HELP!!! In the US on fiancee visa, but petitioner backed out!!!

[Hurting Bad 14]

Yes, correct, I do not have any plans on doing anything illegal.

I feel better knowing all this. Thank you so much! I will try to go to the nearby SSA office in Chicago where I live with my bestfriend and her husband while I'm here. Or I can do this while I'm in California with my brother after a few days. It is a relief knowing that I do not need to see my ex for my SSN. I hope the SSA staff will NOT ask me too many questions like, why are you applying in Illinois and not in Indiana... why is your fiance not with you... when are you planning to get married.... I surely am a poor liar. I hope everything goes smoothly.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Yes, correct, I do not have any plans on doing anything illegal.

I feel better knowing all this. Thank you so much! I will try to go to the nearby SSA office in Chicago where I live with my bestfriend and her husband while I'm here. Or I can do this while I'm in California with my brother after a few days. It is a relief knowing that I do not need to see my ex for my SSN. I hope the SSA staff will NOT ask me too many questions like, why are you applying in Illinois and not in Indiana... why is your fiance not with you... when are you planning to get married.... I surely am a poor liar. I hope everything goes smoothly.

You shouldn't have any issues. Just go to the SSA with your passport with the K1 in it and a completed for SS-5. They will enter your info on the system, and process your card. There should be no questions about your fiance but if there are, answer honestly.. Such as "when are you getting married?", "we still have X days, no plans yet". It's the truth without causing hassles. Even if you told the truth they can't deny you based on that... your eligibility is your visa, not your impending marriage.

[Maggie'smom 3]

You must go home. God will work things in your favor & you will be back in the states in no time. God bless you!

The same thing happened to me. My fiance and I broke up and I ended up comingback home to the Philippines after a month of stay in California with my family there. I believe it was the wisest decision I ever made-to come back home, so I will have better chances to go back there in the future. I am also a nurse like you. I hope the advices you get from people on here will enlighten you.. God bless..

[USC1961 251]

To everyone else, the OP has NEVER made it seem that she wants to stay and work in the US illegally. She is only wanting to look for an employer who will sponsor her for a work visa when she leaves in order for her to return. There is nothing illegal about that.

She has always stated she is leaving before her K1 expires. She is entitled to look for someone to sponsor her back to the US in the meantime.

Not to be harsh here but it does bear repeating. The OP did ask for solutions at the beginning and the members of this forum have given solid advice. Overstaying the visa is about the worst thing you could do to damage her chances in the future of staying here in the USA legally. Not only that people who violate their visa agreements, just make it harder for all of us to get approval who are patiently waiting.

Hurting, I feel for you I really do. Things will be ok. The silver lining in all of this is, it's better that it happened before you got married. I know it doesn't seem like it now but you will find out that YOU really were blessed. Take care and Best Wishes.

Edited December 2, 2010 by Cruise77

[Jun&Scheillo 6]

You shouldn't have any issues. Just go to the SSA with your passport with the K1 in it and a completed for SS-5. They will enter your info on the system, and process your card. There should be no questions about your fiance but if there are, answer honestly.. Such as "when are you getting married?", "we still have X days, no plans yet". It's the truth without causing hassles. Even if you told the truth they can't deny you based on that... your eligibility is your visa, not your impending marriage.

Hhhh! will it be on record that she managed to benefit a social security card and any other things with her K 1 Visa meanwhile,no marriage? will that come up when she tries to deal with the USCIS again?

[NVC FAN :( 18]

Sorry i can tell you are just devastated about the marriage not working out. just so you know if you do manage to get a ssn , it will not matter now or in the future. cause below the number it will state " NOT ELIGIBLE FOR WORK " you can ask anyone on here. So if you want to waste what little time you have left going to the ssn office and waiting another week or 2 to get the card. but it will mean nothing. you can not ajust your status.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Not to be harsh here but it does bear repeating. The OP did ask for solutions at the beginning and the members of this forum have given solid advice. Overstaying the visa is about the worst thing you could do to damage her chances in the future of staying here in the USA legally. Not only that people who violate their visa agreements, just make it harder for all of us to get approval who are patiently waiting.

The OP at NO stage stated that she was planning on overstaying. She did state she did NOT intend to do anything illegal, including in the OP that she planned to change to a working visa (if possible). She did ask whether it was possible to just change via the K1 but indicated if she couldn't, she would leave and re-enter via a work visa if possible, that she would NEVER overstay.

Here are the relevant sections from the OP:

My next question: I have a brother in SFO and he'd like me to go there and visit to help with my heartbreak. At the same time, his wife told me that that I can look for a job there, but not illegally -- I can look for an employer who will sponsor my working visa. Is this possible? Do I need to get a lawyer for this, or will the employer work on this?

She also restated here:

Thank you. Yes, I will not work here illegally nor overstay. I wanted to get my SSN to get my california nursing license, and secondary is my wish to find an employer who will legally allow me to work here sooner or later. If I don't find an employer here, oh well, but life goes on. I would be ok with going home, too, that's where my family is, anyway, and I can find a job again.

Hhhh! will it be on record that she managed to benefit a social security card and any other things with her K 1 Visa meanwhile,no marriage? will that come up when she tries to deal with the USCIS again?

Irrelevant! It's not an illegal benefit. She doesn't NEED to marry this guy. Obviously that's the intent of the visa but if it doesn't work out, it doesn't. Happens all the time. She just needs to leave before her I-94 expires. Her visa permits her to get a SSN. Some student visas can, and tourist visas used to as well. It will have NO ill-bearing on her if she chooses to immigrate again.

