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[miranda 0]

I've been extremely touchy lately. I'm sitting here hoping my K1 gets approved so Patrick can be here by June when my lease ends and I need to move. I'd like him to be here to help and have a say in where the next place we live will be. I just keep seeing people being approved much quicker at the other processing centers and it frustrates me. I don't know why the USCIS doesn't see the massive difference between California and Vermont and why they're not doing more to change it. I know others have probably complained about this and I haven't been waiting as long as most, but this is the most stressful thing I've done. Or maybe it feels that way because I also have a stressful job. I just live in stress constantly and this from CSC is making me feel like I'm going to blow my top. Sorry for the rant.

[hafiz 1]

well at least you are not with the nebraska service center. I think they are the slowest of them all.

[mgexr3000 0]

hang in there, miranda! i so know how you're feeling. it is beyond frustrating to see everyone getting approved in what seems a couple of weeks while us CSC folks wait, wait and wait some more. don't get me wrong. each time i see an approval i'm happy for the couple. but, the every day waiting becomes a physically and mentally taxing experience. ugh! i have my good days when everything hangs on plain ol' hope. hope that it will all work out quickly and without a hitch. i stay positive and don't obsessively log on to the USCIS case status site to check our case. once a day is enough, right? ;-) but then there are the bad days. like earlier this week when i noticed our VJ approximate adjudication date go from april 1 to may 4! i had the meltdown from hell. i seriously considered quitting my job, packing my bags and getting on the next flight to BCN-- all in one day. thank god my guy has the patience of a saint. he talked some sense into me and reminded me that before we know it we'll be together again and for good. it's tough enough to be without the person you love let alone to make decisions. but stay postive. it will all work out. hey, i found a great grouch killer: boxing! good luck.

Edited February 19, 2006 by mgexr3000

[aussiewench 9]

well at least you are not with the nebraska service center. I think they are the slowest of them all.

Nope...for K-1 California has that unfortunate title. Those filing I-130 though from NSC are on par with CSC as those petitions are forwarded onto CSC. The gap though does seem to be closing with the centers re I-129F as now there is only 2 months seperating them and now 3 months as opposed to the 5 mths previously with the I-130. Would love to see the day when processing times are all on par regardless of which service center.

To the OP *hugs* hang in there girl.

[jkb919 0]

Hang in there Miranda!!! I know your time will soon be here...believe me I felt the same way waiting the 3 months for my approval...this whole process is a BIG waiting game...I am now waiting for the petition to reach the embassy (unknown how long that will take) Getting the NOA2 is a big relief but the waiting doesnt stop there.....Just keep your head up and your relationship with your fiance strong.....God bless

[kaffykat 0]

Totally understand where you are coming from Miranda. Friday was 'it' for me, 108 days and no touches or anything, I had had enough of the slow, stressful wait and living in limbo, needing to do things but in a bind as to what to do, 'just in case'. I was ready to quit out on everything. Mike talked me around, asked me to wait til the 120 day limit that they say on the Status Online Page and then well if it wasn't approved by then we would decide what to do then.

There has been a few times like that. I hate the job I have, because it was only going to be a temporary thing, I took it because it allowed me to have my Mondays off, henceforth known as my "Mikey Mondays", that is his Sunday night - we get to spend some fantastic time together, totally alone for hours. But spending time together on the webcams is nothing compared to being together in person.

Luckily he did talk sense into me that day, again... Cause when I got home from work that afternoon, I checked the Status Online and there it was, in black and white, "Case Approved". I howled for a good 15 or so minutes, I was so close to throwing the towel in, hating living this half life with no full direction, knowing what I wanted but not knowing when and if it was going to happen. But Mike, once again, brought me back to my senses with his wonderful way of dealing with my 'moods'. Sounds like you have the same kind of man, backing you up there Miranda, we are both very lucky girls. I woke the poor man up at 12.15am his time and all he heard was me sobbing and going "we got approved". He had to come online to see for himself.

So hang in there Miranda, you know you have a wait and of course I can be all happy with the world now that we got approved. Believe me when it happens you will know exactly what I mean. And it looks like CSC is starting to get their act together in the last few weeks so you may not have as long a wait as a few of us did and still have. If you need to talk, 'just to get it out' give me a holla.

[Jasman0717 9]

Good luck, hopefully your approval will come soon!

