How to kick my wife out of this country?

[Kathryn41 3,205]

Moved from Adjustment of Status forum to Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits forum as a more appropriate location for this discussion.

[felb 0]

i'm sorry that the situation is frustrating you but your plans of action is quite very selfish. why all the need to make sure she is removed from the country?

[VanessaTony 3,567]

Imagining immigration isn't an issue, would you try and make your girlfriend leave town once you break up? It's pretty much the same thing.

Bringing immigration in as an issue you have 2 issues:

1. Did she marry you to get a greencard and not for love? - It's apparent from your posts that you've both tried to make it work and your personalities simply don't mesh. That's not immigration fraud.

2. The I-864 - You are still on the hook for the I-864, is this your issue?

Also re removal of conditions, yes the "condition" is her marriage to you. But she can file for a waiver of that condition on the basis that she married you for honest reasons and the relationship simply didn't work.

I suggest that you tell your wife it's not work and that you want a divorce and see what she says. She might be concerned with staying in the US and she might not. She might not believe you when you say that she doesn't need you to ROC so perhaps direct her here so she can hear/read it from us, OR suggest she speak to an immigration attorney to see what they say.

Basically you tried, she tried and it didn't work, no need to be spiteful.

[Utha 10]

How is it narrow minded?

Two adults entered into the marriage, and when it didn't work out, one of them is wanting the other one to 'go back to her country' for apparently no reason.

Agree. They married in a nice way, then why dont end it with nice one as well?.

Edited November 7, 2010 by Utha

[Rajaa 0]

Marriage is based on respect before anything else. it may not work for several reasons but I think it is sad to end up in bad terms. Usually the problems are coming from both sides, here we have just your version of the story maybe she is also blaming you for other things you do or you don’t. Still you both choose to be together, you both tried to make it work even if it was not always fun for you. Now you don’t want to stay in this relationship anymore and that's your right (actually I am even sure she is not happy either this way) but you definitely don’t have the right to decide for her. You don’t want her, fine. But she is not an enemy you try to punish, she has been (is) your wife and just for this reason she disserves enough respect from you to let her choose what she wants to do on her own.

I know how hard it must be for you to get into that point of anger and that s normal. Try to stay positive and avoid doing what you may regret one day or another.

I am honestly praying for you and for her to pass this the smoothest way possible.

[N M 96]

i'm sorry that the situation is frustrating you but your plans of action is quite very selfish. why all the need to make sure she is removed from the country?

If he dumps her back In Belize, he hopes to escape any financial obligations he might otherwise face (if they simply divorced and she stayed in the U.S.)?

Just my cynical take on his position.

[Samoray 165]

I think the way to go is just get a divorce, move on with your life and let her deal with staying in the US or going back to her country if she wanted to. but certainly you are obligated by law to provide for her until she removes conditions and becomes a permanent resident if that's what she wanna pursue. and maybe that's what you're concerned about, i don't know.

[thelastpetitioner 218]

WOW,youre one nasty hell of a husband OP.the beauty of america is how even everyone is in their social class.your wife has the right to stay,if she married in good faith as much as you do.it angers me when people think JUST because they married a foreigner and for whatever reason moved to them to the states they are forever entitled to the person,like a boss or slave master or something.

[Channah&Aaron 51]

; You're MEAN

[jrmejia 31]

My answer will not help a bit. But my silly opinion is "as long that she does not cheat on me or I cheat on her" divorce is out of the question. Any small argument I will take as business as usual..kiss and make up

[andres0603 1]

:unsure: you said your wife is extremely jealous and she haven't cheated on you, that means she loves you greatly, give her a chance unless you have made your plans with some else which I think you have

[R.&S. 2]

:unsure: you said your wife is extremely jealous and she haven't cheated on you, that means she loves you greatly, give her a chance unless you have made your plans with some else which I think you have

Yes, I am also agree with this thought.Think again OP!

[lance1002 0]

Sorry that your marriage didn't work out. Just file for divorce and have your wife deal with the removal of her conditional status. Trying to get her deported because of your marital woes does not seem fair to her and her child. They came here to start a life with you and now that it's not working out you cannot just try and trick her so you can get rid of her. Be an adult and deal with it like a man. She obviously have issues and so do you. If you love her as you say you do then try to make your separation as mature and smooth as possible.

She is also an adult therefore has to take responsibility for herself and her child. If she can take care of removing her conditional status that is good if not then she will have to go back to her country. If that happens at least that is on her and not because of you. You problem is your personal relationship with her, people fall in and out of love all the time but we all have to move on with our lives. Goodluck to you and your wife and I hope you guys find a better way of settling your differences.

[Maxx121 14]

Well, I have been married for almost two years and I have concluded that this will go nowhere. I have been taking therapy with my wife, because she is extremely unsecured and jealous. If i watch a commercial and an attractive girl pops up my wife go crazy and accuses me of everything. I cannot even go to work if there is a girl working there, because she thinks i am cheating on her. She was cheated many times and left with one kid, who I also brought to this country. This has been going on for a while now. I thought my love for her would help her overcome it, but she is very ignorant and stubborn and she is the normal one and not everyone else. I have the biggest fights with her over the smallest things and it is affecting my health, job, and other things.

It has not been two years yet since she entered the country so no conditions have been removed. What options do i have? I know this sounds mean, but I do not want her in this country because i know it would not work out for other reasons. I was thinking of taking a trip to her country and get into a fight and leave her instead of making up, which I am the only who tries every time. Then get a divorce there and take all documents with me. Is there a way I can get her green card voided? by telling the I will not remove the conditions? how does this work? help please.

For something like this i would suggest presenting your case to a Lawyer and see what he has to say. At least then you can fully explain yourself to him and find out what legal things might come back at you and what her options would be.

People are a bit to judgemental. In my first marriage my wife and i went through alot of #######, when we divorced she moved to another state rather than sucking me dry emotionally, mentaly, and financially. If she is really as bad as you say then i doubt a divorce would end anything, in fact she might even not want to give you one. If your heart is totally out of this then do what you feel is right. But if there is a chance you still love her and later on down the line you want her back, doing her dirty like this would prolly be a bad thing.

Best of luck to you in whatever you decide, im sure there are personal factors that you dont wish to share on such a public forum.

[FawkThisSite 13]

:unsure: you said your wife is extremely jealous and she haven't cheated on you, that means she loves you greatly, give her a chance unless you have made your plans with some else which I think you have

I agree with this. She is jelous because she loves you so much. Maybe it isn't fair, but remember she was cheated on and left with a child. Fear or repetition is a human response. Again, there is no doubt that she is absolutely in love with you, and I have the feeling that you are as well with her. If I were in this situation I would have a serious disussion about this with her, and reassure her that you love her and that you are not the people from her past. Try to make it work, remember your vows... through bad and good, sickness and in health....