The OP is doing NOTHING illegal. She has a previous post where she discusses the nuances of how she came to be in this situation. Her K1 didn't work out and she's trying to find a way to move forward with her life. She is asking for LEGAL solutions. We gave them. No problem.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

[quote name=NVC FAN ' timestamp='1291259322' post='4323151]Sorry i can tell you are just devastated about the marriage not working out. just so you know if you do manage to get a ssn , it will not matter now or in the future. cause below the number it will state " NOT ELIGIBLE FOR WORK " you can ask anyone on here. So if you want to waste what little time you have left going to the ssn office and waiting another week or 2 to get the card. but it will mean nothing. you can not ajust your status.

She is NOT trying to adjust her status. She is asking about a SSN. Please stop making assumptions where none are.

She stated in the OP why she wanted a SSN and it is a valid reason and the "not valid for work" doesn't affect her perfectly valid and LEGAL reason. Once (and if) she comes back on a work visa she will have the "work authorisation" required for the SSN. Less hassles to get the SSN now for the reason she stated in the OP.

OP you have your answers. If you would like this thread to be closed to prevent further redundant replies you can click "report" and ask that your thread be closed. Good luck and stay strong

[Aztec&Taino 144]

This is my second post. The first one was equally sad. But I guess this one is much better, at least something has been decided upon. My petitioner backed out from our wedding. I just got here on Nov. 24. He doesn't have problems with me but he realized that he is not ready to give up his single life. But that is no longer my problem now, I should move on with my life.

My question is this: I am a nurse, and I have passed my NCLEX exam in California. The board of nursing told me that I need an SSN first before I could get my license in California. I learned that as a K1 visa holder, I am eligible to get my SSN 10 days upon my arrival. Can I get my SSN anywhere in the US(ex., California) even if my petitioner is in Indiana? Do I need to have my petitioner with me when I apply for an SSN?

My next question: I have a brother in SFO and he'd like me to go there and visit to help with my heartbreak. At the same time, his wife told me that that I can look for a job there, but not illegally -- I can look for an employer who will sponsor my working visa. Is this possible? Do I need to get a lawyer for this, or will the employer work on this?

Thank you for your responses. He just broke up with me today and I am trying my best to keep myself together, after leaving everything behind in the Philippines. But yes, I should start focusing on solutions, and I hope you can give me ideas.

I am very sorry to know it did not work out between the two of you. You knew you were risking this outcome when you came over and I thought you did not want to stay in the US, so why the change of plans?

Regardless, you may find it quite difficult to find employers who would be willing to go through the trouble of sponsoring you with a work visa. For all the talk about the nursing shortage, I know of many nurses who have difficulty finding jobs or just had their salaries and/or hours cut because of the present healthcare problems (too many uninsured and Medicaid and Medicare patients). Having said this, I guess you can give it a try before yoru 90 days are up, and, as I said in the previous post, take all of the experience as learning and as adventure.

Best wishes as you decide your next steps.

[Krikit 1,164]

Moving from Finding Work in America to Effects of Major Changes.

[rlogan 2,036]

Bear in mind the social security office has a collective IQ of 20, summing across every office in the United States. You have to know their job better than they do, be prepared to go to a supervisor when they make mistakes. Just really awful.

You might get lucky and get an employee who knows what they are doing. But don't go in there assuming so.

Slamming people already hurting seems to be a sport here. There's decent people too. You have every right to look for an employment sponsor, another love, and you obviously have no intention of anything illegal so best of luck and full speed ahead!

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

Hhhh! will it be on record that she managed to benefit a social security card and any other things with her K 1 Visa meanwhile,no marriage? will that come up when she tries to deal with the USCIS again?

No, it won't come up. A Social Security number is not a benefit. It's a number the US government uses to identify you for tax purposes and certain benefits. Having a number doesn't directly make you eligible for anything. The OP has a K1 visa, and the law allows her to get a Social Security number while her I-94 is still valid. Nothing in the law requires her to get married just because she obtained a Social Security number. What she's doing is perfectly legal.

[Hurting Bad 14]

Thank you so much, everyone! It feels good knowing that I won't be doing something illegal. I never want to do that. Excited for tomorrow which is my 10th day in the US, so I could go to the SSA office in Chicago. I heard that one can be entered in the system already after 10 days instead of 2 weeks. If I'm not in the database yet, I'll try again next week, but I might be in California already because I have my brother there. But just as you said, I can file for my SSN anywhere, so at least I have an option to work on that in Cali. I will stop worrying if they will ask me why I'm applying in Cali and not in my petitioner's state, and hope for the best.

My I-94 expires on Feb. 22 and I am planning to leave before that, with or without a sponsoring employer. If I find an employer who will sponsor me, I know that I need to have legal documents and that I need to leave the US on a K1 visa before my I-94 expires.

Again, thank you so much!

[marklovetina 52]

oh sorry for the OP.. all the best for u.. good luck and God bless...

[TracyTN 237]

No, it won't come up. A Social Security number is not a benefit. It's a number the US government uses to identify you for tax purposes and certain benefits. Having a number doesn't directly make you eligible for anything. The OP has a K1 visa, and the law allows her to get a Social Security number while her I-94 is still valid. Nothing in the law requires her to get married just because she obtained a Social Security number. What she's doing is perfectly legal.

That's correct.

I just thought Bob 4 Anna's point about US hospitals no longer hiring nurses from the Phils as particularly salient but mostly overlooked. In which case I don't even see the point in getting an SSN.

Edited December 2, 2010 by TracyTN