Filing a petition again after a divorce

[livindadream 156]

Hi,

I know this post may sound crazy. But I assure you its not, and neither am I ...tho some may think I am after reading this. I fell in love with a nigerian man over the internet. I went to Nigeria, met him, came home and filed the petition for fiance visa. He came over, we married and then all hell broke loose. He left the home shortly after being married (about two months) and disappeared. We had never adjusted his status and the only way I was told that he could have stayed in the country without my assistance was to say that I put him out, etc etc. Anyhow, I could care less what he did, cuz it wont change anything. He totally scammed me for a way over here and I fell for it. Thats the past. I filed for divorce (without him because he was missing since he left). Now here's the crazy part....I was in Nigeria again (I love the country, for what it's worth) and I met someone. I lived with him for months. We want to marry and file for CR1 for him to come over to the states. DO you think I will have any problems with this due to my last situation with the scammer?? I pray not. I am prepared to live with him anywhere in the world, and so is he, but the fact is, I can't stay in NIgeria forever. If anyone has any good advise or if they know of anyone that has done it twice in a lifetime, kud u pls let me know. Thanks.

[canadian_wife 1,826]

Yes, as long as you are free to marry (as in your 1st divorce is final) you may petition for this new beau as a fiance, or if you are married - you can file for the Cr-1.

You'll have to answer the 'have you filed this petition for this or any other person' honestly - obiviously.

Also, Lagos is a high fraud consulate. It is hard to say if it will be an issue for them or not

Good luck

[SisJ 13]

i see no reason why you wont be able to petition again. But i must say the journey may be a lil bumpy since your previous situation may raise a red flag,but as long as you have evidence to prove your first marriage was in good faith and that he used you just to get here i guess things should be ok

Sn: I have no experience with your situation, just giving my opinion

[RICARDO4EVA2 194]

IF the marriage is in good faith then go for it.. You shouldnt have a probelm however uscis will look VERY closely to the petitions that you submit going forward.. as it may now seem that each time u viist the nation, a marriage occurs. Did you notifiy them of the situation..? I hope you did. Nigeria is a country with avery high fraud cases so this comming from a nigerian is not uncommon. IF I were you .. i'd hold out... Juming into marriage on the visit after the last trip/divorvce is just too soon and put yuor self at risk.

How long ago did the first marriage took place..?

See the thing is you'd neeed to Notify USCIS of the life change and withdraw the application... but if you did not then the case mightbe in the system as opened/abonded.

Edited October 17, 2010 by RICARDO4EVA2

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Being Nigeria you may expect a difficult road. Any red flag you have Being white, being older, being a different religion, being married / divorced less then 2 years ago will count heavily against you this time around. You need to be able to show how you meet the new husband and provide proof that you know him and his family well.

[livindadream 156]

IF the marriage is in good faith then go for it.. You shouldnt have a probelm however uscis will look VERY closely to the petitions that you submit going forward.. as it may now seem that each time u viist the nation, a marriage occurs. Did you notifiy them of the situation..? I hope you did. Nigeria is a country with avery high fraud cases so this comming from a nigerian is not uncommon. IF I were you .. i'd hold out... Juming into marriage on the visit after the last trip/divorvce is just too soon and put yuor self at risk.

How long ago did the first marriage took place..?

See the thing is you'd neeed to Notify USCIS of the life change and withdraw the application... but if you did not then the case mightbe in the system as opened/abonded.

THe previous marriage took place in 2007. he left a few months later. i went to homeland security and notified him that he left the home and i didnt know where he was. I wrote it out in a statement. I didnt do anything else after that. I understand completely what you mean about jumping into another marriage...but I just dont feel like im jumping from one relaitonship to another. Even with the first one, I was here alone the whole time it was being procdessed. And then he left a few months after getting here. So, I've been single for years now even tho the divorce just ended recently. But i get what your're saying. And I appreciate your advise.

[livindadream 156]

Being Nigeria you may expect a difficult road. Any red flag you have Being white, being older, being a different religion, being married / divorced less then 2 years ago will count heavily against you this time around. You need to be able to show how you meet the new husband and provide proof that you know him and his family well.

