There are some days I love my parents...

[Arazia 0]

So, nervously, I tell my parents yesterday that my boyfriend and I had gotten engaged. They were not surprised at all, as I had told them we were considering that route of the visa process a few weeks ago. What surprised me, though, was how willing they were to help me. My mom went upstairs and brought down one of the jewelry boxes she inherited from an aunt, and knowing that Harry and I had no engagement ring or wedding bands, started sorting through it. She ended up giving me a ring that has about a half-carat diamond in it, white gold with smaller stones around it which came with a wedding band. The thing is probably worth more than I get paid in two months.

Then, my dad goes into their room and comes out with a men's wedding band. He explains that this is the one he used to wear to pretend he was married while out on the prowl for women. I basically blinked, looked at him and went 'Dad!' in absolute surprise... then accepted the ring. I think they approve of my engagement, heh.

I doubt things will go as well when Harry breaks things to his parents. Right now, he hasn't, as his father is very stressed at work and he doesn't want to add to that stress. I fully expect his parents to act as any good parents of a nineteen year old would act when hearing the news that their son is going to run off to America to marry some girl they've only met once and he's only seen twice. I expect them to hang him up by his pinky-toes until he comes to his senses. Luckily, my beloved is a stubborn #######. I just worry that they might get mad at him and kick him out of the house or something when they find out. That could be a problem, especially as forms and such will have to come to his home address. Oh well, with the rate things are going, it's a while before he has to break the news to them.

Merf.

[moondancer627 0]

What sweet parents you have! As far as his parents they will have to live with his choice.

I know my husband's father was not so supportive of him leaving a pretty worry free life in Canada, but of course it made my husband grow up some what.

He is ten years younger than me and had never really left home for long periods of time.

I on the other hand have always been independent and have never had parents to rely on.

Good Luck with your visa process.

Moondancer

[Anyta Holland 1]

It can be difficult for parents to face the fact that at some point the chicks are and will be fluing out of the nest. My parents, although very supportive, found it quite hard, but they were cool about it... Even though they hadn't met my hubby!

On the other hand, his family, gave us the cold shoulder when we announced that we were engaged, no fanfair, no congratulations, NOTHING... And that was the way the behaved all the way till we got married... A couple of weeks before they became a bit more excited, as they were having a party the day after the wedding, to invite all their friends and show us off as if we were trophies.... I felt terrible for not wanting to go to that party and then for not enjoying myself, at points I didn't feel it was about us, but about them, and that pi$$ed me off!

Families can be somewhat strange, and your fiance seems quite young still, make sure you are making the right decision, and if it feels right, don't let anyone stop you!

Good luck!