Visa Denied, Devastated, Please HELP!!!

[kennym 275]

Try making your font bigger so we can see

HenyCat...

Can you be a little more insensitive.. You may not be very intuitive, but these guys are going through a huge emotional trial.. Try thinking before posting stupid sarcastic remarks

Kenny

[Channah&Aaron 51]

; im sorry you're going through this !! Keep your head up!!!!! There is a solution for every single problem!!

[joe_robin66 6]

Are you seriously asking this question? I understand how you were denied. Genetics lesson follows....

YOUR mother and father and HER mother and father would have DIFFERENT parents listed on their birth certificates if you are not cousins. I don't know how it works in your country (I thought the same) but MY cousins have at least one common set of grandparents with me (DUH!!!!!!!!!) ALL of my cousins have a common set of grandparents on one side of the family or another with ME, regardless of what their last name is. MY grandparents are listed on MY parents birth certificates, as I am sure yours are. If you do not have at least ONE common set of grandparents you are NOT cousins.

The fact that you present a common 2nd last name as a reason to be denied is preposterous anyway. there is something you are not telling us, I do not know what it is but denying a visa because of a common last name is a lame excuse. There are WAY too many people with the same last names for a consulate to deny a visa for that reason and it is way too easy to prove you are NOT related. Had you been asked to provide evidence you are not related, that would be one thing. You say you were denied outright because they "think" you are cousins. No way.

Gary,

You are being extremely rude to the OP here. He came to us for advice and support, not to be ridiculed. Why don't you learn some manners before posting on here. We've heard many different and very lame excuses for being denied a visa. If you can't say something supportive or give helpful advice without an attitude, then don't say anything at all.

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

The OPs previous posts said that he didn't have a lot of evidence of the bonafides of their relationship, and they filed after meeting each other once and meeting a few months online before that. I really don't think this cousin allegation was the main problem here... at all.

In many ways this visa process is unfair to the young, the poor, etc, and people get the wrong results (ie they have a real relationship and get denied). It does happen, for sure. However, it is not as capricious as people are saying here.... you can't get denied for "smelling bad" or if the IO is cranky. It's not THAT ridiculous.

OP: I am sorry things did not go well at your interview. I think the other posters have good advice, to marry and file CR-1. Build more evidence and keep good records of your relationship. Good luck.

[rlogan 2,036]

Wow, I am really sorry Negrita Landrau for the extremely rude behavior of some posters that responded. This has to be awful, awful, awful for you and here people are kicking you when you are down.

It seems you mentioned in a later post that it was being sent back to USCIS, and that you would receive a letter. So perhaps it is not over yet and you will be able to appeal, showing the family tree.

In any case see what the letter says. I'm just mainly writing to say I really feel bad about your situation and also how shocking some of these responses have been to you.

[Boiler 45,758]

I would agree, find out first what the issues are, then come back to discuss how to address them.

[Tero 105]

Gary,

You are being extremely rude to the OP here. He came to us for advice and support, not to be ridiculed. Why don't you learn some manners before posting on here. We've heard many different and very lame excuses for being denied a visa. If you can't say something supportive or give helpful advice without an attitude, then don't say anything at all.

Way to face the bully head on! I am glad someone else (you) had to tell him. If more people tell him about his attitude, tone, maybe he'll change ...just maybe!

[Tero 105]

OP, many may not really understand how it is in your country, and I can see them giving you some advice based on their understanding of how things work over here. In empathy, I know that some parents from some third world countries do not even know their birth dates, how much more have a birth certificate to prove anything. I do understand that organizing some documents tracing some family tree might be impossible especially when the parents, and even worse, the grandparents don't even know their birth dates. I am not saying this is your case, but, just in case it is, some of us know that some documents are not readily available in some countries like it is over here. You need to pool resources together and do the best you can. Do not take the same route and expect a different result. Go marry and keep the embassy updated on your progress if you can. File an I-130 after your marriage. The consulate should be convinced then. Good luck!

[Negrito Landrau 2]

The OPs previous posts said that he didn't have a lot of evidence of the bonafides of their relationship, and they filed after meeting each other once and meeting a few months online before that. I really don't think this cousin allegation was the main problem here... at all.

In many ways this visa process is unfair to the young, the poor, etc, and people get the wrong results (ie they have a real relationship and get denied). It does happen, for sure. However, it is not as capricious as people are saying here.... you can't get denied for "smelling bad" or if the IO is cranky. It's not THAT ridiculous.

OP: I am sorry things did not go well at your interview. I think the other posters have good advice, to marry and file CR-1. Build more evidence and keep good records of your relationship. Good luck.

Harpa, I never said that I do not have enough evidence of my legit relationship, for the contrary, I brought LOTS of evidence of our relationship. I traveled two times only to Dom. Rep. in one year because my job do not allow me more. I documented very well each of my trips, provided evidence of staying with my fiancee in different resorts in each visit, brought more than 150 photos of us together, a binder with more than 200 pages(written on both sides) of our conversations through Skype, MSN and Facebook and much more. If I was denied, certainly, it was not for lack of evidence. They just did not want to grant my fiancee her visa. They were very sarcastic and unreasonable in everything. They even said to us that was not "normal" that we have our first kiss the first day I traveled to DR and met her. Are you kidding me?!! We had been communicating (live through Skype) for five months and longing to be together and we are not going to kiss??? These days people go to a club meet someone and have sex the same night and it is "weird' or not "normal" that we kissed the same day we met? Come on, these people were just off the limits.

