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I thought the smug level in Los Angeles had risen recently

tmma
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By Melissa's own admission- This guy belly ached for an expedited interview at the Embassy by going thru friends in high places and then because of a hangover wanted to reschedule....He cannot catch a

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I think mutual suicide might be the only way out of this.

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thongd4me   69

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Actually telling the MOH/friend to give up her position as MOH in exchange for being godmother

to your first child may "out" her and make her show you what camp she really is in.

If she is really in favor of your marriage she should be thrilled to be godmother to your (and Julian's) kid.

You could say you had no idea that your sister wanted to be in the wedding party but since she has a

change of heart you have to go with that because it would be an opportunity to rebuild your relationship

with her.

02/2003 - Met

08/24/09 I-129F; 09/02 NOA1; 10/14 NOA2; 11/24 interview; 11/30 K-1 VISA (92 d); 12/29 POE 12/31/09 Marriage

03/29/-04/06/10 - AOS sent/rcd; 04/13 NOA1; AOS 2 NBC

04/14 $1010 cashed; 04/19 NOA1

04/28 Biom.

06/16 EAD/AP

06/24 Infops; AP mail

06/28 EAD mail; travel 2 BKK; return 07/17

07/20/10 interview, 4d. b4 I-129F anniv. APPROVAL!*

08/02/10 GC

08/09/10 SSN

2012-05-16 Lifting Cond. - I-751 sent

2012-06-27 Biom,

2013-01-10 7 Mo, 2 Wks. & 5 days - 10 Yr. PR Card (no interview)

*2013-04-22 Apply for citizenship (if she desires at that time) 90 days prior to 3yr anniversary of P. Residence

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MelissaJulian   30

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I guess it wouldn't hurt to ask Jen. It's not like she won't still be in the wedding party. And if she does really love me as a friend, she won't walk away from me right now when I need her support. I guess I'm just freaking out because Julian's flight is tomorrow and I can't wait to see him!

Actually telling the MOH/friend to give up her position as MOH in exchange for being godmother

to your first child may "out" her and make her show you what camp she really is in.

If she is really in favor of your marriage she should be thrilled to be godmother to your (and Julian's) kid.

You could say you had no idea that your sister wanted to be in the wedding party but since she has a

change of heart you have to go with that because it would be an opportunity to rebuild your relationship

with her.

This sounds like a really great idea -- thank you SO much. :)

"It doesn't matter who you love, or how you love, but that you love"

~Robert Browning~

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thongd4me   69

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I guess it wouldn't hurt to ask Jen. It's not like she won't still be in the wedding party. And if she does really love me as a friend, she won't walk away from me right now when I need her support. I guess I'm just freaking out because Julian's flight is tomorrow and I can't wait to see him!

This sounds like a really great idea -- thank you SO much. :)

You're welcome - and to head off any further complications in the future you have to tell your sister AND mother

that your friend will be the first godmother - not so they can try another stressful power play when THAT event comes along.

If your friend is out of the picture when and if you do have children, well, that's life.

02/2003 - Met

08/24/09 I-129F; 09/02 NOA1; 10/14 NOA2; 11/24 interview; 11/30 K-1 VISA (92 d); 12/29 POE 12/31/09 Marriage

03/29/-04/06/10 - AOS sent/rcd; 04/13 NOA1; AOS 2 NBC

04/14 $1010 cashed; 04/19 NOA1

04/28 Biom.

