since all you had to do is file for adjustment of status, or at least check if it's okay to leave the US with a visa that expired 3 years earlier.

You don't understand. There is no possibility that you have triggered the 10-year bar; it's a fact.

Boiler gave excellent advice on how to proceed from here, by having your husband file the I-130 and, once adjudicated, file for a CR-1 (spousal) visa in Sweden at the US Embassy or Consulate. This visa application WILL be denied because of your overstay. It's not in their discretion to make an exception. Even if they liked you like their own daughter, there's nothing they can do to help you. What you would need to get back into the US before the year 2020 is an I-601 waiver. Contrary to Boiler, however, I'm rather pessimistic about you getting one, but nothing is unimpossible, I always claim.

If you are serious about the waiver thing, I suggest for your husband to contact Laurel Scott in Texas. Laurel is an immigration attorney who specializes in waivers, nothing but waivers. Waivers every day of the week, every week of the year. Your husband can call her and get an initial consultation on the phone. Laurel will tell him straight out what your chances are to get this pulled of. I can't recommend her highly enough.

Here's her information:

http://www.scottimmigration.net/

Good luck!

[Rose32 1]

Come on Amy, give this poor girl a break! How many people know anything about the paperwork and processes involved in any of this in any country, unless they or a family member goes through it. Her story is heartbreaking. I, for one, hope very much that she will qualify for one of those scarce waivers. Her husband needs to be getting his congress-man and senators working on this for him also. Hang in there Rose, rules must sometimes have exceptions and I think you deserve such consideration!

hi!

thank you for saying these kind words to me. I needed to hear that right now. I just talked to my husband for 1 hour over the phone, crying, but then, what the sense to cry,crying is not gonna take us anywhere, so he said he will go on monday, talking to lawyers or anything,and if its not gonna work, he will be here, at least we can be with each other. I made the biggest mistake to not find out anything while i was there,and came back here not knowing i will be banned for 10 years, yes i blame myself, I was just so happy with him, that was my best 3 years in my life, and I love him from my heart, and I told him today that if i have to wait for 10 years, so be it. anyways, thanks for replying, at least i have someone to talk to right now, im so sad

Rose

[Krikit 1,164]

You will get through it, Rose. Life has a strange way of leading you down certain paths so that your life can change for the better. The challenge is in navigating the rough waters to reach the other side. One day you will know why this has happened.

Edited December 11, 2010 by Krikit

[Rose32 1]

I'm not the most gentle, but also not the most brutal messenger, and since I have family roots in Sweden, lived there for 2 years, I'm partial to the Swedish people. Hence I'm shocked that you find yourself in such an awkward situation, especially since all you had to do is file for adjustment of status, or at least check if it's okay to leave the US with a visa that expired 3 years earlier.

You don't understand. There is no possibility that you have triggered the 10-year bar; it's a fact.

Boiler gave excellent advice on how to proceed from here, by having your husband file the I-130 and, once adjudicated, file for a CR-1 (spousal) visa in Sweden at the US Embassy or Consulate. This visa application WILL be denied because of your overstay. It's not in their discretion to make an exception. Even if they liked you like their own daughter, there's nothing they can do to help you. What you would need to get back into the US before the year 2020 is an I-601 waiver. Contrary to Boiler, however, I'm rather pessimistic about you getting one, but nothing is unimpossible, I always claim.

If you are serious about the waiver thing, I suggest for your husband to contact Laurel Scott in Texas. Laurel is an immigration attorney who specializes in waivers, nothing but waivers. Waivers every day of the week, every week of the year. Your husband can call her and get an initial consultation on the phone. Laurel will tell him straight out what your chances are to get this pulled of. I can't recommend her highly enough.

Here's her information:

http://www.scottimmigration.net/

Good luck!

Hi!

Thank you for the information, i appreciate any kind of answer right now, even if it hurts. I will tell him to contact Laurel Scott then. Lets see what happens, im feel like its hopeless right now, but I believe in god and god will make a way for us, cuz everything is possible, even if it seems inpossible right now. Iam trying to be strong right now.

anyways, thanks

Rose

[Rose32 1]

Please keep the judgemental comments to yourself. This is devastating enough for the OP. Thank you.

Rose, you have a couple of good links give to you by Canadian_Wife and Boiler. Here is the link to VJ's waiver forum: Link

I am going to move your thread from the K-3 Process forum to the General Immigration Discussion as it appears you need advice on quite a number of issues. Good luck, and I wish you all the best.

Alright, move me there, and thank you. I wil check out these links, cuz i cant sleep anyways im happy i found this forum and im happy there is forums like this.

thanks

[Boiler 45,486]

Make sure he has the right basis for visiting you in Sweden.

[Rose32 1]

Make sure he has the right basis for visiting you in Sweden.

What kind of right basis? He cant come here and just visit?

[sweetheart32 3]

Hi! Thank you for replying, i was just outside, I live in Sweden by the way, and I didnt feel the cold at all, he called me, and we cried, I told him the news, and we cant live without each other, I could take 1 year even, right now not even a second wthout him, but 10 years, god forgive me, but i want to die, i cant stop crying, i accuse myself, why did i leave, why. he said hes gonna be here soon,but i cant ask him to leave the states, but we will die for sure without each other. i have people there that can state that i voluntered in a church, but i didnt work there. he worked and i stood home. my home is there , in us, not here, if someone told me right now, that i could go back, i will run to the airport and leave and i will hug everyone on the airport in us, but this is a nightmare for me right now and i talk to a lawyer here and he will do that too over there, but what i just heard in here, its kinda impossible anyways, and we didnt even get a kid with each other, and im 32 now, so to wait 10 years, i will never have a kid, and yes , i wouuld wait 10 years for him, and that day im leaving, i will neveeer come back here again.

Rose

Oh i'm sorry about what happened to you,you make me cry by reading your story right now.I understand how you feel.Hope and pray everything will be fine Just keep on praying..