Pregnant Fiance-K1 Filed

[egospiers 0]

It is the truth, not a judgement. USCIS does not care. The circumstances are that they had sexual intercourse, that is the way it happens. If you do that (and who doesn't?) then she MAY get pregnant and you MAY not like the consequences or particulars of where she gives birth, the timing etc. Make your bed and sleep in it. Or have sex in it, whatever you want. Deal with it.

When did it become "harsh" to tell an adult to live with the decisions they make?

Thanks again for all the responses on this post.

As to this particular post, you seem to be inferring that I am somehow not "Dealing with it" or that I am in some way regretfull that we are going to have a baby....this could not be further from the truth, I am excited and happy and know where my responsibilities lie. I was just wondering, and looking for some guidence from other who've had the same experiance..Although I am not one who cares what your opinion of me may be, I do take some offense at your inferrence that I am somehow being irresponsible in this situation...while it was not my intention for this to happen, I am not sorry it did, and I am confident that everything will work out for the best. Again thanks to those of you who responded without judgement, and for all the support received from the VJ community, it is truely heartwarming to see such compasion for fellow human beings, and genuine caring from people in this community.

[Aztec&Taino 144]

Thanks again for all the responses on this post.

As to this particular post, you seem to be inferring that I am somehow not "Dealing with it" or that I am in some way regretfull that we are going to have a baby....this could not be further from the truth, I am excited and happy and know where my responsibilities lie. I was just wondering, and looking for some guidence from other who've had the same experiance..Although I am not one who cares what your opinion of me may be, I do take some offense at your inferrence that I am somehow being irresponsible in this situation...while it was not my intention for this to happen, I am not sorry it did, and I am confident that everything will work out for the best. Again thanks to those of you who responded without judgement, and for all the support received from the VJ community, it is truely heartwarming to see such compasion for fellow human beings, and genuine caring from people in this community.

Hello,

Since your fiancee is only 5 weeks pregnant, you still have 35 more weeks to go before your child is born. Hopefully, everything will go well and, ideally, the visa will be in her hands before the baby is born so she can come to the US and birth here. However, Mexico has very many FINE hospitals, if you are willing to pay for it, of course. It is a common misconception to think of Mexico as a poor country. After all, the richest man in the world is a Mexican! (look up Carlos Slim) So, as far as prenatal and birthing care, your fiancee can find qualified health professionals and a more than decent hospital if you are willing to pay good money for it (I was hospitalized in a Mexico City hospital for less than 2 hours one time and the bill was over 500 US dollars).

As other members have said, a pregnancy is not a reason for an expedite, and no, it is not in the interest of the US government to have YOUR child be born in the US. It just makes things more complicated for you and your fiancee... If your child is born in Mexico, then you would have to do the CRBA process for your child.

Best wishes!

[thelastpetitioner 218]

you know people if you cant deal with getting judged,youre in the wrong route.people are entitled to their opinion and what they say,if its against the terms of use on this website,it will be removed.i am by no means defending gary and alla,cause this is not an e high school,but im tired of the extra amount of sensitivity people show.jesus you have a lot bigger issues to worry about rather than what some other member thinks

[Negrito Landrau 2]

MY GOD Gary and Alla ... can't you ever say anything nice or do you have to be so judgmental and harsh MOST if not all of the time... who died and made you the KING of perfection? People are a member of Visa Journey so that they can seek out help and maybe a little support.. we are not looking for condescending attitude! Yes, I am a firm believer that "if the shoe fits, then wear it" but FGS lighten up just a little for ONCE as if you haven't ever been in a pickle... and egospiers, GOOD LUCK in your Journey and for what its worth... enjoy that Baby when he/she arrives in this cruel world!

P.S.

Use your spell check...last time I looked... BORN is spelled with an N not an M

Well said!

[VanessaTony 3,567]

MY GOD Gary and Alla ... can't you ever say anything nice or do you have to be so judgmental and harsh MOST if not all of the time... who died and made you the KING of perfection? People are a member of Visa Journey so that they can seek out help and maybe a little support.. we are not looking for condescending attitude! Yes, I am a firm believer that "if the shoe fits, then wear it" but FGS lighten up just a little for ONCE as if you haven't ever been in a pickle... and egospiers, GOOD LUCK in your Journey and for what its worth... enjoy that Baby when he/she arrives in this cruel world!

P.S. Use your spell check...last time I looked... BORN is spelled with an N not an M

I can ignore typos, typos happen, what I found funny was this little gem:

3. No. If you would rather her have the baby here, there is a simple way to insure that.

The word bolded SHOULD have been "ensure", as in "make sure", insure means.. well getting insurance for something.. like you would insure a car... i'm not sure how Gary plans on the OP insuring themselves against pregnancy.. did All State start offering some plans I wasn't aware of?

Edited December 1, 2010 by Vanessa&Tony

[Chamie 2]

If you would rather her have the baby here, there is a simple way to insure that. DO NOT mix your sperm with her egg until she is here and you are married. If that sounds harsh...it is exactly USCIS opinion. They could not possibly care less that she is pregnant or where your child is born...that is your responsibility. Ever since the CAUSE of preganancy was discovered some 1 million years ago, governments have relied on responsible adults to decide such things. An uncontrolled moment of passion on your part, does not create an emergency on their part.

Seriously...WOW! If only the world were that black and white.

I am in the same boat...apparently our uncontrolled moment of passion means that I am going to be a dad for the first time and we are over the moon. It wasn't planned, but it happens. Even to responsible adults. I think the question was really asking "is there anyway of speeding things up so that the couple can be together to celebrate the birth of their child and to start making plans to give it a great life."

Not sure if you have ever tried being apart from your fiance who is handling the pregnancy on her own whilst you are 6000 miles away and powerless to help with the burden of everyday life. It makes the whole thing so much harder so perhaps a little bit of sensitivity would be good. Or a simple no...or better yet just don't reply at all! A harsh and ridiculously insensitive comment.