Divorce after 1 month in US....Long-sad-story

[~Johnny~ 27]

Since the ICE agent has been so responsive and helpful, and says that she's on top on things, ask her what to do in regard to the additional evidence before you begin operating independently. That would seem to be courteous at minimum, and it could also avoid "too many cooks spoiling the broth." If she's in charge, she shouldn't have to spend her time explaining the entire situation to some InfoPass agent whom you've newly clued in.

At the same time that you ask what to do about your evidence, you can relate what you've heard about the "living like roaches" plan.

Continuous best wishes, si man.

Si man...you hit it right on the head. I contacted the ICE agent today and she said an Infopass meeting is really not necessary as everything they get from Infopass will go straight to her and as you said...if they have questions they will be asking her what's the status of the fraud detection case. She said currently she is processing it as possible fraudulent immigration action against a USC which if prosecuted carries certain penalties against the illegal immigrant. Those penalties basically equal to a ban from entering US again for so many years. But the agent did tell me this .... I don't have to do anything else other than give her the divorce decree when completed however....IF I so decided to send her txt msgs, emails, whatever,...then because it realtes to her case anything she receives from me must go into the file long as she has the file.

[StoryAngel 4]

Johnny, I've been following your story and take my hat off to you. Good for you to be brave enough to share your story, and level-headed enough to act responsibly all the way through. I wish you all the best!

[makidesuu 0]

And she also told me that since I reported a fraudulent activity and have proof of that reporting to her (emails and such), I can claim my losses on my 2009 tax filing as theft by fraud. She's been extremely helpful. USCIS kicked me to the curb and said just forget about it and move on.

At least you got the tax benefit! good for you~!

I just wonder what she wanted to do. What she did does not make any sense..

[TBoneTX 45,294]

Si man...you hit it right on the head. [...] anything she receives from me must go into the file long as she has the file.

This is great, si man. In your ICE agent, you have a legitimate ally -- responsive, informative, and supportive. She didn't HAVE to tell you about the income-tax writeoff, no man. How cool to have a resource like that.

Regarding your Ex, it may take some time as the agent said, but the pollos will come home to roost, si man.

[wanted:happiness 0]

I am sorry for what had happen to your marriage Johnny. I really wish that ####### finds her place where she trully belongs. It makes me aggravated everytime I read stories like this about my fellow filipinas who has done such horrible thing. I am glad to know that you didn't give up by doing the right thing. And yes, Karma will definitely coma back and hunt her down. All you have to do us to learn a lesson from this that love really takes a long time to actually get to know someone. I'm saying this because I read that you are filling that lonesomenes in your heart with another company, I'm afraid things would happen again. Just be very careful.

My best of luck to you. God bless you.

[Karen_and_Jay 2]

Sorry that you and Wilma didn't work out, Johnny. I'm not sure exactly what happened, but I think your story is a reminder of how hard these long distance relationships can be, especially between people of two different cultures. I hope you and Wilma can each find true love elsewhere. But I'm still a little confused about your story.

And she's been in the US since May 14.....she left me 2nd time on June 28 and I haven't seen her since.

Why are you saying you haven't seen Wilma since June 28? You sent me a message September 21 on Yahoo Messenger to say Wilma was there with you in New Orleans. Considering how you two ended up, I feel bad that we never called or texted back at that time. Maybe we could have helped you and Wilma reconcile. I guess that is impossible now, isn't it?

[~Johnny~ 27]

Why are you saying you haven't seen Wilma since June 28? You sent me a message September 21 on Yahoo Messenger to say Wilma was there with you in New Orleans. Considering how you two ended up, I feel bad that we never called or texted back at that time. Maybe we could have helped you and Wilma reconcile. I guess that is impossible now, isn't it?

Hi Jay, been a long time. Yeah that's a new one on me about her coming to New Orleans. It'd be a cold day hell before that happens. I know she had access to my Yahoo messenger up until recently because I hardly use it anymore. I only initially used it to chat with her. But lately my friends were texting me on my cell and telling me that I was calling them stupid things on messenger. They said I used funky english and it made no sense. I think she was trying to get a hold of Karen, they met sometime in PI during the process. Like I said, I haven't used YM for months except last month to change my password.

[Karen_and_Jay 2]

Yeah that's a new one on me about her coming to New Orleans. It'd be a cold day hell before that happens. I know she had access to my Yahoo messenger up until recently because I hardly use it anymore. I only initially used it to chat with her. But lately my friends were texting me on my cell and telling me that I was calling them stupid things on messenger. They said I used funky english and it made no sense.

Want to hear something even weirder? I double-checked the message -- it said Wilma was with you in New Orleans, but the phone number that was given turned out to be in the SAN DIEGO area code. I Googled the number and it happens to be your old home phone number in San Diego. Why would anyone have wanted Karen to call Wilma at your old home phone number in San Diego on September 21? Hadn't you already move to New Orleans by then?