[Tero 105]

Harpa, I never said that I do not have enough evidence of my legit relationship, for the contrary, I brought LOTS of evidence of our relationship. I traveled two times only to Dom. Rep. in one year because my job do not allow me more. I documented very well each of my trips, provided evidence of staying with my fiancee in different resorts in each visit, brought more than 150 photos of us together, a binder with more than 200 pages(written on both sides) of our conversations through Skype, MSN and Facebook and much more. If I was denied, certainly, it was not for lack of evidence. They just did not want to grant my fiancee her visa. They were very sarcastic and unreasonable in everything. They even said to us that was not "normal" that we have our first kiss the first day I traveled to DR and met her. Are you kidding me?!! We had been communicating (live through Skype) for five months and longing to be together and we are not going to kiss??? These days people go to a club meet someone and have sex the same night and it is "weird' or not "normal" that we kissed the same day we met? Come on, these people were just off the limits.

How can they expect you to travel all the way and not even get a kiss at least?! Yes, the CO was being ridiculous! Maybe that is "weird" in their culture but that is still bogus. How did they even get that detail?

[Negrito Landrau 2]

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before i feel sorry for you, i would have to be satisfied that you are NOT related, and that your not using the k1 visa to get a sibling into the country in 6 months instead of 6 years!

my wife really wishes sister would be here with us also or even her brother

Why is so hard for you to believe me when I say that we are NOT family? I offered the consulate officer to make a DNA test to prove him that we are not related. If I were lying I would never say that. I am an American-born citizen and ALL of my cousins, brother and sister are. I want to marry this girl because I love her and thats it!

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

Harpa, I never said that I do not have enough evidence of my legit relationship,

You said here: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/282542-can-i-use-money-transfer-receipt-as-evidence-in-k1-visa/page__view__findpost__p__4287324

"I am a little worry because I do not have a lot of evidence of relationship."

I was just trying to help gear your mind off of this cousin thing because I don't think that is the bulk of the reason. I know you are very upset and I didn't mean to upset you more. If you want to believe that is the only reason, that is your right. Good luck to you.

Edited December 1, 2010 by Harpa Timsah

[Negrito Landrau 2]

First of all, I am very, very sorry to know this bad news. I was very much looking forward to congratulating you!

I agree with Kathryn's post. It seems worthwhile to go ahead and trace both of your family trees and show your family members' birth certificates to prove you are not related. Perhaps some of the issues that made the "picture" problematic are:

- You are both quite young and not financially independent (if I remember correctly, your mother was a co-sponsor, right?)

- You met on Facebook not very long ago.

- I am assuming you, too, are Dominican or if not Dominican born, you have family ties to the Dominican Republic.

- The Dominican Republic is one of the highest fraud consulates in the world. Sharing a common last name obviously raised a red flag and pointed in this direction.

- The Dominican Republic is only second in volume of cases in whole world. Many, many dominicans wish to immigrate to the US.

- There might be something to Gary&Alla's suspicion, maybe the consulate knew something that they did not wish to disclose? Anything on your Facebook pages that they may have found out as a reason to deny you?

Again, I am very sorry about your situation. Since you are already in the DR I think the best route to take would be to get married and go ahead and file the I-130. Also, make sure to document your family trees with birth certificates as it has been suggested.

Best wishes as you choose Plan B...

Hi, Aztec & Taino and thanks for your support. Thanks for the statistics, some people here need to know these facts before shooting at me and in order to believe me when I say we were mistreated by these two consulate officers (we also were forced to empty my pockets and my fiancee to empty her purse). I am not Dominican but my mother is. No, I did not use my mother as co-sponsor. I definitively think that they took that attitude with us beacause they saw us young and without experience. If the consulate know something that they didn't tell us, then I and don't know what that could be and that don't scare me because I have NOTHING to hide. I went there with the truth and only te truth and supplied enough evidence of our true relationship.

[Negrito Landrau 2]

You said here: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/282542-can-i-use-money-transfer-receipt-as-evidence-in-k1-visa/page__view__findpost__p__4287324

"I am a little worry because I do not have a lot of evidence of relationship."

I was just trying to help gear your mind off of this cousin thing because I don't think that is the bulk of the reason. I know you are very upset and I didn't mean to upset you more. If you want to believe that is the only reason, that is your right. Good luck to you.

Harpa I appreciaate your imput an I did not intend to be rude to you. Yes I said that on a post from November 12, where I asked for suggestions of eviedence to take to the interview. After November 12 and using some of the suggestions from this forum I was able to built up a good packet of evidence. It is not that I want to believe this cousin thing, but that was the only reason that they gave me to denied my fiance visa. They never mentioned that we did not provide enough evidence, they firmly believe that we are family and that was enough for them.

[Aztec&Taino 144]

Hi, Aztec & Taino and thanks for your support. Thanks for the statistics, some people here need to know these facts before shooting at me and in order to believe me when I say we were mistreated by these two consulate officers (we also were forced to empty my pockets and my fiancee to empty her purse). I am not Dominican but my mother is. No, I did not use my mother as co-sponsor. I definitively think that they took that attitude with us beacause they saw us young and without experience. If the consulate know something that they didn't tell us, then I and don't know what that could be and that don't scare me because I have NOTHING to hide. I went there with the truth and only te truth and supplied enough evidence of our true relationship.

Again, I am very sorry to know about your situation. Another thing that makes me wonder is if your fiancee had, in the past, applied for a tourist visa? Or some other type of visa that made them think your petition was for immigration purposes, only? Really, it is a sad and hard to believe situation. Your story is making me nervous! I hope my fiance is not denied when the time comes for his interview.

Check out this website: http://dominicanstotheusa.com/forum/ It is a website exclusively for Dominican intending immigrants. Some of the members are difficult and judgmental, but some others have experience with the process and could perhaps give you country-specific advice to try to make sense of your denial and situation.