Can I be banned from the Philippines?

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

James:

I cannot believe that you would post how your wife smells!

You really don't have a clue? You don't recognize that remark is disgusting and immature?

Jeez! Dude...that's something to be discussed privately between you and your wife. The fact that you shared this (with all) at VJ represents pretty clearly you don't yet comprehend marriage.

Additionally..the way you degrade and disrespect your mother publicly and without hesitation makes me think it is probably easy for you to behave even worse to your wife.

Bottom line....your reasons for wanting a divorce are silly. All these issues can be resolved with respectful communication, time, patience and leadership by example.

Seriously...grow up. Sorry if that seems harsh to you...but really...your behavior is so immature. You just don't know it yet. (but) The way you describe your wife...she may have some growing up to do too....so how bout you two decide to grow up together? That's marriage.

Edited November 17, 2010 by ~happyndinlove~

[fox fox 5]

James:

I cannot believe that you would post how your wife smells!

You really don't have a clue? You don't recognize that remark is disgusting and immature?

Jeez! Dude...that's something to be discussed privately between you and your wife. The fact that you shared this (with all) at VJ represents pretty clearly you don't yet comprehend marriage.

Additionally..the way you degrade and disrespect your mother publicly and without hesitation makes me think it is probably easy for you to behave even worse to your wife.

Bottom line....your reasons for wanting a divorce are silly. All these issues can be resolved with respectful communication, time, patience and leadership by example.

Seriously...grow up. Sorry if that seems harsh to you...but really...your behavior is so immature. You just don't know it yet. (but) The way you describe your wife...she may have some growing up to do too....so how bout you two decide to grow up together? That's marriage.

sure the smell comment wasn't necessary, but how can you say that i am disrespecting my own mom when i'm only saying that she's biased towards my wife?...and really is this PUBLIC? this is the internet and the beauty about it is that it really isn't public since my username can be made up and you have no real idea of where i am. who says that everything can and does work out together or that it needs to? people change overtime, grow apart, and have irreconcilable differences. does that mean that things will always change together? i think not. you seem to be an older man from your photos. am i right to think that this is probably not your first wife? if not, then remind yourself of what happened. i don't care to know. do you even believe that some people just don't workout together and can still be completely happy apart? do you think that couples should live together in a hostile household vs apart and happy?

Edited November 17, 2010 by Charmaine+James

[fox fox 5]

Bottom line....your reasons for wanting a divorce are silly. All these issues can be resolved with respectful communication, time, patience and leadership by example.

Seriously...grow up. Sorry if that seems harsh to you...but really...your behavior is so immature. You just don't know it yet. (but) The way you describe your wife...she may have some growing up to do too....so how bout you two decide to grow up together? That's marriage.

i am respectful directly to my wife. i have been very very patient. leadership by example? i understand what you mean sarge, but do you really think her insecurity and paranoia issues are going to clear up just because i'm nice to her? it hasn't work so far. this it's just something i've had to recently deal with. all this came about pretty much when she got here which is already 9 months ago. sorry, but i cannot live life being constantly harassed when i'm home.

as far as the grow up part. i'm the one completely mature with my direct actions with her. i'm not the one harassing her in the house, i'm not the one who's investigating if my spouse is really at work. i'm not the one who sits on my #### at home and waits for my spouse to come home to see what he will cook. i could go on. you might be formulating all these negative thoughts in your head and focusing it back at me, when really your comment about growing up should be directed towards her.

Edited November 17, 2010 by fox fox

[Calypso 464]

All I can say is that your wife is not a merchandise; therefore, the return policy of Walmart doesn't apply.

God bless you both.

[fox fox 5]

final post here.

i just really wanted to find out if i would be banned from entering the philippines, which i really doubt it. i went off topic and this has gone too far. i divulged my domestic issues in too much detail, but i'm glad this is just the internet. thanks guys.

[fox fox 5]

All I can say is that your wife is not a merchandise; therefore, the return policy of Walmart doesn't apply.

God bless you both.

then i guess that if your spouse was not going to change at all to smooth out your marriage that you'd stick around and take the "beating"? i think not. what about cheating excessively? you can't fix a marriage if the person cannot change, so why stay in it and be miserable? riddle me that?

now i'm done here. don't reply people.

