Just Beginning...Need my UK fiance' here yesterday.....

[kennym 275]

"I'm a 43 year-old woman that was married 20 years"

Sorry, but that wasn't so apparent from your prior posts.. But now we know, thanks..

[Fandango 1,439]

Sorry, but that wasn't so apparent from your prior posts.. But now we know, thanks..

I have to agree, I was a bit surprised due to the 'we haven't met cos it would crush us to separate, but do we have to meet before we get married anyway?' logic.

[Boiler 45,516]

I have to agree, I was a bit surprised due to the 'we haven't met cos it would crush us to separate, but do we have to meet before we get married anyway?' logic.

Me too.

I'm not a giddy teenager living in the clouds

Certainly came across that way.

[SuperDuper! 230]

Once again, the Boiler nails it!

And he is not a 40K poster (with all the credibility that carries!)

};^\

[agv1974 2]

Dont mean to take this thread off into the weeds, but Rob and Jill, you're taking my post way out of context.. So maybe you just want to appear cute, but I didn't state any kinda time that someone needs to know each other after meeting.. My only point was, is "you can't be in-love without meeting someone.." You can be irrational and believe it's love, but that is not love.. So take my point and put whatever twist you want on it, but rational adults do not make these kinds of comitments until the relationship has taken its course.. The things that lead to true love are as individual as anything, and I did not attempt to define that... I only said you can't be in-love unless you've had time to meet someone.. I know that there are movies and fairytales and fantasy worlds that say diferent, but keep in mind, thats not reality..

Kenny

I think a valid point is being made.....

[agv1974 2]

ok allow me to throw in my two bitchy cents.

knowing youre in love and meant to be is one thing,applying for a visa is another.

youre going to be legally responsible for your fiance,and trust me,the amount of questioning youre going to go through in every stage of this process is much more harsh and out there than these people have already done.

i can assure you THAT.

being in love,having butterflies,knowing you want to spend the rest of your life with someone,all that is really really nice,but you have to be realistic.

how much do you know about your fiance?do you trust him enough to be his sponsor,meaning responsible for him financially during this visa process until he adjust his status?are you sure he has no skeletons in his closet that could cause problems for the visa process?

thats just the logical part.

the emotional part is even worse,you have to pretty much prove your relationship,to USCIS,to NVC and in the end to the consulate,wait what,6 to 8 odd months for a five mins interview where someone is either going to get convinced that your relationship is real or accuse you of fraud.

i was one of those people who found the whole idea of two people from different nationalities and cultures really romantic and fairy tale like,but this process MADE me grow up and look at things differently.it gave me a completely different perspective.

so,bottom line,it will be hard,it will be long,and it will be unfair,so make sure the one youre applying for is worth it.

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Reality people .......

[Kathryn41 3,205]

Thread closed at the OP's request.