What would you do?

[TracyTN 237]

I'll ask Julian, but I think he is going to say NO. He's pretty worried about some of the people on VJ coming to hunt him down.

Oh the ego! PUHleeze.

[Fandango 1,439]

but even Melissa has no problem understanding me so I don't see why somebody whose job it is to work with 'foreigners' should have such issues.

'Even' Melissa, lol

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Posting on a mb from the reception is teh funny though.

[Aztec&Taino 144]

About 10 days ago, one of my bridesmaids told me she no longer wanted to be in my wedding after she and I had a huge fight. She and my fiance don't get along very well, and I have known this for a while, but until the beginning of last week she seemed to be able to just keep quiet about this and help us celebrate our wedding. However, she seems to have changed her mind now. She brought back the bridesmaid's dress and shoes I bought her and told me to find someone else. I couldn't believe it! She left me with about 2 1/2 weeks (our wedding is a week from this Saturday) to find someone new to be a bridesmaid. My mom made me choose my sister, which I had NOT wanted to do for any number of reasons (first off, she is too large up top to fit in the dress, so we needed to get her a new one and then have it tailored).

Now my sister is being totally unbearable, and is demanding that she be made maid of honor since she's my sister. What's worse is my mom agrees! I have already had the same friend as my MOH since I got engaged in the spring, and it seems cruel to demote her now. Especially since I never wanted my sister in my wedding party in the first place! I know if I don't "promote" Rachel (my sister) to MOH, I won't have any rest from her or my mom, but if I "demote" Jen I will be doing something I don't want to do and I'll hurt her feelings.

Since many of my close friends are involved already in the wedding planning, I feel like I can't get an objective point of view on this, so I thought I could ask people here. So -- what would you do? I feel like I should stand my ground, but my fiance thinks I should go along with my mother and sister. Help!

My advice is not to lose sight of what is really important: your upcoming marriage. Honestly, if you begin to sweat this small stuff, you may not survive a long and healthy marriage!

Or perhaps I am not understanding of your cultural beliefs since I plan on having a small wedding without all of that bridesmaid business,which I think is cruel to subject close female friends to those horrible dresses, anyway.

Can't you have two maids of honor? A joint main maid appointment?

Again, remember to refocus on what is REALLY important in life and don't stress over small things.

Best wishes!

[MelissaJulian 30]

Thank you to everyone for the best wishes. The wedding was WONDERFUL, except for all the rain that we're having here. I'm so glad we decided to have everything indoors, since my original plan was to have the reception in my parents' backyard with heater lamps for the evening. My sister was pretty well-behaved, the ceremony was beautiful and the reception only had a few hiccups (mostly to do with the best man being a total lech with all the bridesmaids ). Julian and I are taking a week to relax after the wedding, then we're off for three weeks in St. John. Can't wait!