Right. Well, I lived with him for MONTHS in Nigeria. And wen i go back to marry him, I plan on staying long with him again. So hopefully that might be enough to convince him. He is nothing like the other guy and looking back at things, I should've seen all the red flags. But unfortunatly love is blind.

[livindadream 156]

Yes, as long as you are free to marry (as in your 1st divorce is final) you may petition for this new beau as a fiance, or if you are married - you can file for the Cr-1.

You'll have to answer the 'have you filed this petition for this or any other person' honestly - obiviously.

Also, Lagos is a high fraud consulate. It is hard to say if it will be an issue for them or not

Good luck

Thank you very much

[RICARDO4EVA2 194]

Right. Well, I lived with him for MONTHS in Nigeria. And wen i go back to marry him, I plan on staying long with him again. So hopefully that might be enough to convince him. He is nothing like the other guy and looking back at things, I should've seen all the red flags. But unfortunatly love is blind.

If there arent any red flags then I say go for it.. I'm daiting someone in the Dominican Republic and have been for the last 2 years.. I go there every 3-5 months for 2 weeks. I have made it very clear the intention and see how the the other acts when I'm there.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

Duplicate thread in CR-1 forum moved and merged with existing thread here as the question is as much to do about filing for another Nigerian as it is for filing a second CR-1. It is not necessary to post the same question in more than one forum and the responses may be more specific to the situation here. (Duplicate post also removed).

Edited October 17, 2010 by Kathryn41

[patient2010 93]

you might get some red flags and scrutiny but go for it it depends on the interviewing officer most of the time....Good luck

[livindadream 156]

Will I face more problems with the USCIS in the states? Or at the embassy level in Nigeria? What do you guys think? Could the USCIS give me any problems if he lied to them to get out of staying with me to finish the process? Cuz I was told that wud be the only way he could stay in the country without being with me to finish the process. After we married, we didnt even file to change his status. He still had the fiance visa. We got married, but he was gone before we even changed any status or anything. So I'm wondering if I will have problems with USCIS over this or will they not hold me responsible for HIS SCAM? I hope not, that wud be total injustice. If our only problems we'd face is scrutiny in NIgeria, then Im not too worried, because by time it gets to them, I'll hae already been living with him many more months, so hopefully they will recognize it as a bonafide relationship.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Lagos seems to be the biggest issue with US/Nigerian couples. USCIS tends to treat all petitions alike but Lagos treats them all like they are fraud cases. They may cast a Negative eye on your "assisting" your previous partner in their immigration process. You have to be strong , prepare well, expect the worse and if it goes easily then country your blessings.

[livindadream 156]

Lagos seems to be the biggest issue with US/Nigerian couples. USCIS tends to treat all petitions alike but Lagos treats them all like they are fraud cases. They may cast a Negative eye on your "assisting" your previous partner in their immigration process. You have to be strong , prepare well, expect the worse and if it goes easily then country your blessings.

Yes, I understand you. And the fact that he scammed me to get here and now I am the one facing the consequences is going to be so hard to handle. I did everything for that man. Including sending him money every single week for 2 years til he reached the states cuz he 'needed my help' for everyday things. Boy, I was stupid. HIs big thank you was to ditch me after 2 months and disappear to never be seen again. Like I stated earlier, I could care less about him or the fact that he used me for 2 years. I strongly believe what comes around goes around. Like my fiance says..." he will surlely be paid in the same coin that he spent". My only prayer now is that all his ####### didnt jeopardize my future with the man I'm with now. But I will just pray and hopefully you are right that I won't face any issues with USCIS. I would like to just get over that hurdle and then focus on the rest. Thanks for all ur input, its encouraging.

[damilola 0]

it"s just a pity anyway but i think it will be difficult at the usem in lagos during his interview because of the previous marriage but you just need bunch of evidence to conquer the test.

there is fraud all over the world in different fields and divorce is also all over and its not common in AFRICA but in the developed world but i admit the fact that he used you and drained you also. but with the new found love i pray that GOD will abide in him and love you till death path you.i know it is not a good way to leave a life jumping here and there.

TRUST IN GOD AND ALL THINGS WILL BE POSSIBLE.