[miranda 0]

Thanks for all the support. I feel better since I've slept and Patrick is calling me in a couple of hours. I know you all know exactly what I'm going through. It's a relief to have VJ, no one else around me understands what I'm going through. There is another teacher at my work who has gone through this, but he is very unapproachable, and we only see each other when the students are gone, which limits any time I'm able to discuss it with him. I don't know what I'd do without this community.

[Sinergy 3]

I feel with you Miranda! Im on day 102 and me and my fiance are feeling the stress more and more. Our wishful thinking on getting the approval fast isnt about moving though, our sons 1st year birthday is in May so we are very stressed about him being here ontime for that.

Everything will go fine for you thought, you will see.

Hugs and good luck!

Tara

[irishgirl73 0]

Belive me I understand what you are saying about this stress. I have been a miserable bit@h lately, I am even taking it out one the one person I shouldn't be- my fiance. This is a horrible feeling-waiting for someone to decide on your future. I was planning on hime being here for early Spring(I am going through VSC & expaected a quick approval), well I was SO wrong. Today is 72 days..............I am freaking out

hugs to all of us waiting

[isleta521 5]

It is hard. Very Hard and the hardest part is not knowing when or WHAT is going to happen next. But I must remain hopeful regardless. My fiance believes in me when other's in her country don't. I think it is hard for me but she really has it harder.She does not speak /read english very well so this site is no use to her - yet. It also took us about 4 months before we filed to get all the paperwork ready and correct. I like what she told me last night (in Portugues): " . . . the only thing that has passed between us is time, our love just continues to grow . . ".

All the days are hard , just some harder than others. Just make it through them and we / you will win eventually.

d

Edited February 19, 2006 by isleta521

[Texanadian 10]

She does not speak /read english very well so this site is no use to her - yet. It also took us about 4 months before we filed to get all the paperwork ready and correct.

Now that is something I'd never even thought of. That foreigners couldn't read this website. What a long hard wait that would be without being able to read English. I know how you feel about waiting before filing. I proposed in May 2005, we saw each other again in August and filed the paperwork in October. For awhile I'd wished that I had sent the stuff off earlier. Of course when I got my NOA2 in January there were still lots of people who had filed during the summer but were still waiting for their NOA2.

I got approved in 100 days from TSC/CSC. No touches, no updates, people in front of me hasn't gotten it days earlier. Just seemed like out of the blue it came. I was surfing the net and my Gmail notifier turned blue with a notice from USCIS. When I opened the case status online, there it was.

To everybody out there, you've read about the waits others have had. But I've been there. You really don't care that it takes everybody else as long. It's such a personal thing having to wait to be allowed to be with your partner. There were days I was grumpy, frustrated, sad, depressed. But when that NOA2 comes, let me tell ya it's the biggest boost you can get. It's like your fiancee just walked in the door. I was floating on air for days afterwards.

The day will come.

[isleta521 5]

She does not speak /read english very well so this site is no use to her - yet. It also took us about 4 months before we filed to get all the paperwork ready and correct.

Now that is something I'd never even thought of. That foreigners couldn't read this website. What a long hard wait that would be without being able to read English. I know how you feel about waiting before filing. I proposed in May 2005, we saw each other again in August and filed the paperwork in October. For awhile I'd wished that I had sent the stuff off earlier. Of course when I got my NOA2 in January there were still lots of people who had filed during the summer but were still waiting for their NOA2.

I got approved in 100 days from TSC/CSC. No touches, no updates, people in front of me hasn't gotten it days earlier. Just seemed like out of the blue it came. I was surfing the net and my Gmail notifier turned blue with a notice from USCIS. When I opened the case status online, there it was.

To everybody out there, you've read about the waits others have had. But I've been there. You really don't care that it takes everybody else as long. It's such a personal thing having to wait to be allowed to be with your partner. There were days I was grumpy, frustrated, sad, depressed. But when that NOA2 comes, let me tell ya it's the biggest boost you can get. It's like your fiancee just walked in the door. I was floating on air for days afterwards.

The day will come.

Thanks Texanadian for your Kind words.

[Cristy 4]

I just started and I am frustrated. I really gets you down when you see people waiting months at one center and a week at another. How is it fair? Just for living in another area of the country you get faster service. It really seems they need to look at a way of dividing the load to make it more of a standard processing time for all.

[Jaylen Brit 0]

Hey Miranda - we're on a similar timeline as you can see - right down to the same beneficiary country and service center too! So you're another one I'll keep my eye on the timeline..I got Lisz watching mine and we're both watching Tiksman as well cos they are also close to us, lol

Edited February 20, 2006 by Jaylen Brit