[~Johnny~ 27]

Want to hear something even weirder? I double-checked the message -- it said Wilma was with you in New Orleans, but the phone number that was given turned out to be in the SAN DIEGO area code. I Googled the number and it happens to be your old home phone number in San Diego. Why would anyone have wanted Karen to call Wilma at your old home phone number in San Diego on September 21? Hadn't you already move to New Orleans by then?

Yeah I moved to New Orleans in July. This doesn't surprise me at all. I had a few (female) friends messaging me on my phone few months ago asking me why was I being a jerk to them on Yahoo...then I realized that I hadn't changed that password yet. After she left, I immediately changed all the important passwords, banks and credit cards and stuff. Then I changed my phone lines when I moved but forgot about things I don't use much.

Here's another example of an issue that came up last month. I received a notice from a Credit Union in San Diego saying "my" new account has just been established and is effective October 2nd. I jumped all over that credit union for opening an account without my presence. For some reason, my old San Diego address was used in an attempt to open a bank account and the mail was forwarded to me here in New Orleans. I had to close an account that I never opened. To this day I have no idea why an acct under my name would benefit her. I know eventually this will all come to an end.

[Ken y Leidys 20]

Here's another example of an issue that came up last month. I received a notice from a Credit Union in San Diego saying "my" new account has just been established and is effective October 2nd. I jumped all over that credit union for opening an account without my presence. For some reason, my old San Diego address was used in an attempt to open a bank account and the mail was forwarded to me here in New Orleans. I had to close an account that I never opened. To this day I have no idea why an acct under my name would benefit her. I know eventually this will all come to an end.

Johnny,

I have a friend whose credit was damaged by an ex-wife who opened credit accounts in his name, but never paid the monthly balances. He did not receive monthly statements, so although your ex-wife may be suffering financially and wishes she could send $more$ back to the Phillipines, you will have to watch your credit reports, and contact the USCIS or whomever accordingly. It sounds like this woman will not give up!

[Nik+Heather 121]

Isn't there some way to flag your info as a potential fraud target? Or fraud watch or something? I thought there was some way to sort of lock things down so if they run a credit report they know that they need to be more scrupulous about checking ID etc.

[TravellingNomad 12]

Isn't there some way to flag your info as a potential fraud target? Or fraud watch or something? I thought there was some way to sort of lock things down so if they run a credit report they know that they need to be more scrupulous about checking ID etc.

yes there is. one of them is called Lifelock

OP, it sounds like if she was able to open a bank account in your name, she either used a fake SS number of knows your SSN by heart. my suggestion...maybe enroll yourself for Lifelock or some other credit watchdog company similar to it. with Lifelock, (per their website) protects you from any fraudulent activities and will arrange things so that banks/creditors will verify your identity before major purchases or applications of credit. although the service is not free. but i would supposed it will be worth it since there has been a success in another person trying to do an identity theft on you for opening up a bank account under your name.

Edited November 17, 2010 by TravellingNomad

[Dave and Helena 0]

Here's another example of an issue that came up last month. I received a notice from a Credit Union in San Diego saying "my" new account has just been established and is effective October 2nd. I jumped all over that credit union for opening an account without my presence. For some reason, my old San Diego address was used in an attempt to open a bank account and the mail was forwarded to me here in New Orleans. I had to close an account that I never opened. To this day I have no idea why an acct under my name would benefit her. I know eventually this will all come to an end.

Implement a credit freeze ASAP. Here's a link to my "hero", Clark Howard, concerning setting up a credit freeze. http://clarkhoward.com/topics/credit_freeze_states.html

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

yes there is. one of them is called Lifelock

Lifelock actually does it the wrong way. They tell the 3 Credit Reporting Agencies that you are a victim of fraud.

What you need to do is contact the 3 Credit Reporting Agencies (Equifax, Experian & TransUnion) and ask them to add a consumer statement to your Credit Report requesting any Credit Grantor contact you at a specific phone number before they grant you any credit. You can also have them PIN lock your Credit Report so that you will have to provide a PIN to anyone you authorize to pull your Credit.

Since you did have a bank account fraudulently opened in your name you could self-report that you've been a victim of fraud. Heck you could even have her charged with Identity Theft.

[sea-monkey 13]

You need to familiarize yourself with ID theft.

Get a free annual credit report. Just google "free credit report". You get 1 a year.

Also lock your credit for free.

You'll have to go to the websites or call: Equifax, Experian and TransUnion and tell them to put fraud alerts. Then you can also get "credit freeze" from them.

Also get a police report. Yeah yeah, sounds like a pain but do it.

So when you have credit collectors coming after you, you have a police report and they wont bug you while you are at work.

Do it! Don't slack off. You'll suffer if you think no harm was done and slack off.