Our K-1 was denied in Guangzhou

[KittyPollitt 284]

My last trip was for 2 months this past July. We toured 3 countries and I have run out of most of my cash but it was worth it and she had a great time and her spirits were lifted.

As for me, I would have to grin and bear it to live in China.. Its a pain for foreigners to live in China if you dont know the language.. I was there for 2 months and honestly I prefer to live in the good old USA..But for her I can live there a year or so-- sounds like that is going to be a given from what I am reading

[Maxx121 14]

You can't honestly think that she is attracted to you in a husband/wife type of way. You obviously are to her - but she is 23!! She doesn't need to be married to someone that is old enough to be her grandfather. Let her go and let her find someone that is her own age and you do the same.

Best of luck.

you are a douchebag, people are free to make the choices they want to make with their life. We live and we learn, constructive critism is one thing, but thats just outright rude.

OP. its prolly gonna take a long time and alot of convincing to get her visa approved.

If you got the time and the cash moving to china for a while and getting married there then filing over there (think you ahve to stay there with her a year? not sure) might be a good choice.

[Bob g 11]

There is not time limit on the I 864

What I mean when I mentioned the I-864, is the Visa Officer or our government is looking for a couple that has the potential of withstanding a long commitment together. The visa process ask for all previous marriage and divorce documents. The NVC may read these documents also as a reference to a bonafide relationship.

[Bob g 11]

Whatever. What i said is going through a lot of people's minds. If the OP goes ahead with a K3 that will be denied too. You guys need to stop sugar coating this situation and say that age doesn't matter - OF COURSE IT MATTERS!!!

It may matter to you, but what matters to everyone else may be different.

[Bob g 11]

generally i think we agree that some people tend to forget that love isnt the only thing that can guarantee a happy,successful and secure marriage

it seems like asians in general have got it right

Have you been to Asia? I have been there 2 times. I met very many very nice girls, good looking, well mannered, working, easy going/pleasant, and all divorced. I may have been too blunt, but I ask them why they were divorced, being that they all had so many good qualities. Most of the reasons were that the former husbands way of spending their leisure time was at the bars, with their buddies, or wanting a younger girl. Does not sound much different than alot of guys I know here.

[thelastpetitioner 218]

Have you been to Asia? I have been there 2 times. I met very many very nice girls, good looking, well mannered, working, easy going/pleasant, and all divorced. I may have been too blunt, but I ask them why they were divorced, being that they all had so many good qualities. Most of the reasons were that the former husbands way of spending their leisure time was at the bars, with their buddies, or wanting a younger girl. Does not sound much different than alot of guys I know here.

jerks are the same everywhere,race and age doesnt make much of a difference.

[jrmejia 31]

You can't honestly think that she is attracted to you in a husband/wife type of way. You obviously are to her - but she is 23!! She doesn't need to be married to someone that is old enough to be her grandfather. Let her go and let her find someone that is her own age and you do the same.

Best of luck.

I did not like your answer I dont think we should question the age gap

Don't take it wrong please but love sometimes works in magical way.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

You can't honestly think that she is attracted to you in a husband/wife type of way. You obviously are to her - but she is 23!! She doesn't need to be married to someone that is old enough to be her grandfather. Let her go and let her find someone that is her own age and you do the same.

I feel bad for you that your idea of love is so limited.

My parents are 40 years apart. They have been married (very happily I might add) for 30 years next year. They have four children together. They married when mum was 22 and dad 62.

So... your theory is quite wrong. YOU might feel that way, and personally I don't think it's for me, but I do know it works for some people. Exceptionally well in my parents case.

[a loves a 0]

You can't honestly think that she is attracted to you in a husband/wife type of way. You obviously are to her - but she is 23!! She doesn't need to be married to someone that is old enough to be her grandfather. Let her go and let her find someone that is her own age and you do the same.

Best of luck.

excuse me , are you god or something , excuse my language but you got me mad big time , why u have to be judgemental ,and thats people choice not you , im sorry dont get mad but reall your words uncalled

[a loves a 0]

I agree.. the above comment is bang out of order. First negative comment Ive seen on this site.. completely unnecessary..

OP.. you do what makes you happy!

god pless you

[a loves a 0]

generally i think we agree that some people tend to forget that love isnt the only thing that can guarantee a happy,successful and secure marriage

it seems like asians in general have got it right

all womans think like this its not shame , not chiense only its normal

[Bob g 11]

I feel bad for you that your idea of love is so limited.

My parents are 40 years apart. They have been married (very happily I might add) for 30 years next year. They have four children together. They married when mum was 22 and dad 62.

So... your theory is quite wrong. YOU might feel that way, and personally I don't think it's for me, but I do know it works for some people. Exceptionally well in my parents case.

I am very glad for your parents. Friend of mine is 61, with wife 22, very happy 2 years now. She goes to college now, they travel the world together very much. Another friend 64, and his wife 26, very happy several years now. They all are honest with each other, and themselves.

[a loves a 0]

you are a douchebag, people are free to make the choices they want to make with their life. We live and we learn, constructive critism is one thing, but thats just outright rude.

OP. its prolly gonna take a long time and alot of convincing to get her visa approved.

If you got the time and the cash moving to china for a while and getting married there then filing over there (think you ahve to stay there with her a year? not sure) might be a good choice.

its 6 mounths

[Maxx121 14]

its 6 mounths

nope, it was already denied. read his story.

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

nope, it was already denied. read his story.

They were referring to him marrying her in China and living there for 6 months to qualify for DCF Filing for a CR-1 Visa for her.