Ukrainian women don't want foreigners

[slim 1,525]

she is also going to be a traditional Babuska/Mother-in-Law...OMG!

Did you guys find something out?

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Did you guys find something out?

No but I can tell from the way she is acting with Sergey's girlfriend! Poor girl. We better NOT "find something out!"

[slim 1,525]

No but I can tell from the way she is acting with Sergey's girlfriend! Poor girl. We better NOT "find something out!"

That's what I figured. Several years, minimum, right?

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

That's what I figured. Several years, minimum, right?

We hope so. He will finish his bachelors degree this year and he is more or less set up to begin his masters here in the US and we really want him to get his maters degree before getting married and he seems to want this also. But he is kind of inaftuated with his first "real" girlfriend (meaning "First girl I am havng sex with" ) Also he understands that he has to be a citizen first to really bring someone here (he could bring a wife as an LPR but it takes a long time). So he has been told to "wrap it... or whack it" (gotta love Ukrainian women and their direct approach to such things)

Alla thinks the girl is a "green card groupie" She is just "Way too interested in the United States"

[slim 1,525]

I love the practical advice!

[eekee 182]

We hope so. He will finish his bachelors degree this year and he is more or less set up to begin his masters here in the US and we really want him to get his maters degree before getting married and he seems to want this also. But he is kind of inaftuated with his first "real" girlfriend (meaning "First girl I am havng sex with" ) Also he understands that he has to be a citizen first to really bring someone here (he could bring a wife as an LPR but it takes a long time). So he has been told to "wrap it... or whack it" (gotta love Ukrainian women and their direct approach to such things)

Alla thinks the girl is a "green card groupie" She is just "Way too interested in the United States"

He should probably not reveal his green card status until several months in. But he's a dude in his early 20s, so he probably doesn't care all that much WHY a girl is interested in him.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

He should probably not reveal his green card status until several months in. But he's a dude in his early 20s, so he probably doesn't care all that much WHY a girl is interested in him.

He is 19, not "early 20's" so yeah...he doesn't care.

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He is 19, not "early 20's" so yeah...he doesn't care.

Only 19 and he gets his Bachelors Degree this year. How did he do that?

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Only 19 and he gets his Bachelors Degree this year. How did he do that?

Straight A's to boot! Ukrainians gradute high school at age 16. (some are 17, depends on their birthdate) He will be 20 when he graduates this spring (birthday in April). He could stay another year and get a master's degree but we will probably have him do 2 years at a US school so he has a degree from both.

Pasha, his younger brother, was double promoted from 8th to 10th grade and is now in 12th grade with straight A's (A- in calculus...bad boy!)at age 15. He will graduate this spring at age 16 which is when he would have graduated in Ukraine anyway. He also has an A in English and only needed an ESL class for less than 3 months. And Pasha is the "dumb" one!

[1HappyGuy 45]

My stepson got his bachelor's at age 20 also. But it was from a trade school which didn't translate to a job here. Now he's attending the local community college and plans to transfer to a university. He is assuming it will be a slam dunk for him but we don't see his grades at all. He's now at that age when we can't tell him anything (I know it all ) and his mother is quite upset with him. He is planning to attend a university next fall, even though there is a very good one in our town he wants to go to one near San Francisco. He misses the big city having grown up in Kyiv.

I'm trying to tell him about costs, different standards from community college to university regarding difficulty of courses, but of course it falls on deaf ears. I'm all for letting him fall on his face at this point. He treats us more like roommates which is really p*ssing us off. He doesn't know how to manage his money and spends it as fast as he makes it. This past weekend he went to a party in town on Saturday night, went to Sacramento and then San Francisco returning on Monday and slept from 3:00 PM Monday until Tuesday morning. Yeah, we are not happy.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

My stepson got his bachelor's at age 20 also. But it was from a trade school which didn't translate to a job here. Now he's attending the local community college and plans to transfer to a university. He is assuming it will be a slam dunk for him but we don't see his grades at all. He's now at that age when we can't tell him anything (I know it all ) and his mother is quite upset with him. He is planning to attend a university next fall, even though there is a very good one in our town he wants to go to one near San Francisco. He misses the big city having grown up in Kyiv.

I'm trying to tell him about costs, different standards from community college to university regarding difficulty of courses, but of course it falls on deaf ears. I'm all for letting him fall on his face at this point. He treats us more like roommates which is really p*ssing us off. He doesn't know how to manage his money and spends it as fast as he makes it. This past weekend he went to a party in town on Saturday night, went to Sacramento and then San Francisco returning on Monday and slept from 3:00 PM Monday until Tuesday morning. Yeah, we are not happy.

I am sure Alla knows some KGB neck breaking moves and would probably apply them while he was sleeping. We have not had any such problems and the education part of life is never presented as an option. He is pretty much told where he will go to school, when he will finish and what grades to get. Perfection is a minimal acceptable standard. Pasha got a serious lecture because of an A- in calculus! "why A MINUS?"

We are lucky, of course. But Ihave found that if too much emphasis is placed on the nonsense that "you can do what you want when you are 18" they think they actually can. The law has nothing to do with how my children are raised. They need to finish their education first. we thought that getting a masters degree here would be better for him in the long run, though it will take another year, but he will have a degree from both countries. Looks like he will be going to University of Washington in Seattle but we are not sure yet.

[1HappyGuy 45]

Gary,

I'd love to give him a strangle hold or just a whack upside the head, but I'd never hear the end of that. As I see it, he's adopted the American teenage traditions quite well. As I say, he's 24 going on 15.

I just seems that he can't wait to move out on his own. He's made a number of new friends that are students living away from home and acting pretty wild. He just doesn't see them wasting their lives and just wants to have fun.