Age Difference

[TJ 4EVER 40]

I am 13 years older than my husband and we plan to have a child when he gets here. We have a wonderful relationship based on love and respect and in many ways, he is more mature and more thoughtful than I am. We were denied our K1 visa back in March 2010 for other reasons so we went and got married and re-filed for a CR-1. But he did go through 8 months of AP before the K1 visa was denied and I think a lot of it had to do with the age difference, race difference, religious difference and cultural difference.

excuse my ignorance but what does ap mean?

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

In this case it means administrative processing, kind of a mini purgatory where they don't say yes or no and don't give you a date for the torture to end.

[James and Cynthia 70]

I am 13 years older than my husband and we plan to have a child when he gets here. We have a wonderful relationship based on love and respect and in many ways, he is more mature and more thoughtful than I am. We were denied our K1 visa back in March 2010 for other reasons so we went and got married and re-filed for a CR-1. But he did go through 8 months of AP before the K1 visa was denied and I think a lot of it had to do with the age difference, race difference, religious difference and cultural difference.

Do you really think they denied you for those reasons? I am surprised. Those sound like the differences that many people have when applying for a K1. I'm 12 years older than my fiancee. We have all the other differences too. Did they say why you were denied? There must have been a reason other than the ones you mentioned. I'm sorry it took so long just to be rejected. I hope you have better luck this next time.

-James

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Do you really think they denied you for those reasons? I am surprised. Those sound like the differences that many people have when applying for a K1. I'm 12 years older than my fiancee. We have all the other differences too. Did they say why you were denied? There must have been a reason other than the ones you mentioned. I'm sorry it took so long just to be rejected. I hope you have better luck this next time.

-James

The age this is pretty normal for the Philippines with the men being older, but in the case you quoted the woman was American and older than her Nigerian fiance, which isn't the norm for their culture so that's why she'd have had more issues.

[DebbyNSeyi 15]

Do you really think they denied you for those reasons? I am surprised. Those sound like the differences that many people have when applying for a K1. I'm 12 years older than my fiancee. We have all the other differences too. Did they say why you were denied? There must have been a reason other than the ones you mentioned. I'm sorry it took so long just to be rejected. I hope you have better luck this next time.

-James

Please read what I posted at that time and you'll see why they denied us:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/248572-k1-visa-denied-in-lagos-after-8-months-of-ap/

We went and got married and now, our CR-1 visa interview is next week.

[Evans and Flor 2]

We are on AP but have an appointment on March 31st. They told us that we need more evidence of our relationship so I am going there to prove to them that we are very real and hopefully he will come home with me or I get pregnant again. Soon he will follow. All in God's hands. God bless everyone on thier journey.

[mishellibelli 1]

I am 14 years older than my fiance. While it doesn't bother us or our friends or family, I am a bit worried about the upcoming interview as that kind of age difference is not the norm for Malawi. I will definitely report back here after the interview!

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

There is a 12 year difference between us and they were ok with it.

[wellmux 3]

my wife is 25 years elder than me i was in in AP for 8 months , and i received my visa came to USA and got a 10 years green card.

[MensahLuv 4]

Had interview today and the age difference was not a problem at all! They did not even address it.

[mishellibelli 1]

Glad to hear that!

[Evans and Flor 2]

Had interview today and the age difference was not a problem at all! They did not even address it.

I pray that it wont be the case for us this time. I really want him here with me and we miss each other so much. Evan though I will be there this time on March 31st.

[HoneyHummingbird 3]

I am 9 years older than my husband and my husband says it wasn't really addresses.****A little off topic***My husbands family (parents and siblings) all signed a quick 1 paragraph letter that said they met me, supported our marriage and that they were aware of the age difference. My mom signed one on behalf of my family.

We had to have a 2nd interview. Trust me, blacking out certain text in emails will get you everytime!!! I have a child so for this interview I asked him to write a letter. He wrote a lovely 2 paragraph letter about his LD friendship/relationship with his soon to be dad and the things they were going to do when he came. My husband said the interviewer thought it was sweet.

[idocare 3]

' I'm older then my ex-husband. I just wanted to say that maybe you should really look at the age difference between you and him and ask yourself if you and him would hook up in the states if you had met him here. With my experience, I think that's the question u should be wondering about.

[MensahLuv 4]

' I'm older then my ex-husband. I just wanted to say that maybe you should really look at the age difference between you and him and ask yourself if you and him would hook up in the states if you had met him here. With my experience, I think that's the question u should be wondering about.

Yep! I sure would! Never would have thought he was younger than me! Just so happen he was. As a matter of fact everyone thinks he is the older one robbing the cradle. Dad ask him was I I8! hAhA!