[~happyndinlove~ 540]

sure the smell comment wasn't necessary, but how can you say that i am disrespecting my own mom when i'm only saying that she's biased towards my wife?...and really is this PUBLIC? this is the internet and the beauty about it is that it really isn't public since my username can be made up and you have no real idea of where i am. who says that everything can and does work out together or that it needs to? people change overtime, grow apart, and have irreconcilable differences. does that mean that things will always change together? i think not. you seem to be an older man from your photos. am i right to think that this is probably not your first wife? do you even believe that some people just don't workout together and still be completely happy? we don't have any kids so, we don't have any custody issues, just to throw that in there. do you think that couples should live together in a hostile household vs apart and happy?

I'm saying.... the reasons (your listing) to justify your decision to divorce can be resolved. These do not really qualify (in my book) as irreconcilable differences because you two can reconcile these differences with some honest and respectful effort.

(Your, perhaps, thinking that the grass might be greener on the other side of the fence. Guess what? All yards come with some weeds to deal with. So you better analyze the challenge of the weeds you have right now compared to what you might find otherwise)

I understand your frustration because you feel/ think as though you are the only 1 willing to make changes and therefore you feel/ think your getting the raw end of the deal? It seems as though your wife believes she is giving her best effort too hence the...treating you like a king ...comment.

I'm not negating the fact that you have the right to expect an understanding and cooperation with lifestyle compatibility in your marriage. Afterall..it is your (yours and hers) marriage. (but) Lacking some areas of compatibility does not justify divorce. Rather it gives your marriage an opportunity to grow in understanding as you two communicate and work together to build compatability. I think your running from the challenge instead of rising up to meet it. I believe it is the challenges in marriage, faced together, that builds unity and deeper intimacy.

(and) I think you two got married for a reason and it's time to remember that reason.

Sit down and talk through all of your complaints without complaining. (if) She feels the need to scream then either take a break or bear the screaming, but don't give up. It's good you keep your calm even if she doesn't.

I think one of the hardest things for a man to learn in marriage is how to communicate exactly the way his wife desires. (but) Once you master her style of communication..you unlock another part of her heart.

(BTW...not a good idea to describe your mother as a very hard headed hard head to anybody. Chivalry...)

Sorry for the lengthy post...I usually try to keep my comments more brief.

Edited November 17, 2010 by ~happyndinlove~

[Kevin- 13]

Hopefully you caught my last post on the 2nd page of the thread.

[piglett 16]

actually i love crispy pata. i just don't want to eat rice accompanied meals all the time.

Welcome to life with a pinay !!!

that's almost all my wife eats is that dam fish & rice.

have you thought of taking her to the local preist & asking for some help?

maybe he can help smooth over some of her rough spots.

i myself think she is really in love with you but just doesn't trust you for whatever reason.

have you EVER given her a reason to not trust you 100% ???

maybe it's time to lay out some ground rules for her

something like "woman i am going to work now & when i get back i want some kind of meal on the table & all those clothes washed".............. did you ever try that?

it may make some of the ladies here mad but that mite be how i would handle it myself.

be a strong mad & ask her to step up & be a strong woman to back you up.

there that's my 2 cents worth

piglett

[Tahoma 2,292]

sorry I'm really not into fat gals.

There right there is your problem.

Sooo...James...the question needs to be asked...why did you marry the woman if you don't enjoy crispy pata?

actually i love crispy pata. i just don't want to eat rice accompanied meals all the time.

Who said anything about food?

that's almost all my wife eats is that dam fish & rice.

there that's my 2 cents worth

piglett

How about you, piglett? I'll bet you would love a nice plump crispy pata.

[Ban Hammer 13,662]

then i guess that if your spouse was not going to change at all to smooth out your marriage that you'd stick around and take the "beating"? i think not. what about cheating excessively? you can't fix a marriage if the person cannot change, so why stay in it and be miserable? riddle me that?

now i'm done here. don't reply people.

given the above and some of the posts in here, i'm considering the above to be a request for closing this thread.

1 bait post removed, 1 post depicting violence towards women removed, and one post quoting violence towards women removed.

thread closed. do not restart this thread.