06/16 EAD/AP

06/24 Infops; AP mail

06/28 EAD mail; travel 2 BKK; return 07/17

07/20/10 interview, 4d. b4 I-129F anniv. APPROVAL!*

08/02/10 GC

08/09/10 SSN

2012-05-16 Lifting Cond. - I-751 sent

2012-06-27 Biom,

2013-01-10 7 Mo, 2 Wks. & 5 days - 10 Yr. PR Card (no interview)

*2013-04-22 Apply for citizenship (if she desires at that time) 90 days prior to 3yr anniversary of P. Residence

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I would stick with my Friend as It has been planned this way for awhile..... OR do it like me and say screw it and elope haha

~~~Marriage : 2009-07-10~~~

~~~I-130 Sent : 2009-11-24~~~

~~~ Medical : 2010-09-28~~~ ~~~ MTL Interview : 2010-10-20~~~ ~~~ APPROVED~~~

~~~POE Date :2010-10-31~~~ ~~~Received SSN's 2010-11-08~~

~~~Welcome Letter/Notice Receipt :2010-11-30~~~ ~~~Received Our Green Cards 2010-12-06~~~

~~~ ROC :2012-08-20~~~ ~~~NOA1 :2012-08-28~~~ ~~~BIO :2012-09-25~~~~

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i kept thinking MOH was "medal of honor" :blush:

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I carry a gun because a cop is too heavy.

 

USE THE REPORT BUTTON INSTEAD OF MESSAGING A MODERATOR!

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thongd4me   69

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i kept thinking MOH was "medal of honor" :blush:

:thumbs:

With all the shuffling & re-shuffling that's going on, it's hard to appreciate that

a wedding in fact is all about the bride (and then the groom), usually in that order.

With everyone screaming "me first!" it's hard for the couple to be happy on their special day.

02/2003 - Met

08/24/09 I-129F; 09/02 NOA1; 10/14 NOA2; 11/24 interview; 11/30 K-1 VISA (92 d); 12/29 POE 12/31/09 Marriage

03/29/-04/06/10 - AOS sent/rcd; 04/13 NOA1; AOS 2 NBC

04/14 $1010 cashed; 04/19 NOA1

04/28 Biom.

06/16 EAD/AP

06/24 Infops; AP mail

06/28 EAD mail; travel 2 BKK; return 07/17

07/20/10 interview, 4d. b4 I-129F anniv. APPROVAL!*

08/02/10 GC

08/09/10 SSN

2012-05-16 Lifting Cond. - I-751 sent

2012-06-27 Biom,

2013-01-10 7 Mo, 2 Wks. & 5 days - 10 Yr. PR Card (no interview)

*2013-04-22 Apply for citizenship (if she desires at that time) 90 days prior to 3yr anniversary of P. Residence

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Let Julian marry Rachel, You be a brides maid. I only read the first page of this but it sounds like there are too many unresolved issues.

If one friend hates julian enough to drop out of the wedding, And Julian hates the other friend enough to take your families side against

you. Hello big red flag.

Part of the trouble with big weddings is they take on a life of their own, You obviously are not in control.

It appears you are going to have to choose between Julian and your friends. That really should have been done before all this wedding

stuff was set up. If you follow the momentum of the wedding now, it is the equivilent of being steamrolled.

Dan

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I'll just throw in a few more details lacking from Mel's post. As I've said before, her mum is right on this one. Sorry Mel, but she is. Jen may be a good friend of yours, but she's not a good friend of mine. Far from it actually, she's downright hostile. So as Mel's mum has quite rightly put to her on more than one occasion, how can that possibly start a marriage off on the right foot? My advice (as before) is to put family first. Friends will come and go, and I'm sorry but the loss of Jen's friendship would be no bad thing. Your family however, will always be there and who knows, maybe it's a good way for you to patch things up with sis. She's not as bad as all that, actually.

And I would appreciate it if we'd leave my mum out of this, as it has no bearing on the topic at han

Are you supposed to leave his mum out of it because she agrees with you. Or because you do not get along with his mum???

Either way, Red flag

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1. Socrates died from an overdose of wedlock.

2. The most dangerous food is Wedding Cake.

3. Why do most husbands die first? They WANT to.

4. Si, man.

06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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no man is complete until he's married - then he's finished.

* ~ * Charles * ~ *
 

I carry a gun because a cop is too heavy.

 

USE THE REPORT BUTTON INSTEAD OF MESSAGING A MODERATOR!

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