Child Support/Custody

[NickD 202]

Only way you can get SS benefits for your children is if your husband is either dead or has a severe disability. In regards to having your children awarded to you, first off in this country, you are highly favored since you are a woman, try and get full custody of your kids if you are a man. I did it, but it was one hell of a battle and incompetence of my ex had to be proved in court. Would definitely seek the maximum amount of child support, doesn't make any difference whether he could pay it or not, but would certainly keep him away..

Would try and get proof of his other marriage, a crime in this country that may carry strong evidence with the USCIS, certainly in your divorce case. Found the USCIS to be very lacking in protecting the US citizens against this kind of fraud which in my opinion, is criminal. But would push your civil rights in your divorce case.

[indian guy 13]

I'm not sure I understand your point. What I'm banking on is his inability to fly in that condition. Are you saying that a person with mental illness is somehow favored by USCIS or that my claim of this illness is abuse? His illness is well documented, any supposed abuse he could claim against me is not. If anything, there are police reports against him, not me. He was cared for very much even after the polygamy was discovered. I even continued to pay his phone bill and calling card as he continued to call his other wife. I also paid all of his medical bills (of which there were MANY). I continued to provide him with housing even though I wasn't living with him and I bought/cooked his food. I took him to doctor appointments and sat with him night after night in the psychiatric ward. He was cared for up till the day he left this country. He can state whatever he wants, there's no evidence to back up any abuse charges. Besides, I've already cut myself off from his case by notifying them that I am divorcing him. He's on his own with them already, no need to claim abuse and get me off his case.

I was pointing out that once you are banked the inability and illeness, alien can file WAVA and claim that he is in this condition because of the emotional stress and truma caused by USC. WAVa will be approved withing no time and he will be legal with 10 years GC.

THE POINT IS, .geathering the information and submit the same in court can be used to get immigration benifit, don't forget , you might have filed I 864 too. you are liable support him for ten years. my two cents

[NickD 202]

I was pointing out that once you are banked the inability and illeness, alien can file WAVA and claim that he is in this condition because of the emotional stress and truma caused by USC. WAVa will be approved withing no time and he will be legal with 10 years GC.

THE POINT IS, .geathering the information and submit the same in court can be used to get immigration benifit, don't forget , you might have filed I 864 too. you are liable support him for ten years. my two cents

I also discovered that he picked up a 2nd wife in his home country after our wedding.

Is bigamy a felony?

In: Divorce and Marriage Law, State Laws [Improve] yep in all 50 states

Not easy to get a ten year card with this on your record!

[indian guy 13]

Is bigamy a felony?

In: Divorce and Marriage Law, State Laws [Improve] yep in all 50 states

Not easy to get a ten year card with this on your record!

thats correct but how to prove that? My wife did the same and too, she married religiously when I was in immigration hold, but it was tough to prove that until she did a mistake. Keep in mind that she was living with someone and USCIS didnot taken as ground of WAVA, so I proved thrugh a court system as she did one mistake in panic. if she woud.t have done that, i was unable to prove bigamy.

[Raj_Kaj 0]

Only way you can get SS benefits for your children is if your husband is either dead or has a severe disability. In regards to having your children awarded to you, first off in this country, you are highly favored since you are a woman, try and get full custody of your kids if you are a man. I did it, but it was one hell of a battle and incompetence of my ex had to be proved in court. Would definitely seek the maximum amount of child support, doesn't make any difference whether he could pay it or not, but would certainly keep him away..

Would try and get proof of his other marriage, a crime in this country that may carry strong evidence with the USCIS, certainly in your divorce case. Found the USCIS to be very lacking in protecting the US citizens against this kind of fraud which in my opinion, is criminal. But would push your civil rights in your divorce case.

You're very right NickD I'm sorry things were so hard for you in your custody battle. Thank you for your sound advice. The divorce case is almost over. USCIS is lacking going in both directions of this immigration process. I'm not worried about him claiming abuse. There was none. Unless he can enter the country on an expired green card, chances are more likely than not that he won't be back

[NickD 202]

You're very right NickD I'm sorry things were so hard for you in your custody battle. Thank you for your sound advice. The divorce case is almost over. USCIS is lacking going in both directions of this immigration process. I'm not worried about him claiming abuse. There was none. Unless he can enter the country on an expired green card, chances are more likely than not that he won't be back

Can say from experience that psychotic behavior is about as nebulous as you can get in a court of law, one psychiatrist can say one thing,the other the complete opposite. Got this strange feeling to be a psychiatrist a key requirement is to be psychotic. Wouldn't even bring that up.

Bigamy is an entirely different subject. Only you or his other wife can press charges with the district of attorney, if neither of you don't, he will get off scot free. Would definitely make an issue of this and with that on his record, USCIS will get rid of him so you can live your life in peace. Only fear of the I-864 is if he remains in this country, get rid of him.

[VanessaTony 3,567]

thats correct but how to prove that? My wife did the same and too, she married religiously when I was in immigration hold, but it was tough to prove that until she did a mistake. Keep in mind that she was living with someone and USCIS didnot taken as ground of WAVA, so I proved thrugh a court system as she did one mistake in panic. if she woud.t have done that, i was unable to prove bigamy.

Please be aware it's VAWA not "wava". It stands for "Violence Against Women Act" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Violence_Against_Women_Act

[NickD 202]

Our problem was, even though my ex's spouse had abandoned his daughter some six years before we met and moved to another country, we had to get his permission to bring his biological daughter here. It was up to us to track him down and that we did.

In a similar fashion, Raj_Kaj does have an ally in this other woman that is a spouse to this guy, if she is any kind of person, sure she would be upset if she learns she is not the only one, her testimony would be plenty of proof in a court of law. But she has to be tracked down and learn if she is willing to co-operate.

From the way I read Raj_Kaj's post, her only concern is to get this guy out of her life, and the best way to do this is to get him out of this country. Bigamy is a felony and sufficient to accomplish that goal. The more you add to a case court, the more doors that are opened, and the more complex it becomes. Just keep it simple.

[Raj_Kaj 0]

Our problem was, even though my ex's spouse had abandoned his daughter some six years before we met and moved to another country, we had to get his permission to bring his biological daughter here. It was up to us to track him down and that we did.

In a similar fashion, Raj_Kaj does have an ally in this other woman that is a spouse to this guy, if she is any kind of person, sure she would be upset if she learns she is not the only one, her testimony would be plenty of proof in a court of law. But she has to be tracked down and learn if she is willing to co-operate.

From the way I read Raj_Kaj's post, her only concern is to get this guy out of her life, and the best way to do this is to get him out of this country. Bigamy is a felony and sufficient to accomplish that goal. The more you add to a case court, the more doors that are opened, and the more complex it becomes. Just keep it simple.

The other wife knew about me all along. She was sleeping with him at the time of our wedding. I was the only one in the dark. She had no problem being wife #2, it's part of their culture. They both said they thought I'd "understand" and come to accept living together in one big happy family someday. Of course they didn't bother to tell me for four years. We were married about 2 years when he went back home to visit and married her too, in a traditional ceremony. I can't prove that. The only inkling of evidence I have is his confession in an instant message. That's not much.

As far as I know, they're also no longer together and he has abandoned their child as well as our children.

He left the USA in March 2010 to return to his home country. His conditional GC expired yesterday and he is still there, in his native country. I don't believe he will be back again, unless someone can enter the US on an expired GC.