How to kick my wife out of this country?

[TracyTN 237]

Curious how the OP hasn't been back recently.

[Boiler 45,775]

Curious how the OP hasn't been back recently.

Probably because he read the replies?

[TracyTN 237]

Heh - could be!!

[sea-monkey 13]

He could be on vacation with his wife trying to work things out

[Otto 83]

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[HYENA 4]

mark my words; she has other interests. She is interested in cheating on you. It's always the accuser who is the actor.

One quick example are the preachers who preach against pedophilia; they are more often than not the actors. Think of all your friends where cheating has occurred; it's the cheater who was always pointing the finger, wasn't it?...To detract from their actions.

If she's impossible, going back home and leaving her there (if she's got no future here) will release you from financial responsibility here.

I considered it when my wife started contacting an ex boyfriend over and over after I told her this was intolerable and I clearly could see she's still interested in him. I have no need for that in my life. It all depends if she's crossed that line, so to speak. For me, my wife did cross that line and I haven't laid a finger on her since and emotionally it ended right there (we had a sworn agreement before getting married and this is the third betrayal).

I've done nothing but send money to her relatives, open the wallet for her and bought nothing for myself all this time. Right now, she's a burden and not contributing to the home very much. I asked her if she thought our responsibility distribution for running a household and our lives as a couple were fair and she said no, that I do most everything (at least she's honest), she sleeps 15 hours a day, eats, watches TV. I have no place for that in my life especially since a lot of work was done to lead me into believing she had mastered the computer, was highly employable (nothing special; any job would do) but right now no work, no looking for work, no interest in learning English, no help at home and lots of request$$$$.

I'm playing devils' advocate here but it's a common thought to drop them off where they came from and say it didn't work out. It's a cleaner break. If I moved somewhere for some woman and it didn't work, why would I stay there?

Edited November 11, 2010 by HYENA

[nyankee 0]

Well, i guess she can remove her conditions on her own.

But, what if i do this can i still make her stay out of this country?

Per my under standing, she has, or we have, to remove conditions 90dsy before the two years. What i just let it expire, and stayed married. My wife is clueless about what to submit, and i can tae her to her country and get a divorce and she wont be back because her resident card would have expired.

[rlogan 2,036]

Well, i guess she can remove her conditions on her own.

That's right.

But, what if i do this can i still make her stay out of this country?

Per my under standing, she has, or we have, to remove conditions 90dsy before the two years. What i just let it expire, and stayed married. My wife is clueless about what to submit, and i can tae her to her country and get a divorce and she wont be back because her resident card would have expired.

Well, I'm not a fan of deception, and this might qualify in my book. It may be true that she, as an adult, is responsible for herself - but if you have indicated that you are taking care of immigration matters and she has relied upon you for that then it crosses the line of deception.

So the way to handle it honestly would be to tell her that she is responsible for immigration matters from now on, and that you are not going to help. This would be in conjunction with the plans to get divorced, and it would not include lying to her or misrepresenting anything.

The willingness to deceive on your part and the disposition for vengeance (wanting more than just divorce, but punishment on top) gives me some reason to wonder about the full story. One very old rule of thumb is that if you see someone being deceptive with another person, don't be surprised if they are deceiving you too.

I've made a lot of mistakes in my life and am not qualified to sit in judgement of anyone else. I think though that all of us should try to conduct ourselves with as much integrity as we can. Getting the divorce and moving on with life, letting her fail on her own if she is as irresponsible as has been related - that's probably the best thing to do.

[keysjangle 145]

If she's acting immaturely, be the mature one. Don't try to be vindictive, it won't make you feel any better. Divorce her, and let her handle her own immigration issues.

[tmma 467]

Well, I have been married for almost two years and I have concluded that this will go nowhere. I have been taking therapy with my wife, because she is extremely unsecured and jealous. If i watch a commercial and an attractive girl pops up my wife go crazy and accuses me of everything. I cannot even go to work if there is a girl working there, because she thinks i am cheating on her. She was cheated many times and left with one kid, who I also brought to this country. This has been going on for a while now. I thought my love for her would help her overcome it, but she is very ignorant and stubborn and she is the normal one and not everyone else. I have the biggest fights with her over the smallest things and it is affecting my health, job, and other things.

It has not been two years yet since she entered the country so no conditions have been removed. What options do i have? I know this sounds mean, but I do not want her in this country because i know it would not work out for other reasons. I was thinking of taking a trip to her country and get into a fight and leave her instead of making up, which I am the only who tries every time. Then get a divorce there and take all documents with me. Is there a way I can get her green card voided? by telling the I will not remove the conditions? how does this work? help please.

whoa.

YOU cannot void her Green Card. It's hers. Not yours.

I hope you do take her to Belize and leave her ( and a child???!!) , because with a green card. she can enter the US on her own- and petition against you for divorce on abandonment and petition to remove her conditions on VAWA and likely get approved.

Oh BTW-you should know that you are on the hook for the affidavit of support for a long time, as you should be. You promised to bring her here and support her.

You cannot just ship her back like a defective DVD player or abandon her ( and a child) like an unwanted pet.

Be a man, get a divorce and let her live her life.

Stop trying to dump your responsibilities.

-sorry to sound harsh , but there are way too many people that think they can bring their non-US citizen love over here and ' ship back' when it does not work out. These are people that you professed to love and they have given up their life back at home to be with you.

So the marriage didn't work out-get a divorce and make sure she is OK like youy originally promised.

Oh and you said she was insecure....I would be too if my hubby was contemplating dumping me on another continent.

[Fandango 1,439]

Don't forget about the 30% restocking fee.

Tmma's post was +10000000000000000000000000000000000

[Boiler 45,775]

As long as the goods have not been used.

[Caladan 19]

The greencard is hers, not yours. Read this slowly because you seem to be a little bit confused. It's not your property any more than her driver's license would be. Do you think you can make it so that she doesn't have a driver's license by taking it away and cutting it up? Then why on earth would you think it would work for a green card?

You're setting yourself up nicely for an abuse case. Theft, fraud, abandonment, and deception. Man, what attorney wouldn't want her case! All because you're scared of the affidavit of support. Sunshine, those like you are the reason that there is an affidavit of support.

Be a man. File for divorce if it's not working out, and let her handle her own affairs from there.

[rlogan 2,036]

As long as the goods have not been used.

That's why I never tear the outside wrapping.

Very carefully separate the wrapping where it is folded over the edges of the box. Then you can re-wrap it, glue the edges back down, and nobody knows the difference.

[Ban Hammer 13,445]

That's why I never tear the outside wrapping.

Very carefully separate the wrapping where it is folded over the edges of the box. Then you can re-wrap it, glue the edges back down, and nobody knows the difference.

unfortunately, most guys use too much glue.